I would say , thats not very nice or thats not very polite, and immediately change the subject. Doesnt matter what you change it to. just something that requires an answer, like do you think it is going to rain.Are you going shopping etc etc. If she asks what you meant, say it again then repeat your question. If she protests, just say "ididnt think it was nice / polite. but we will agree to differ. Dont get into a discussion.If she persists, find an excuse to leave, "gosh, I forgot I promised to get some shopping etc etc. If you dont make a big deal out of it but always remain calm and leave if you have to. she will get the point. Never let her be sure you are leaving because of what she said.

She is manipulating you. You do have a right to be offended by her cruel words. If you don't live with her, then tell her that you don't deserve to be spoken to that way, and since she can't be polite, you will have to end the visit. If you do live with her, tell her that her words hurt your feeling and you do not want her to talk to you that way any longer. Then change the subject. If she persists, ignore the comments or learn to laugh at them. She will relent when she sees that she can't get a reaction from you.

thanks...I agree and I been trying to change the subject but she just comes up with new things everyday, she is bored I think.

Every time she does, call her on it. Be nice, but don't cave in to her nonsense. She is very dysfunctional but in her own sick way she is teaching you a valuable lesson on how not to behave. It's not you. She is a petty tyrant and a bully and these people are hard to teach new tricks.

Fuck her sideways? If that fails, and she persists. Try anal. :)

Sounds to me like your mom has other problems in her life and she is taking it out on you unfortunately. You could possibly try to talk to her about how you feel when everything is going good with her, instead of when she is already upset. If she doesn't listen to you then, you may have a lost cause on your hands. Good luck!

move out and away as soon as,..she isnt going to change,...if you dont your confidance will dissappear,and shell have you right where she wants you

There's usually a period between the ages of 15 and 19 (it might be shorter or it might be longer) where parents don't understand kids and kids don't understand parents. Not much you can say or do is going to avoid inevitable conflicts. The only thing that works for real it to wait until you outgrow this period and then you can be good friends with your mom for the rest of your life. What could make this a little easier is if you could talk to your mom when she is not yelling at you and try to make an arrangement to be more understanding of each other. She doesn't understand why you are doing the things you do or asking for the things you ask for. And you probably don't realize that the way she is acting is just part of being a parent. Maybe her intentions are good, but she just doesn't do a good job of pulling it off because she is inexperienced. Many times parents say the wrong things when they don't mean to and then they feel bad about it, and if they would have had time to think through the consequences, they might never have said what they did. Try to understand each other's feelings the best you can, and do everything you can to avoid conflict. If you know about certain things you do that sets her off, try to change your ways and not do those things. Things should get better in a few years.

Try to get the most education you can so you can get out as soon as possible.Until then try to ignor her,and remember the mean things she says are not true....Mine always wanted to cut my hair.Saying it was "stringy and looks terrible"But most everyone else said it was very pretty and shinny,even at the beauty salon she took me to, to cut off the ponytail..I still had long hair because they moved the band to lieave it long.They thought she just wanted a ponytail to save.T had hair lond enough to get both.She is still about the same,but we get along o.k. at holidays,etc.I just try to ignore the bad stuff.