My girlfriend recently cheated on me twice with one of my friends. I just dont know what to do. I've given her another chance and we agreed shes not to go anywhere without me. except work. If anyone can give me any advice to help me start feeling better.
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xloomusx
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I've been in this situation before, and I kept thinking "oh she said she changed, she won't do it again" My best advice is forget about her AND Him and go out and meet some new people that will respect your friendship and your relationship. Stay with her and most likely it will only get worse
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You are so patient. But I think you are heading for a fall. Be prepared for the fact that she will not be able to keep to her bargain, as she has the hots for this guy (who is not a "FRIEND" by the way; he is a louse). If I were you, I'd let them have each other, and find someone faithful. Let them make each other miserable, not you. Sorry to be so blunt.
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If you have to escort her everywhere she goes then that's obviously a sign that you don't trust her, and who in the right mind would? Cheating on you once is bad, twice is even worse. Your trust has already been broken- just how long do you plan on keeping this up? If I were you I'd end it right now and find someone else who doesn't treat you like such crap.
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I think that you should move on. Nobody is happy being babysat every moment and you shouldnt have to babysit. If you dont have trust you dont have much.
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G'day xloomusx, Thank you for your question. I think that you should move on unless you feel that you can trust her to go out by herself. You will both get tired of you chaperoning her and you might find that she is spending more time at work. If you can't trust her to go out by herself, I don't think that the relationship hasn't got much of a future. Regards
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wow! i would say move on. once a cheat always a cheat, at least with you. i feel if a person can cheat on you once (in your case twice) they will always be able to cheat on you, maybe someday they will find a person they cant cheat on but clearly thats not you. and the agreement you have, she is your girlfriend, she is supposed to be your equal in the relationship, the person you love an trust, not your slave. trust me the more rules you put on her the more she is going to rebel.
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You are giving her a chance for the 3rd time. i am sure you know that with loving someone there has to be trust. it is difficult to trust someone who cheated twice. remember, a person who wants to cheat will do it no matter how busy they are; live in the same house; and even if u are always together..they will still find a way. i read somewhere that relationships are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. And just to add one more thing The first time something wrong occurs - u can say it was a mistake made by your gf. Second time, could be a bad decision. and if it occurs third time then u let it happen.
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Give them both the flick - you can't trust either of them.
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This is maybe not the best thing to do. I think you're trying to hold on the this relationship, but you souldn't, you both will hurt eachother. She probably doesn't want to be controled like this and you'll always have this doubt in you head that she might do it again. If you're not comfortable with this, you shouldn't try to fix this relation, you'll realize it's not worth it.
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If part of your relationship requirements is that your partner can only have sex with you then she violated your trust. I'd seriously consider leaving the relationship and find somebody who cares enough about the relationship not to violate your trust.
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I had this happen to me when i was younger I dated a lad for 4 years from 16-20, he cheated on me, i realised he didn't have the same moral fibre and thought "if he did it once and could push me so far to the back of his mind he can do it again and he did, so i moved on got myself a lovely partner, sound easy but the scar's still surface sometimes even after 20 years, even with a new partner i had to fight the feelings of watching every move he made, just incase it happened with my new partner but it didn't because i chose the right person and said goodbye to the wrong one. it takes courage to move on but you have to repect yourself and value yourself, this means moving on and finding someone better.
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"we agreed shes not to go anywhere without me" That is not a solution. I do not know how to make you feel better, but putting your girlfriend on house-guard is not going to help. For her to restore your trust you need to give her freedom, but see that she doesn't cheat on you despite that freedom. I do not know your relationship though. If you are unable to give her trust then you should take one of these steps. 1) Talk about it. 2) Have a time-out. [I normally don't recommend that but you probably both need some time to sort out your feelings.] 3) End the relationship.
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I think you should talk to her it might be that she feels you that want her as much anymore and she has been doing this to get your attention and the reason she comes back and is even interested in your face is because there must be something there. Don't hold her down. If she feels that you are inhibiting her she will find a way to get away and she will cheat on you again and this time it won't be cheating because you have already lost her by being a jealous person and girls use that sometimes as a way to get over you. "Oh my boyfriend is so jealous" I wish he as more like you. And then it happens again. Use this simple method. Be strong. Use the powerful method that cancerians use. Shut up and let her do the talking. Maybe it is time you listened. Then make your decision. THere is big difference between a skanky whore and a girl who cheats because she is just unsure about her feelings.Cheers
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This relationship will likely get worse, given the current agreement. If you are unable to trust your partner out of your sight, you seriously need to consider moving on to one you can trust.
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brother one lost trust can never be regained you gave her chance not once but twice and yet she did it and u telling that ur going to give her another chance is that possible to keep her to ur self i dont think so brother ur too good i would suggest you to move on and find some one as good as you and whome u can trust as much like leaving her alone for a month and she will not cheat u even then that's what real love is hey u seems very good guy thats the reason i called u bro god bless u and happy life
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dude if you have to go everywhere with her and gaurd her from doing anything it will never work. Just face the facts that she cheated on you, it is over and move on with your life, there's plenty more fish in the sea...once a cheater always a cheater! Life does go on.
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hey i know how you feel and i know that am abit late but never mind about that listen even if you were still going out it wouldnt of worked you are abetter person than that and i am sure she was great but didnt have her piorities straight and any girl would be lucky to go out with you so forget about it and move on luv princess 4 life
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Hmm, seems that it's not going to work out very well.. you do not trust her at all if you don't let her to go anywhere without you, just work, and there is a reason for that.. one of the most important things in successful relationships is trust.. I cannot see me being together with someone I do not trust.. it would be just torturing myself and the other person
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You got it all wrong bro. By "giving her another chance," are you REALLY giving her another chance, or putting her in jail by your conditions? What's really going on there dude? "Giving her another chance" should mean you've given her trust again, and she's free to do with it what she wants. You're setting yourself up for failure. I guarantee you she's more likely to cheat now, than she ever was before, because of the ridiculous restrictions you're putting on her. If you can't trust her, don't be with you. It is NOT okay, or conducive to a healthy relationship, to bottle her up like she's your child, or dog.
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No, you can't trust her anymore. It will take a long time to earn her trust back. There are alot of women out there who want the love of a good man; yes it will hurt but I think it's for the best that you split. You have to escort her everwhere..this is insane..she can't control herself...This is a very unhealthy relationship! Move on!
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Have Sex with her frequently. Break her virginity immeditly. Suck her, fuck her and lick her very well. So she will come with you...
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Have some Testicular Fortitude and Dump the tramp. Your building yourself up for more heartache in the future. Just how long do you think you can keep her from going anyplace without you. Shes the looser not you. Get rid of her now.
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If her mom is hot, go bang her, bang her sister, her cousin, her friends...hell, bang her brother if you're into stuff like that. Take pictures and show her just after you've had sex with her, and then dump her in a Walmart parking lot on the bad side of a town at least 50 miles from where you live.
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For you to start feeling better you should give up trying to control other people-"not to go anywhere with out you???"-that will drive someone away real fast anyway.She cheated on you with your friend.I wouldn't want to be around either of them.If you dump her now,it will free you up to meet someone who's honest.Good luck.
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My bf cheated on me along time ago and more than once with a supposed friend of mine. I loved him and married him anyway. After we were married I found out that he was still seeing her after he told me he wasn't. It made me feel like our whole relationship was a lie. I stayed with him because I wanted a child and that by already having my heart broken it was less likely to happen again.Not him cheating but having my heart break. He now seems to finally get how bad he hurt me and hasn't cheated on me since. However, the love I had for him is long gone and when my child gets grown I will be gone too. The moral of the story is don't zig when you should zag. I should have gotten the H out before I married him. Maybe I could have found someone who would love me and think enough of me not to cheat and break my heart. If you feel like you have to watch your girlfriend like a hawk and chaprone her everywhere she isn't worthy of your love and trust.
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