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by Occams Electric Razor on August 16th, 2009

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Love is not experienced the same by everyone. How do you experience love?: Eros? Ludus? Storge? Agape? Mania? Pragma? Or a combination? (further expl. in 1st answer)

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  • by Been cheated on August 16th, 2009

    Been cheated

    thank you Occams Electric Razor for you explaination of the different types of love, from your explaination i would say i was Eros

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  • by Occams Electric Razor on August 16th, 2009

    Occams Electric Razor

    Not everyone experiences love in exactly the same manner.

    Research has shown that love comes in several different forms or styles .For the most part, people experience love as a blend of two or three of the styles listed below. Essentially, people have different notions of what it means to "be in love."

    Styles of Love:
    Eros – some people experience love with a lot of passion, intimacy and intensity. Love based on Eros has a strong sexual and emotional component. People who experience love this way want to be emotionally and physically close to their romantic partners and they tend to idealize love. Such love is marked by passion as well as compassion (kindness and consideration). Eros is best viewed as romantic, passionate love - the type of love that creates excitement at the beginning of a new relationship.

    Ludus – some people experience love as a game to be played with other people’s emotions. The goal or desire is to gain control over a partner through manipulation. People who experience love as Ludus like to have multiple love interests where they are in complete control. Lying, cheating and deception are common for people who experience love as Ludus – it’s all part of the game. For people who experience love as Ludus, it is satisfying to outwit a partner and exploit his or her weak spots (see, husband plays with my heart, who is likely to cheat, lovefraud).

    Storge – some people experience love as a gradual and slow process. When love is based on Storge, getting to know someone comes before having intense feelings for that person. Love based on Storge takes time, it requires genuine liking and understanding of a partner, and it develops slowly over time. Love based on Storge is often compared to the love that one has for a friend. In fact, people who experience love as Storge often fall in love with their friends.

    Agape – some people experience love as caregiving. Love is the overwhelming desire to want to take care of a partner - a parental or nurturing type of love. Love based on Agape is attentive, caring, compassionate and kind - a more altruistic or selfless type of love.

    Mania – some people experience love as being out of control. Love is an overwhelming experience; it turns one’s life upside down and it results in a complete loss of one’s identity. Love based on Mania is crazy, impulsive and needy. People who experience love as Mania fall in love quickly, but their love tends to consume them. Love experienced as Mania also tends to burnout before it gets the chance to mature. Such love is often marked by extreme delusions, feelings of being out of control, rash decisions, and vulnerability. People who experience love as Mania are easily taken advantage of by people who experience love as Ludus.

    Pragma – some people take a practical approach to love. Love is not crazy, intense, or out of control. Love is based on common sense and reason. People who experience love as Pragma tend to pick a suitable mate the way most other people make serious life decisions: picking a partner is based on careful consideration and reason. Practical concerns underlie this type of love.

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  • by Swami_Rick on November 4th, 2010

    Swami_Rick

    GEEZ!! More novels !!
    How do I experience love?..............IN ECSTASY.

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  • by evans.milisi on November 4th, 2010

    evans.milisi

    ok looking at this question, I don't know about Ludus, Mania, Pragma or combination.
    but I know of the 4 types of love that exist in the Bible. that is Agape, Storge, Philio or Philia and Eros.
    In my understand, I will explain what Agape, Storge, Philio or Philia and Eros.

    Agape is the love of God. it is the unconditional love, it is the love that does not condemn, but builds and heals. In the Bible (Romans 5: 8; John 3:16) we understand that God demostrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. and these other three types of Love must be built on this love because we ought to love our neighbors.
    John 3:16-36 (New International Version)
    16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. 18 Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because they have not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son. 19 This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but people loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil. 20 Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. 21 But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God.

    Storge is the love that exist within family memebers, people who don't experience this love usaualy have problems with how they handle their families. In this love a child is free to be friends with parents and to open up for every thing that they mighty not understand in life. children don't need materials things but need the love of parents and brothers and sisters.

    Philio or Philia is a brotherly or friendly love. this is the love that can be shared to our friends. everyone of us needs a friend, needs someone to talk too. someone you can have fun with probably going out for games and telling stories. this love make one to feel that they are important in the society and they are recognised.

    Eros is an intimacy Love you have for an opposite sex whom you probably want to spent the rest of your life with. it involves a strong sexual and emotional component. In this Love there is passion, compassion, kindness, sacrifice and consideration Eros creates excitement at the beginning of a new relationship.

    every person need to experience these 4 types of love to be happy in life.

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