What's the worst thing someone has/could have said to "comfort" you during a break up?
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Vesper
ANSWERS: 100
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"There there, big boy, is that a banana in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?"... then again, I don't think I'd mind that too much. Bananas are pretty big.
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it always sucks when someone says "there's so many other girls out there, let's go look for some tonight!" That's usually the last thing you feel like doing.
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A couple days ago, my exboyfriend told me that he's cheated on every girlfriend and not to take it personally. Yeah, ok. I won't be taking that personally at all.
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Has said; "Hey, look on the bright side, she was ugly anyway." Could say; "Well, she didn't really mean *that* much to you, did she?"
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"Oh, nevermind, I had sex with [him/her] too, and it wasn't that great." It's never happened to me, but I hope I would laugh if it did!
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It's not you, it's me. When in reality it is them but they don't want to own up to it.
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He was no good for you...youll find someone better.
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I absolutely hate hearing "There's other fish in the sea"
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When i broke up, the guy immediately got married to someone else...and then a lady i knew ( and who knew about my breakup) called me and told me that this couple went on their honeymoon to the Bahamas...just for my information.
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ur a whore get over it
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"You need to go out and have a one night stand. The best way to over someone is to get under someone."
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I heard "It'll get better" so many times after my husband left me and our 3 children, I could have screamed when it started to leave people's mouths. I actually told someone, "Yeah, no sh*t it'll eventually get better. It'll either get better or I'll die, and I don't feel like dying today." It's such a mundane thing to say to someone who's had their heart ripped out. "I'm sorry" would be a more heartfelt statement.
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"Just get over it. He/She's not worth your time/tears." Meant to be supportive, but really just sends the message that a) I want you to shut up, b) you are weak or dumb in some way for being upset about it and c) it's ridiculous that you're still not over it. Not helpful at all.
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It's ok, Im sure your gas problem will get better before the next relationship.
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Plenty more fish in the sea!
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"so how longs it gunna take for u to get over this?"
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'Well, that's good. You're not really a lesbian after all.' - My mother, after I broke up with my girlfriend of eighteen months. (NB, I am bisexual, but that sort of comment really didn't help at all). Also, any statement where it is implied that it is the person who is being comforted's fault (forgive me, I'm tired) is really bad - such as 'Well, if you'd taken him to bed more often, he wouldn't have needed to see other girls' - that is, of course, unless it is the person's fault, if they are the cheater instead.
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There's plenty more fish in the sea , i don't go out with trouts.
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When someone tells you "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger"....so I should be happy I am still alive with a broken heart?????? What do they mean when they say this???? And usually its the people who are happily married that say this. I dated a guy for 81/2 years and out of the blue he wanted to break up with me. I was DEVASTATED!! He said he did not want to get married ever again and it was not fair to me because he wanted to see me happy and he knew finding someone who actually wanted to get married would make me happy. BTW...2 years after we break up he marries someone else! Hence I am still alive...so you could say it did make me stronger...HA
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"That went on way longer than it should have!"
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"i told you so" or "i knew it the moment he/she was checking me out when u introduced your new partner that they were a skank" some where on those lines of.....i knew it from the beginning that it wasnt going anywhere!!!! and get over it he/she isnt worht ur tears!!!! those comments sux
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"you can do better" -- im obviously upset that the guy dumped me, if i can do better, why couldn't i handle him?
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Here one that I just got, "Well, atleast you got out before you actually loved him"
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"damn, we thought you'd have broken up after a few months," 2 friends of mine bet on how long my last relationship (18 months and broke up b/c of univ. studies) would last. apparently they did this for my last one too. needless to say they're not my friends anymore.
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"You won't even rememebr him in ten years". (NOOOOOO!!!! That's FOREVER!!!!!) - to a teenager anyways. hahahaha...wish I could rememebr who the guy was my mom said that about. ;)
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"it's not you, it's me " yeah then i guess your just %*#$^!( in the head arent you.
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not to me, but to a friend: "what you need is a prostitute".... really?
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Worse things happen at sea.
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"She didn't deserve you anyway, dude. I mean she slept with the entire office while she was dating you." Nice. Thanks. Die.
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"Don't worry - it'll get better...Its not anyones fault - we just didn't get to the point where I needed us to be".... Said to me after a nine year relationship suddenly and abruptly came crashing down...
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i hate hearing 'everything happens for a reason.' usually we don't want to hear anything..we just need somebody to shut up and listen for a minute. so usually anything somebody says is not going to make you feel better.
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I like it when my friends tell me that I can do better... Then I think hmmm is that what they where thinking when I was dating that guy... Or the "There is other fish in the sea"... I hate that.
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Its been 2 and half years for me and I still can't figure out how to get rid of the pain and resentment. I've tried and sometimes its easier, but other times I fall into a heap. He's moved on and is happy with his new GF. His line for all the hurt he caused me was "I never loved you anyway". Yeah thanks for that hey, all better. So how do you really get over someone? Does anyone really have an answer to that?
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1. Plenty more fish (when you only want one fish) 2. You turned in a real plank with her 3. You're better off (what!? better off feeling like crap!?) 4. Having people trying to set you up with someone else - WRONG! 5. You have more money now (to drink, you mean!?)
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I really hate it when my friends smile smugly and say things like "I told you he was bad from the start" or "he was just a jerk" (regardless of whether he was or not) and you can tell they're just so happy that its over, and hated him the whole time.....it's like, dude, really! Just because we broke up does not make any of your stupid assumptions or grudges true, and does not mean I hate him, at all! It just seems so immature. I am dealing with this horrible thing right now, and I need your help. Also, my mom said to me once "Well you better have at least gotten inspiration for a whole lot of angsty poetry form this whole thing..." and I just laughed it off, It's my mom, whatever, but I was just reminded of that, it could have really gotten me upset if it was a different circumstance. :)
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' o she dumped ya?... well that sucks. say you wanna watch some tv?' no fuck off!
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"You can still see him at work." Why would I want to do that when I just dumped him?
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Deal with it!! :( you werent matched anyway!
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"ohh so hes single now?" ( actually happened :( )
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i realy did not like the jerk anyway, and are you over that guy yet?? , we were more or less together for over 6 years and ther is no way in hell that lee will ever be just that guy , i will always remember lee .
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"So, your free for a quickie?"
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My husband of over 20 years left me and I was devastated.I tried to talk to his Mum as he had been in contact with her.All she said to me was "well you'll be okay you've got your family." My kids are grown and scattered over the country, my family was my husband!!And you'd think after 20+ years I'd be part of her family too.Wouldn't you?
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he said i want more time with my friends i love u but i just want time with my friends... and then accused me of cheating on him the hole time i was with him even though i was with him almost everyday and he new where i was and with who
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I rather date your brother.
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1. You're better off 2. There's plenty of fish in the sea 3. You will find someone better 4. LET IT GO, MOVE ON ALREADY 5. He's not worth it 6. He is better off gay
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"don't worry, he'll come back." even if he does, i don't want to think about it right now. it'll just confuse me more.
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when my boyfren broke up with me he told me will remain frenz and yet he didn't mean what he said...it sickz.!
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"Well, it's okay, because you were just using him, right?" No. I wasn't. Arsehole.
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well, i mean, he only cheated on you with one girl... idk why they thought that would make me feel better.... at all
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I never liked her anyway - meaning that the whole time we were together I was being lied to, basically admitting they lie to your face to appease you.
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My best friend looked at me after my breakup and said "I'm sorry, I bet you hate me?" I said "why would I hate you?" She then replied "because I have two men, my boyfriend and my husband, and you don't even have ONE anymore!"
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Don't worry about him/her. Their mind was ravaged by syphilis anyway.
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i need to work on my marriage. my wife's a good person.
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I broke up with my boy six days ago because I found out that he's been lying to me like crazy. Three days ago, I found out that he was already hooking up and dating another chick, though he'd been telling me how sorry he was, how he would do anything to get back with me. I brought up his new girl. His answer, "When I fucked her, all I could see was your face." Yeah, that totally makes everything okay. *rolls eyes*
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"There is plenty of fish in the sea". I'd think, "Yeah. For her too".
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"i love you" both from break-upee and mutual friend
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"It can't get an worse" It's so cliche it kills me sometimes!
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I think I saw her in a porno once.
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"It's not so bad. You'll be seeing a lot of her, still. She comes into the bar every night looking for somebody to go home with. Maybe you'll get lucky some night."
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"I'm still in love with her"... probably the worst thing I have heard in a long time. He crushed my heart instantly.
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he has a brother, best thing I wanted to get with him, or good he back in the game
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You're perfect and he doesn't deserve you.
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Me and my girlfriend of five months broke up two days ago, and my female roommate tells me "How much of a piece of shit she was" and that I can do better. I feel all better now.
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'Plenty of fish in the sea'
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While I was freaking out, my mom and dad really didn't say anything. I guess the worst is they still haven't said anything.
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One guy said "wanna do it to take your mind off from him?" Then he had a split lip for some reason...
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Youl be happier with someone else, i cant make you happy anymore and i dont want to hurt you
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Youv too good for me,what a cope out that line is!!!!
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" Yes, I think that there is still hope for us, I just need some time and space". In other words, he was telling me; No there is no hope, but I'll keep telling you that to keep you around incase I need a filler to the void. That way I can do what I want when I want and you'll keep hanging on.
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i know how you feel! ugh i hate that cause most the time they really don't!
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I have had people tell me that I deserve better and that any guy is stupid who breaks up with me and on and on. I've been fed the line that there is more fish in the sea. I've been fed the line that they will come back to me eventually and on and on. I don't even know what the worst thing is. I'm not sure it's the actual words that are the worst. I think it's more of the intentions behind them. Oh, don't you love the people who tell you your boyfriend is ugly and then they are the first ones to want him after the two of you break up........ ;)
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"In his defense, they weren't ALL prostitutes"....I kid u not!
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You're overreacting. Yeah, so it's perfectly normal to walk away perfectly untouched if he was your true love?
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I recently got dumped...and the worse was hearing him say "it's not you, it's me" plus "i'm sorry" and "i love you to pieces, i'm just not ready for a relationship...i still see you in my future".
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well lieing and saying that he wonts to be singel and i knew it was a lie love, eddie penntie
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My last boyfriend told me that "I'll find someone someday". Yeah sure, how does he know that?
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The standard answers above are so funny! My Favorite - There are more fish in the sea. As if you care about any of them. You should have been more patient and stuck it out with him. (I'm sorry that sounds like settling to me and hey aren't you my family - why the hell are you sticking up for him?) You should dust yourself off and put yourself out there again. (Last thing on earth you feel like doing)
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"Maybe things could work out down the road, who knows what will happen" by her because all it does is make it even harder to want to/need to move on.
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Everything ... No matter what they say, the pain does not go away, it's a procees only we can pass minute by minute day by day when it is over and the sun does shine, we think not of the past but only the future and who next will be mine.
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There a wedding tomorrow you wanna go? I'm like are your serious. Then she wanted to come back and tell me all about it. I wanted to cuss but it was my mother.
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As were breaking up my ex said "well, we can still have sex, if you don't mind."
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i don't like when my friends say "well he was a jackass anyways" i mean i don't want to hear that the guys i dated were bad people. just makes me feel bad
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"I thought you didn't care"... or "I love you, but I don't know that I was ever IN love with you" :-(
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"It will be alright". A breakup is difficult and you must grieve in the same way as a death of a loved one. People need support and for their feelings to be validated. This statement minimizes a person's pain and benefits noone.
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There's plenty more herpes infested fish in the sea.
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Since you're through, mind if I have a crack at her?
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"Forget about him and sleep with me. I don't mind being your rebound!" Then this line was repeated in different words any time I wanted advice. Yeah, huh, nah...
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" Why are you moping over a guy who doesn't give a shit about you?" and "Well at least it won't be messy and confusing, because he doesn't love you anymore." Thanks mom.
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i think "cheer up" is about the worst thing anyone can say. dont they realise how impossible that is!!!! and the say it over and over again, and to make matters worse it reminds you that your upset and everyone knows it because its written all over your face!!!
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"My boyfriend said he would never do that to me."
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hahaha
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m best m8 of 13 years was sympathetic when i broke up with my ex then i found out he left me for her
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"Well, at least you got a baby out of it."
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My ex left me last week.. and didn't give me an explanation, I've cried and I've cried until someone told me "Hey he's probably having sex with another chick right now, don't cry" Yeah... that really just... made my day worse.
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He was an asshole anyways... you'll do better off without him.
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"we will go out, find you a man for the night and everything will be fine!" a good friend but could have punched her
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Some people are showing sympathy and some take advantage, "BE CAREFUL".
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My ex, while he was dumping me Ex: -tries to hug- I know exactly how you feel... and that was *after* leading me on for a month...then proceeded to spread bad *bad* rumors about me.
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Well it was the worse advice that I took from a trained counselor who told me to forget about breaking up with the only guy who ever treated me decent & truely loved me because i was pretty & smart & could do much better well i only did far worse with 2 abusers.
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to get over it and move on as he clearly doesnt give a s***t about me and he has someone knew. did not have the desired effect!
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