How do you deal with your boyfriend having really close girl friends that he sees/speaks to regularly?
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eye_spy
ANSWERS: 9
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I don't have a boyfriend.
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If he is just speaking with them then no harm done I suppose. If it's more than that, then maybe it's time to back off and find yourself a nice guy who'll devote his time to you.
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Dump him and find somebody more respectful toward you.
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I'm currently having trust issues and I certainly had them with my ex. I was seriously paranoid with my ex and made him not see his friends that were girls. I look back now and think what an effing bitch I was to do that! The fact of the matter is that you are probably just being paranoid (as am I) and we just need to talk about these kind of things and be smart about it! If you had really good friends that were guys would and you knew that you were just friends, would you want him to be paranoid? or tell you not to be friends with them anymore?
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50% of the population are of the opposite gender. If you don't trust him, ditch him. If he is open and honest and includes you in his friendships ie introduces you etc, then no problem. If he is open then he is hiding nothing. You will be a great asset to him if you accept him as he is and vice versa. Trust is the only thing you need and perhaps a little confidence.
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It's a sticky situation. My boyfriend tends to have more girl friends than guy friends which has always bothered me. But he is very open with me about what they talk about etc. He doesn't really hang out with them that often. You just have to have that trust that nothing is going to happen. If you love your S/O, you should be able to know that they aren't going to cross that line. +4
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We went through similar road-blocks in my relationship. He was talking on the phone with a woman he worked with SERVERAL times a day for extended periods of time. Then, when I asked him who that person was he was talking to so much, he lied and said "a guy from work". But, it turned out to be a woman who has major "relationship and life" issues that she was confiding in him about. I wasn't bothered so much by the fact that it was a woman, but more so by the fact that he lied about it. He felt that he has to, because he assumed I would react badly. Well, the reaction came from the lie... not the fact that he was talking to a woman. THAT is the problem, lying. I think if a boyfriend has close female friends that were there before you, and that you know... there is nothing to worry about. BUT, I think if he LIES about them and never tries to introduce you or anything... there is a problem, and you either have to fix the communication and/or trust issues or leave him alone.
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Ask if you can meet them. If he's really friends with them he will have no trouble with you meeting them.
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im friends with his friends...we mostly hae mutual friends other then that we dont associate w ppl that make the other uncomfortable
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