Is it true abusers enjoy to give other people pain? That they deliberately do it just to see you suffer? Or do they abuse becuz they are insecure? What causes them to hurt others?
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in my opinion, their not born like that, but raised. they were possibly raised in such a way that they feel a numbness when they abuse another being
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No not all people who abuse other people enjoy it. Some just lose their temper and chose not to control it and have outbreaks on people. Others think that they are doing the right thing by putting that person in their place. Also children who grow up in an abusive home can either grow up to be in another abusive relationship or become abusive to others them self. Yes some people DO enjoy hurting others but not all of them do. My father had a very bad temper and it has taken him alot of years to battle it. He is now a great father and controls his anger. There is no excuse for abusing someone else.
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I think a lot of contolling abusers are insecure...but some abusers are probably the sadistic type who like to see people suffer and get a kick out of it.
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Most abusers don't do it through the enjoyment of hurting you but because they are insecure and likely are unable to communicate very well resulting in violent outbursts due to their fustrations. This does not excuse their behaviour in any way, if they genuinely have no control over it they ought to seek help.
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I don't know,but I'm still trying to figure that mind boggler out for myself.I can't understand why someone would want to hurt anyone else just to see them suffer,but I'm pretty sure that it's probaly a sadistic feddish.I've known some.*+++++*
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Its because they feel they have the right to control others.
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It's about power not pain. They may enjoy the rush it gives them. They are not happy people though they wouldn't hurt others if they were.
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No so much in men, but in female abusers, I would say yes. That's the pattern I often hear about from female police officers, who perform the majority of arrests on female abusers.
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In most abuse cases its more a control issue that is at the root of the problem. It can stem from a person that was raised in the same enviorment and it also can come from someone who just gets off by being in control of who they deam to be a sub. Hopefully anyone who ever feels the need to control or abuse will go for help before they hurt someone they could possibly love.
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Being abused as a boy I would clearly say that the abuisers want to see you suffer. As more as you suffer, the more they have their kick and pleasure. Begging for pardon or mercy makes them just more furious and things worse. I remember very well the delighted faces of some of my lady teachers when they could give some of us boys a severe flogging and we could almost foresee when they needed a new kick. You could almost smell when they were horny and looking for a suitable victim for their pleasures. I don't think thatbthey were insecure. They rather seemed to me extremely dominant and they encouraged elder girls at my boarding school to die the same to us boys by giving them privileges. I never came behind it why they enjoyed to hurt and humiliate others. I only remember that they were obviously really relieved when they had finished their floggings. I could see it at their faces. Perhaps they had an orgasm but I don't know.
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Abusers do not abuse just to see you suffer. They abuse because they have no other psychological means of venting their anger. You just happen to be the one that allows them to take it out on you. Let's say a boy is abused by one of his parents. Obviously he has been scared of them all of his life. He can't take out his rage on them, he's still scared of them. However, if he is married, especially to a meek person, it becomes easy to take out his rage on a person who is not going to fight back. I have lived my life with abusive people and each and every one of them have been angry about some other aspect of their lives. I was just the easy target. That's why so many women believe it when an abuser tells them everything is their fault.
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Abusers don't get realize what they do.They were abused somehow in there life.They are the ones who hurt the most.Yes,they are insecure and love to make others miserable like them.If you want to help someone like that,listen to them and try to reason with them to seek counseling.
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POWER, they feed on weakness! That's why they always tell you how stupid you are and that no one would have you. The more you listen, the weaker you become, until they have total power.
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Cocktail this is true. Some people are so insecure they enjoy hurting others. The good think about being over Forty is I do not care anymore. I laugh in their faces and they are so disappointed.
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