I dont have a cell phone, no car, im 22 yrs old, in college. but i dont stay with my parents, i live with my friend and his grandma. i dont have a job, and cant find one. i feel lost, very very confused, and ALONE. what should i do..

usually there is a place at college/university that you can go to talk to a councillor, maybe you should check in with student services

Well ... if you had a cell phone, a car, a job and your own place, you'd still be alone, wouldn't you? And that wouldn't address the feelings of being lost and confused. Actually, if you live with your friend and his grandmother, then you're not even really alone, are you?

As far as "can't find a job", as long as you think that way you will be correct: if you think you can't, then by gosh you really can't. Take a win on that.

Now change your mind and believe that you CAN find a job, and be right about that, too. Okay, with this economy and your lack of experience, it probably won't be your dream job, the one you build a career on. But you CAN find a job, if you just decide to "get a job" for now. Once you have that, then you'll be able at least to orient around that and resolve some of the feelings of being lost and confused ... while you look for more friends, and perhaps a better job.

Hang in there, it gets better. I'm with Patriot in the advice to find a good church. There are some good ones out there, and if you don't just warm a pew on Sunday, but get involved, you can end up deeply embedded in a loving community that can really help with the loneliness. Good churches offer service opportunities that give you a chance to be needed and valued to others. My church has so many outreach opportunities that it is hard not to be involved. I'm spending two hours tomorrow afternoon helping to serve lunches to the homeless at the Salvation Army. Many churches are full of loving people that will be happy to pick you up and take you along if you don't have a car. All you have to do is reach out to them.

You don't need to have a cell phone or a car to have a life. We all had full lives twenty years ago when car phones first started coming out. Cell phones haven't been around that long. And people had full lives without cars too. But you have to make an effort to get out there. There is probably a church within walking distance of you, maybe more than one. If you get in there and meet people, one of them may have a job that needs filling too, or the church might. Good church secretaries are hard to find.

Whatever you do, don't give up. This is a very temporary place in your life. Leaving home and striking out on your own is tough for everyone. But you get through it and you learn and grow. Pretty soon this will all be behind you. One of these days, the economy is going to pick up again. These downturns happen over and over and we don't learn from them, but they do end. And when it does, we'll all pick up and go on. This is nothing to what my grandparents generation went through: ten years of the Great Depression followed by five years of the WWII. Times are tough, but I'm not seeing Hoovervilles in city parks yet. We're all still eating. I haven't heard of kids fainting in school yet, because it wasn't their turn to eat today. But that doesn't mean times aren't tough. And that doesn't mean that you don't need to get somewhere where your soul can be nourished to give you the strength to get through.

When you feel lost and alone, try volunteering with any local charitable organization. Helping those who are really and truly alone will make you realize how truly blessed you are. You have a great future. You are making strides towards it. You HAVE a friend and his grandma is your friend. Volunteer work also looks good on a resume, it can count just like job experience.

ask Jesus to come into your life right now Just say this prayer:Lord Jesus, I believe you died on the cross for my sins come into my life and take this loneliness away and bless me with a Job. Find a Good church non-denominational