My boyfriend is sort of boring, he's a really great guy and I love to be with him, but we never do anything fun. What can I do to remedy the situation?
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taylor bowen
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Do we have the same boyfriend? Just kidding. I am the more outgoing one in the relationship, so I kind of have to be the less boring one as a result. Try regularly planning/suggesting fun/interesting things for the two of you to do together. As long as he's game, you should be fine. If he just blows it off and seems disinterested you have quite a problem on your hands and boring can easily mature into resentment about how boring the relationship is. If he is not receptive to your plans/suggestions, talk it over with him and find out why. Don't accuse him of being boring, just ask why he never seems to want to go do anything fun/interesting. Either way, accept that you can't change him completely or make him exciting overnight and take it from there. Hope this helps.
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i have the same problem ... and my reln is on the verge of breaking.. please tell me what you guys did to bring fun back???????
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the answer to that is quite simple. instead of waiting for him to arrange something fun, you do it! Lead by example. then tell him it's your turn to arrange something like this again next time. If he never does then he's not listening to you. Then you will need to move on and find a more compatible boyfriend.
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Why are you saying that about him? It's hard to get someone to do something if they are set in their ways, but perhaps you could entertain yourself if you are bored and he doesn't want to move.
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Go and do the fun things without him. Always make sure the invitation is extended for him to come along. My ex and i went through a phase like that. he wasn't big on going out, he was just happy to stay at home and vege out. We eventually had a conversation about it, and it turned out that my badgering him to "do something fun" was building a resentment in him because he felt like i was depending on him to be able to have a good time and he didn't like feeling like he had that responsibility over me. We worked it out and when if there was ever something that i was doing that he wanted to join in, he knew that he was always welcome. It made our "boring" time at home better as well. we appreciated each others company better and had more stuff to talk about.
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Lead by example. If suggesting things doesn't get him moving and doing things, then just go do things without him. HAve a terrific time. If he misses you and wants to spend some time with you he will feel the need to compromise and join. If he doesn't then I'm afraid you have solved the problem in a different way. You cannot rely on him just being a great guy and not having common interests or else what do you have to build on for the future.
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my boyfriend is the same. i have writeen a list of places to go. and he still can't be bored he said he is to tired from work. so its about time we get our men in order. my plan is to pick one day in the week to do something. or just do things with your friends then you wont be bored. maybe you just don't do much with your day. my main really is my boyfriend is 8 years older than me so i guess its old age now. but be happy don't cheat just work on it. he will come round. xx hope this helps xx
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Substitute him for a less coma-inducing guy.
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Ha. Saturday night and I am sitting on the couch and I have been surfing the same websites for about 8 hours now. My WONDERFUL partner is upstairs now in bed. But before that we had an exciting night of sitting on the couch, watching a sappy chick flick, with the cat in between us. I made a comment that "all I need now is a tub of ice cream to eat" and I could be a lonely, pathetic single. BUT wait, I'm not single. Only I feel like at 30 I am on the verge of 80 by sitting around waiting for each day of my life to tick by with no fun memories being created. Why do I have to fall head over heels for the guys whose good idea of fun is to go to a baby shower 3 hours away with about 20 adults and 30 kids that I don't even know??? That was last weekend's excitement.
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Find out what he likes and try to accomidate him a few night a week and then make sure that he reciprocates. Take him somewhere if he likes it or not! Thats what makes a great marriage... the willingness to be completely miserable so that someone else can be completely happy and that... being reason enough to continue long enough for them to return the favor.
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If he is boring, you be fun! When you want something, try giving it...good luck! :-))
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Girls Night Out...leave his butt at home, he will be there when you get back. Mine is the same way and I would rather have that then someone who always wants to go out!
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tell him that you wanna go out and do something fun! he wont take effense to it or anything, so whats it gonna hurt? regardless hes going to love spending time with you. and if moneys the issue, theres always so much fun stuff to do for free!
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oh my god my boyfriend and i r having the same promblems i hear all the exciting things he did with his ex and all he ever suggests we do is go to the fucking cinema. i'm SO FUCKING PISSED OFF with him right now and fed up. Why r men such ass holes?
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I have the same problem and I hate it!! Aaah someone save me lol. I finally took charge yesterday and booked a hotel room that was 30 minutes away from home. I told him look we don't do nothing anymore and I just want to get out of the house. Luckily we had a sitter and after I nagged for a few he decided to go along. We were using some of our Rewards Points to stay in the hotel for free, but it turned out great. We stayed in the highest floor overlooking the ocean. I was kind of hoping he would have wanted to have a bit more fun as in actually go out of the room and do something eh. Unfortunately, he's just not that type and I concluded that you just can't win all of the battles. The highlight of the evening was me getting out of the house hahah
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try thinking of things that would be fun for the both of you, like taking a road trip or a vacation or something and just spend time with eachother. Or if you want tell him to pick somethign that he wants to do but with you not just him, it might be something boring or fun, it just varies on what he wants to do. If he doesnt try not to be boring then im not sure what you would like to do. Try to find more and better interests and see what that does. hopw this helps
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yep if he is past 35, he is set in his ways and it's not changin.. trade him in for someone more fun and exiting, you only live once... i would rather be single than miserably coupled.
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Try suggesting different things that the two of you may BOTH be interested in...Good luck!
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How about you suggesting things to do? Or why do you tell him . Talk to him. Talking about things helps relationships sooo much. Just a thought.. all the best either way.:)
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get naked :)
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Say, "Hey, Boyfriend! I don't think we do enough fun things. Is there a reason you'd rather just sit at home all the time? If it's a money thing, how about we just go play frisbee in the park? (or other fun yet free activity)" Communication is essential in any relationship.
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let him know.. the truth hurts.. but u have to hear it.. thats why marriages fail and relationships wane.. cause nobody grows balls to say what they want or whats wrong with the ''Relationship''
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If there is one thing I've learned it's that you can't change people. They are who they are. If he is boring, he may temporarily do interesting things, but given enough time, he will go back to being exactly as he is now. Don't like your boy, get a new one.
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if u want someone who is fun.. hit me up at myspace.com/papirick08.. add me
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Maybe there is a message here, that you 2 are not compatible enough to be BF and GF. There are other questions as to why so many women try to put a square peg into a round hole, and when it doesn't work, then, as one of the above answered "the guy becomes a real asshole"; or, I know that I can change him into what I want.
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i HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM AS YOURS.. ITS SO SAD THAT IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP THERES A PART WHERE YOU GET BORED AND YOU CANNOT DO SOMETHING... THE SADDEST PART? IT ENDS INTO BREAKING UP! :(
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i know the feeling hun im in the same situation x
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Talk to him about it! If he's a lot older than you, it COULD be just an "age gap" thing that may just NOW be surfacing and WON'T likely change!
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My first boyfriend was like that, and when I dumped him, FREEDOM! If you stay with him, you may be in for a boring life. Can you live like that? I suggest trying to drag him out of the house and see if he can change into someone as exciting as you need. Doubtful, but give it a shot. He may surprise you. Oh, and if he complains, then you have a hard choice to make.
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