I think that if you are willing to have a baby with some one, then why wouldnt you get married to them? Having a child will bond you to someone more then a marriage because if you just get married you can get divorced if it doesnt work. But if you have a child you will have to deal or at least associate your self with them for the rest of your life because of the child.

I think that if you are going to marry someone why not do it and enjoy your marriage then add your bundle of joy. Having a baby adds so much more stress to a relationship and having a sound relationship with your s/o can help decress the baby stress and help you come together instead of letting the baby stress tear your relationship apart.

as long as love each other and are deeply committed I have no objection what so ever.
I have close friends that started off this way and had children without being married. yet the man couldn't have been more committed to his woman and his children. eventually they got married. There are many reasons a couple may choose not to get married and not just, non-committal ones. marriage has different meanings to different people. I think love and committment is the key. Marriage doesn't guareente a healthy, happy family life and often doesn't deliver.

I don't think that's fair to the baby. If you don't feel your relationship is strong enough to get married why would you want to have a baby with that person? A baby deserves parents that are truly committed to each other.

I agree it's none of my business but my opinion was asked so, that's what I think is right.

None, it isn't my business.

Feelings? None. Thoughts? Live and let live.

Well, I have two different answers for two different scenarios.

the first one, is one I've seen happen a lot. The two live together, seem to be happy. They have a baby and then the baby daddy leaves. I've seen this happen so many times. Please be sure the relationship is solid before any baby producing happens. Maybe even wait to get married?

The other scenario I've only seen once: The two are in complete love. They get pregnant, get married. And live happily ever after.
That's the only time I've seen it work out!

Good luck! I hope you two are one of the few :)

I think that as long as the couple are in a stable and happy relationship, and are prepared and equipped to bring up the child, there's no reason why a piece of paper should make the relationship any stronger.

Just because a couple aren't married, it doesn't mean they are any less in love or any less committed than a married couple - some people just choose not to get married. I don't want to get married, but it doesn't mean my relationships will have any less meaning, or that my children will grow up in a less stable home.

I have seen too many times people have a terrible pregnancy, end up hospitalized with the baby having problems and with the lack of a marriage, having the putative father have no say about mother or child. It goes back to one's blood kin in that case in most states. If you are serious about protecting a child, marriage is the first step. Trust and love will not protect a father's rights regarding a pregnant comatose woman or her unborn child unless they result in the actual legal protection that one would think trust and love would lead to. So what do I think? They are pretty stupid.

I think that a couple who want to share parenthood should have no qualm about getting married. The marriage goes to protect the child.

Happy for them =)