ANSWERS: 47
  • You are a far more hip mom than me Baxter... I wouldn't have been able to.
  • If you thought you did the right thing, then it must have been.:-)
  • she would of googled it anyway but still wow.
  • I commend your not hiding behind what could be a very taboo subject in your home and taking the opportunity to PARENT your child! If only so many others would teens wouldn't go around so afraid or ignorant of the subject and their behavior. Again, you seem to be a great parent! Continue to teach your child how to live and love in the right way!
  • hahaha thats cool actually, I mean she would of found out one way or another so its only better that you told her.
  • yeah, you did the right thing, by age 13, teenagers begin talking about that kind of thing
  • Good for you -- I'm with you +5
  • Yeah this was deffinatly the right thing to do. i was never told and was tricked into it at the age of 14.. it was pretty traumatizing
  • I think your making this up, but if your not, then wow!
  • I feel so. It's a downer not to know the real answer to sex things when a teenager. I hate that my friends told me that having a baby was like having a bowl movement. Yeah and I didn't learn otherwise until I was completley embarassed by none other than a boy!
  • I hope you didn't talk to her about it in front of her friend. As it is, most kids don't want to discuss sex topics with their parents let alone in front of their friends. With that said, yes I think it was wise to discuss it with her. At least she knows the avenue of communication is open if she has a question. I would talk to her one to one next time.
  • I have read all the answers posted this far. I am still clueless what the numbers 69 means. Google says its a rock band album or something. Would anyone explain to me. I am only 56 years old.
  • I'm really hoping you told her in a rather delicate manner and not like you might in a locker room, but hey..she's not my daughter. I would have said it's the number that follows 68 and proceeds 70 then said there is also a sexual connotation you'll just have to go read on a bathroom wall somewhere. My daughter always got red faced when i said that then you could see the light bulb go off in her head.... OH DUH!!! ;)
  • You do realize that the square root of 69 is 8 something (ate something).
  • I think it is time to "talk" more "freely" with your daughter - and not just exposing her to know things regarding this but to explain her it from all dimensions including health, relationship, morality etc. At least for the western culture. So it is right in your case. But still toooo early for us. Its still 18 yrs for anything - legal or verbal.
  • You did tell her that 69 refers to the summer of '69, didn't you? Woodstock Festival, August '69, Apollo 11 on the moon in July '69, Led Zepplin's first album and the Beatles last concert, and the Concert at Altamont (Woodstock West) Oh and John and Yoko's bed-in for peace! That's what she was wondering about... right? ;)
  • Yes and no. Yes you are right that sex education is important and should be done by the parents. But I think the way you went about it was wrong. You over heard a conversation she was having with a friend and barged in and explained what 69 was. Did her friend know? How would her parents have felt? Maybe they were talking about something completely different. How would your daughter feel to have you barge in and do that in front of her friend? You may have been better getting her alone later on well doing the dishes together say, and just saying, "Oh by the way I heard you and your friend discussing what 69 was, did you find out what it meant or would you like to know?".
  • Yes... Coz its better that she know this things from you.. so while you're informin' her about this you should also add up.. some informations about it.. because we all know that she mean about the sex position.. inform her also what is sex and what it can do.. and what are the consequences if she do sex in her age...:)
  • It's very important for your kids to feel comfortable discussing ANY topic with you. Of course that means there are going to be more embarrassing topics in the future. In my experience, it is always better to stick to the truth with children: If they're old enough to ask, they're old enough to know the truth.
  • That's how it is now. I had to talk to my daughter about sex when she was 8, because the kids in school were already talking about it. You can't hide your kids from it anymore, it's on T.V., the internet, school, radio, outside their window, it's everywhere. All we can do as parents is educate them and keep the lines of communication open. Sometimes those conversations are uncomfortable, but being a parent is often uncomfortable.
  • They say the time to tell them is when they start asking. At 13 I would have appreciated some real knowledge instead of myths and guesses. I'll bet she was more embarassed than you.
  • I think you did the right thing. :-) its better that she knows the truth. :-) and besides she's 13. she's old enough to handle the truth.
  • Probably not........but then again its all circumstantial.
  • there was nothing wrong with that more parents need to be honest with there kids.
  • YES, you should have told her. Think of what her friends may have told her!
  • Yes, you did the right thing. When I was about that age I heard some kids talking about it at school, quoting Bill and Ted, "69, dude!" I went home and asked my mom what it meant. She told me it was a special kind of kissing. I was embarassed when I found out from that same group of kids what it REALLY meant when I said something like, "What's the big deal? It's only kissing." My mom should have told me the truth.
  • You did the right thing. My youngest asked me the same question when she was about 13 or so, and I told her strait out exactly what 69 meant. As I recall I said to her, " 69?, why that is one more than 68 and one less than 70. The truth will set you free! Here's to plain speaking and clear understanding.
  • You have done the right thing of explaining. But no need to be emabarresed since it is to be treated as a normal education and no extra emphasis to be given. She should know what is right for her and you are the correct person for doing that.Anyway que sera que sera!
  • You only have to worry when they stop saying 'eww'.
  • You were spot on. As an innocent 11 year old, I didn't know what the word 'virgin' meant. I thought it was something special related to the Virgin Mary that one she was. So when the girls went round the class, seeing how innocent the others all were by asking if they were virgins, I said 'no'. You have no idea how much fun they got out of that :-) It isn't like she is going to go and put it into practice. But as a girl of that age I remember the misery of being the girl who didn't know anything and how bad it made my life with the other kids at school. Much better to be clued up and actually know the truth. My boyfriend's son is 14. My boyfriend told him he could ask him anything, and he does. He's never had a girlfriend, so it is mainly innocent stuff about kissing girls, but anything he wants to know he will be told truthfully. As a trained nurse, my boyfriend feels that as and when he wants to know it is better he is told the straight truth than rumours at school. The son thinks he is the coolest Dad in the world.
  • What you did was good...but as a teen myself I'd say it would be pretty embarrassing for me too if my mom danced in while I was talking to my friend to give me a friendly explanation of sex terms. Save that stuff for a mom-daughter time. Then you can ask her if there's anything else she doesn't get or wonders about so you can clear her up on everything.
  • wow. i can't even imagine having that conversation. you are amazing.
  • I concur! I have three Girls and we have a very open relationship. I believe that children should have that comfort level and not be embarrassed to talk with their parent (s) about anything. Sounds like you are doing a great job! +
  • Children are sexual from the moment they are born. As they grow parents should teach their children about sex as age appropriate. Parents should allow some nudity in the home or better yet be menbers of a nudist resort as their children grow. You may balk at that statement but if you do your research the most well adjusted teens are those raised where their parents attended nudist resorts regularly from an early age. Americans are the absolute worst in the world with their anti-sex thinking perpetrated by the church. Yet the country with the most sexually related crimes, STDs, and teen pregnancies! You did right and you should not have been embarressed at all. Teach your children without embarrassement and if you don't know learn then teach! Never leave a question unanswered and never blow off a question on any subject. As per my usual writting I am attaching webb links I feel will be helpful to understand what I am saying here; you may agree with them or you may not but I believe in education: http://www.ejhs.org/volume3/Haroian/body.htm http://www.libchrist.com/bible/child.html http://www.fcn.ca/
  • YES!!!! im glad i didnt have that situation!lmao! i hope you were a good girl, cause i, i ,i....
  • I would have probably waited to see what the friend told her. If it was a not so true explanation, THEN I would have told her/them.
  • I probably WOULDN'T have said anything to her
  • I would have said nothing to her...Kids start to think about it at she is 13 years old...Things go in play in there minds if your doing it with her father or who else is doing it..Maybe she will go on porn sites to look..
  • Id say it is right. I was not one for lectures though, more of a visual kind of guy. I would rather see it lol.
  • Anything I learned about sex was from my friends, or the internet. So I think you did the right thing, more parents should be honest with their kids.
  • I think you did the right thing, can you imagine the filth she would've seen if she'd just googled it! Lol +4
  • Doesn't it mean yin and yang. Two opposite halves which together make the whole. Like Night and Day, Good and Bad or Front and Back. Why be embarassed about that? What on earth did you tell her?
  • It was the right thing to do. But you should have then gone into a story about the time you and your husband/wife used to do that "All the time.". The mental image of one's own parents having sex should put the kids off of it for quite some time. Try it yourself. It'll douse any sexual desire you have for at least a week. Also not being shy about those things will encourage the kids to come to you with any questions they have.
  • Thanks, Baxter. Thanks a lot! Daddy's Little Troublemaker turns 10 this month and you ain't helping me with stories like this! :):):) Honestly, as you've already gleaned elsewhere, I think the straight forward answer is the best, keeping it age appropriate of course. For a teenager, that pretty much means you can use far more adult terms than you could for a younger child. But I would have given a LOT to have seen a picture of your face when she dropped THAT little bomb on you! That HAD to have been a Kodak moment!
  • Unfortunately, young people are much more informed about sex now than they were 50 years ago. So, it's better that she hears it from you than sneaking around and thinking it's a dirty fun thing.
  • YES, IN MY OPINION YOU WERE RIGHT TO BE HONEST.
  • Yes, being honest with her about that, will help her be more honest with you when it comes to sexuality. You did a really good thing to help facilitate your role as guide.

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