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  • No its actually quite unselfish if they cant take care of it, otherwise there would probably be a ton more abortions.
  • No... I think that if the teen is not ready for a baby, and cannot look after one, then giving it up for adoption is much better than keeping it and giving it a sub-standard life.
  • No, not if that is what is the best thing for the baby.
  • Nope. I really don't think teens are completely mature enough to handle the responsibilities of a child. Or at least some of the teens I know that have gotten pregnant and had a child. Chances are that if they are giving up that child for adoption there is a chance that child could have a better life in the end. But I guess I just had a not so good experience with a 16 year old teen mother. Who had a kid dumped it off on her parents, didn't have a job, quit school, and partied all the time. While her mom took care of her child. But..I mean every person is different, I know a few teens who could raise a child. So..no its not selfish. Hopefully they just don't repeat the before child time until they are old enough.
  • No i dont think it is selfish, if they are not unable to give the child the care, love ,stability in life it needs, and if the teen is not forced to give up the child for adoption. then no
  • No. It might be the best thing for everyone all the way around.
  • No. It is smart. It is generally better for both parties, not to mention it gives the chance a family who can't have children get to have one.
  • Not at all! I think it would be selfish for the teen who is not ready to keep the baby.
  • Perhaps the best thing for all concerned.
  • Hell to the no. I would want a parent that is mature and capable if I were coming into the world.
  • No. It's an extremely smart thing to do.
  • mANDm...I must truely agree with all the comments here today...This is a very diffucult decision to make, and both the mother and child need a great deal of support...I hope for the best for all.8)
  • No. Abortion is selfish. Keeping a baby you can't care for just because it is yours is selfish. Making adoptive parents happy and giving a child a better life in spite of your love for it is the most generous thing I have ever heard.
  • Not at all its big and tough decision !!! one needs to understand the situation under which a teen gaved the baby for adoption !!!
  • Nope, it's a good decision, unless they have rich parents that will back up her every bad decision, but not everyone has that lifestyle.
  • No I think it is a very couragous decision on her part. Moreso than just having it legally murdered through an abortion.
  • No. It would be selfish for her to keep it and depend on her parents to help support and maintain another child when they looked forward to their own children moving out. Selfish would be to also expect an unprepared father (probably a teen as well)to be capable in dealing with a child he probably doesn't want and his parents. Selfish would be to kill this child before birth even though their are hundreds of people on a waiting list for babies. Selfish would be to ask this kid to wait for real parenting because mom isn't done growing yet and the most you can handle is changing diapers and bottle feeding. Selfish would be to expect society to provide welfare checks and medicare because a teen didn't think that sex potentially may affect more people than just her. The baby, parents, boyfriend, and society who has to pay for her 5 seconds of fun. So no, giving this baby a chance of life and happiness is not selfish at all
  • Adoption is always terrible because now there is another baby thrown into adoption thanks to a stupid mistake by a stupid kid, however considering the alternative, it would be much better than keeping it, if they were stupid enough to get pregnant in the first place how could they be smart enough to raise a child, and it would be a huge burden on the teen's parents. So yeah adoption would be the best choice.
  • No... you could argue that it is the most selfless option in many cases of teenage pregnancy - doing the best for the child, despite the pain at giving up a child.
  • course its a selfish decision, but sometimes people HAVE to make selfish decisions, so im not judging
  • Not at all. If the teen can't provide for the child, it is the most generous thing she can do.
  • it depends on why she is giving up the baby. if it is for the good of the baby to give the baby a better life, then no its not selfish. if its just because the teen doesn't want to be bothered and will continue her ways then yes, it is selfish. but better the teen be selfish as long as the baby has a better life.
  • NO. we are in a situation of a teenager giving up her child 2 times for adoption and both times taking him back, all within 4 months (the child is 7 months old). She has no job, not in school, lives with her dad who has no job and has bi-polar dissorder. She will not be able to properly care for him. She is still a teenager and on facebook, she states she is 18 - she's too young. http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/profile.php?id=1104114630
  • No as long as they have considered all the options. Most adoptions agencies like the one listed below provide counseling on how best to decide. http://www.sunriseadoption.com/birth_parents/
  • Honestly I do not think it's selfish. A child needs alot love and attention and most teenagers are not emotionally ready to give a child everything and still discover themself's. I was a teenage parent but if I didn't have my parents step in and practically raise my chid for me I do not think we would have made it. +4
  • i think it would be selfish if they didnt give their child up for adoption.

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