My child rebelled at age 14 and got pregnant, now she is twenty and she won't accept responsibilty for her 4 year old daughter. She says she is tired of being tied down. How can help her see that her child comes before her wants and need
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Threaten to tell the authorities that's she's neglecting her child if she doesn't accept responsibility.
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I'm sorry, but your daughter is a real piece of work. You need to file for guardianship/custody of the grandchild and basically cut your daughter off. I'm guessing there are drugs or alcohol involved? Because no mother in their right mind would act this way otherwise. You need to do what is best for your granddaughter at this point. If you daughter is to come back around I would require clean UA's, therapy, parenting classes, etc. first.
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I'm so sorry, your situation is heartbreaking. Your daughter doesn't seem to understand that a mother puts her children first, and she needs to take responsibility for her actions at 14. I suspect you have had many harrowing talks with her to no avail, so at this point you must think about the best plan for your grandchild. File for custody or guardianship (and if this is an appropriate option for you, bring the child's father into the picture) so that your granddaughter can start living a happy, robust childhood with someone who wants to care for her.
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if she hasn't grown up by now and matured, then i seriously doubt she will listen to anything you have to say. i feel sorry for the child. if she is neglecting the child, you need to report her. you can always offer to raise the child yourself. i am sure that is not what you want, but someone has to help this child live a normal life.
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