Leave him alone. If he tries anything with you, he can go to jail for statutory rape. Concentrate on your schoolwork, activities, friends and boys your own age. If you two can just be friends, fine. If the relationship is meant to be and he really cares about you, he'll wait until you're of legal age to start any kind of adult relationship.

It's not wrong -- you feel what you feel. However, at your age four years is a lot of difference. Don't pursue him. Look around for a nice guy closer to your age. You may avoid hurt and heartbreak.

Ask yourself why he's dating someone who is 4 if you count all the way 14 15 16 17 18 about 5 years younger than himself. there is a reason. i know my sister is 16 she was talking to a 21 yr old and i was ready to beat his ass. theres usually a reason and i'd think it was because anyone their age wouldn't touch em with a 10 foot pole. i'd say leave him

i think at 14 you should stop saying you're in love. you don't know what love is yet. i thought i did too at 14 but trust me, you don't. leave that guy alone. don't try to grow up too fast & miss out on childhood. you might regret it later in life. just focus on school & having fun. find a boy your own age if you're that into dating right now.

It's okay to have a crush on an older guy, but I wouldn't encourage him in any way. You'd be playing with fire, and at age 14, you are also known as "jail bait".....

As the father of two now grown up women let me give you a bit of strait up advice - keep your love for him platonic and be a girl for a while longer...at 14 your most likely not ready for an adult relationship. Wait a few more years dear, you will thank me later for the advice I'm giving you now.

stay young... enjoy life and don't worry about relationships right now.

Not wrong to be "in love", just against the law for him to act on it sexually. What you will probably end up doing is waiting for him to get out of jail, for statuatory rape.

Preaching is pointless. But it's not love. I suggest You don't engage in sex with Him, for Your and His good. If You get so stupid to do so, learn about contraception, please.

Nothing wrong just a few thing: 1.pls AVOID sex until ur 18 2.Don't invest too much feeling for him ur still 14 and lot to do with ur life 3.if you still want to see him be his friend for while NOTHING MORE!!, in time u'll see its just a temporary crush

Do you really want to see him in jail for many years because you both did something stupid? If you care at all for this person, then accept that you can be no more than his friend.

For is own good, wait few years, because this relationship could be a storm of problems for him and you.

drop out and use drugs, that way you have no future or education im sure thats what he wants- WAKE THE FUCK UP!

First off all you posted this question from the wrong category.This is not a mature age relationship.It is for people over 45.You should have posted this from 'One of The Parties Under 18'.As for the answer for your question,he can be sent to jail for statutory rape.If you both really love each other,than I reccomend dating but not having sex until you reach the age of consent set by your state.

If you both are sexually active he can be arrested for statory rape. You are still a minor and the age of consent in most states is 18 unless you live down south where it is lower in sme states. The most important thing is that he is too old for you now.

Your fourteen and I'm sure any guy who is eighteen and in the right statee of mind wouldn't go out with someone who is fourteen. A guy who would go out with someoen that young would just be using them because it is too young to have an adult relationship with, and it wouldn't last anyways. You don't really wanna get this guy in trouble because someone I know was put away for going out with a girl who was sixteen, a guy should know that it's really not worth it. I know it'd be nice to go out with someone when your that young but just worrie about other things like scool and friends and going out the movies and things like that.

Its fine :D the way i think of it is if you wer 20 and he was 24 would anyone think twice? no ur 14 hes 18 same age gap, so its all cool :) x and im aware that this doesnt apply to all situations but ur both aware of whats going on and your not stupid :)

You don't have to do anything. As of yet neither of you have done anything wrong. There are a lot of people who are going to say that you don't know what love is and that he's going to go to jail and stuff, but neither of those statemenst are necessarily true. If you (not other people, but you) think it's wrong, then it's wrong. Otherwise I don't see a problem. I would definitely suggest waiting before taking things too far, but in the end it's your decision.

I guess it depends on what you mean by involved. there's not that much of an age difference, but the law might not see it that way.

Know that it won't happen until you are 18 yourself. It is easy to be infatuated with someone, especially someone older and more masculine, just don't get into a situation where you get hurt or he does.

It isn't love just a stupid crush. So do nothing.

Hey, there is an 18 year old guy asking the same thing about a 14 year old girl. Think on this formula: divide the older age in half and add seven. That is about the youngest anyone should date. You are looking at a huge difference in interests and experiences. When he is 28 and you are 24, it is the same 4 years difference, but it is a different set of circumstances.

Enjoy your teenage years. You only get to go through them once. If this guy honestly Loves you, he will wait until you are of legal age to have a relationship with you. If he is pushing you to do something you do not feel is right, then it's best to end whatever it is you two have and go back to enjoying your teen years. In 4 years you may be attracted to and in Love with someone else. Many things can change in that time.

Your question implies you already know what to do... ...or more correctly, what NOT to do BUT you're doing what you WANT to do REGARDLESS. So... ...what do you want from us?

Pay attention to your father's rules and choices. He knows you and knows what is best for you.

Stop going out with him; it's wrong, it's unhealthy, it could put him in jail.

You listen to your dad, an 18 yr old has no business messing around with an 14 yr old.

You can grow up and stop asking the same question. He is too old for you. Be a kid for awhile and stop trying to be too old.

well i am sorry if i am askin the same question i am new to this.

Ok; You had best be CAREFUL as if your dad is like me ; I'd have the 18 year old LOCKED UP if he "Touched" you .... That would guarantee him about 10 -15 years in PRISON ... is it worth it ? Ask the 18 Year old ...

There's probably a reason why your father does not approve. Think about that. Of course, it's entirely possible that you and this 18 year old are perfect for each other, and his intentions are entirely innocent. However, this is not probable. It's far more likely that he is either a) a creep who can't get girls his own age, or b) trying to get into your pants.

I would say date someone your own age. A lot changes in the 4 years between 14 and 18. He's going to have completely differant goals than you. If 4 years doesn't seem like a lot think of it this way it's more than 1/4 of your life so far. If it's a matter of some love that trancends conventional wisdom, then he'll still be there when you're 18 and he's 22 and the age gap isn't such a big deal.

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It may seem to you that a lot of adults don't remember what it was like to be 14. I remember clearly what it was like to be 14 and how easily a crush can be confused for love. He makes you feel important because someone his age is paying you attention. His feelings may be genuine but in a few years you will look back and wonder why where you in a rush to be in a relationship. Right now you are all hormones. Your body is changing and you feel you should be in a rush to be a woman and treated as such. Let me tell you there is no glory in being a woman. Enjoy being a child and doing child like things. The next four years will zoom by and your childhood will be over forever and you will be expected to be an adult. Luckly although I also had a crush at 14 I also realized the things I would have to give up. Like my childhood. You can only be an adult or a child. Not both. Your teen years are for transition but you are just in the beginning. This 18 year old is at the end and will either be disappointed with you in the end because you are more child than adult, and you will resent him, or you will be forced into adulthood and resent him for your lost childhood. Either way no good. Every girl I ever knew who rushed into adulthood, always ended up wishing they slowed things down and enjoyed their youth. Listen to your dad. I know that isn't what you want to hear but its the truth. Good Luck

At 14 yr totally unprepared emotionally to be in that kind of a relationship. If yu thought yu were ready yu wldn't be asking! Its hard at 14 to hv the love + self respect for yourself that yu need to walk away from situations like this. Sex isn't love its a harsh lesson we all hv to learn. Yr looking for love in the wrong place.Its not love its hormones + lust,explosive combination! Hold out until yr old enough to handle all the crap suff + great stuff that comes with sex + relationships + yu'll do so much better + enjoy it so much more. Yu say yu know its wrong, so listen to that + trust yr own gut instincts, don't be pressurised - any guy who is worth yr time wld want yu to be safe, happy + not having to cope with this at yr age. Leave him well alone sweetie + enjoy being 14, what I wldn't give to be 14 again!! Yu hv yr whole life ahead of yu - enjoy! xx

get used to seeing him in prison garb.

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It's not wrong to be in love, but for his sake you should stay away from him if you don't want him to get into trouble -- the kind of trouble that could land him in prison.

To be in love is not wrong. But you have to be very careful about what you do about this love. Has he approached you or shown interest as well?

If your truly in love with this man, then you need to ask to be his gf first. Then you need to ask permission from your parents to date him. At first you might say WHY SHOULD I?! but you have to remember that being involved with someone at the age of 18 can be a crime if your younger then 18. So your parents, if they overreact, could charge him a unbelievable fine and he could SERIOUSLY go to jail. Be very careful, im in a situation almost exactley like that. ha ha best of luck ^_^