Why do people bully?

Cuz they need their asses beat.

They are insecure ... and feel they need to prove their strengths to hide the weakness inside ...

Because they feel threatened, and are sometimes unsure of their own self worth, and thus feel the need to take their anger and frustration on someone else.

Beacause their parents didnt teach them the importance of treating others with respect. Alot of bullies are the pampered jerks who have had everything given to them on a platter (except morals) and feel they are better than everybody else.

When you can't be better, you belittle.

bully or be bullied, i opted to bully, but not to bad just enough to make sure no one would bother me. It seemed i then had a reputation to keep up. i did not like what i was doing, but did it anyway. Sorry to all those that i bullied.

I think people bully because they feel insecure. The don't believe in themselves! They bully to feel better by making feel the people feel worse.

Too make themselves feel better.

Most bullies have a 3 phase behaviours.
phase 1. The attack: name calling, talking behind their backs, intimidation, melicious acts of (verbal or physical) violence.
phase 2. The Denial: lie, cheat, deny, ignore, will not take responsibility for actions.
phase 3. Playing the victim: Will convince others (friends, family and the world) how a wonderful and nice person the bully really is and convince others through manipulation that their prey is the attacker. (be careful of this phase).

Overall behaviour: narcissistic and self obsession.

solution: if you attack both in a negative or positive way, they get attention and they win. If you ignore and raise awareness of this behaviour to others, you gain more leverage and may win over this narcissistic bully. good luck.

To make themselves feel better.

From the perpetrators point of veiw, for fun. It makes them feel better, and I think most don't look past this point. Certainly there's a level of emotional blindness and lack of empathy there, although some (perhaps those who are growing out of it) may get some guilt. It's the emergence of very primitive (and by 'primitive', I mean unformed, undeveloped, not 'old') social point-scoring into a modern setting.

A lot of people say its because they're insecure about themselves, or have bad home lives.

Somehow, I don't think the people who say that consider that some people who bully others are just arseholes.

Because they can get away with it

Bullies truly suck major donkey balls.

Bullies think it is their birth right to victimize people. They are selfish and have no conscience. The innocent bystanders who are witnesses to bullying incidents have more power than they think. They need to unite against a bully by speaking up (NO violence, though!). That usually stops the bully(s) in their tracks.

In one of the south Indian languages that I speak, the word "bully" refers to front part of the male anatomy.
So the next time you refer to some a..hole as being a big bully, there is new meaning to that. Very appropriate.

because they are jelous of others and are too insecure about themsleves that they have to pick on ohters to make themselves feel good.

i agree on the assholes theory and also its a power thing with low self esteem. you better give me points or I'll take yor lunch away. lol

Jealousy mainly, and to get a sense of power and domination... the bast**ds ruined my childhood.
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I think it's hard to boil a complex behavior down to a single cause -- there are likely many diverse reason that people will bully, including low self-esteem. I think that part of it may also be related to experimenting with one's own power. Like a toddler who learns to say 'no', some bullies might be intrigued by how powerful their actions make them feel. Perhaps they have very limited power/control over the rest of their lives, so feel the need to extert control by bullying.

They have an inferiority complex, and bullying is the only way they can think of feeling a little superior.

All of us need to feel 'special'. For some, it's their sense of humor, for others, it's their ability to play violin. For yet others, it may be sports. But for the bully, s/he's not aware of anything special about him/herself, so he resorts to pushing others around to get that feeling of superiority.

I think they do it cause they can.

low self esteem and commonly parenting errors

Because people allow them too, Bullies pick on the weak, and if the weak would stand up to them it would stop. It would be no fun to them if there were no one left to bully....

As thats how they get a thrill out of life before they can afford to smoke

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Maybe they're bored or have some kind of inferiority complex. I did it for the money.

They like to get even and they think everyone is in their way and they think they become more popular than other People. They take advantage of everyone who are desperately weak ? Outnumbering them and never owe their apologies. But sometimes, the victim dont need any apologies from the Bully because they did it was harationally intimidating. The Bully must confess in prison for 20 years in Prison for life. So they dont do anything stupid. So, they dont make a scene in public.

First of all, they need to leave that person alone. Always never make "Eye Contact", while He or She is being harshed.

Cos they're noobs to the REAL world >.>

Because they get sad and they bully about it.

I would love to know... My son came off the school bus today very distressed and had 2 big red marks on his head where he had been punched, his glasses are bent too. My son is ten and by no means is he an angel, he did hit back. Does this make my son a bully too

Lack of morality and conscience.

Because they are uneducated and feel the need to make themselves look or feel better by making you feel or look inferior/stupid and completely ruining your day.

Because they lack self esteem.

They feel inferior, so they try to make themselves feel better about themselves by makign others feel worse.

They try to overcome their insecurities about themselves, and prove something to themselves and others by dominating and intimidating others.

bullys think their cool by bullying

Because they HATE their selves -

To make themselves feel better.

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Because they are so completely focused on themselves that they don't give a damn about their victims.

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Sometimes it's because they were not paid enough attention growing up and not very secure in who they are, and sometimes it is caused by others overly congratulating them on their successes in life. Self importance is extremely necessary in the mind of a bully. One bully gets nowhere, while together, a group will accomplish much. If they brag about how much they are helping someone else, then you probably should be concerned, there is a self entitlement there. You do not see a single bully last long, whereas if they are a group, they will go far. The social ladder is rife with bullies, you scratch my back and I'll scratch yours, it's about social control and opinions, it's very easy in today's society to manipulate the lives of others. If you see a really successful person who has climbed the proverbial ladder because of connections and is opinionated and supposedly "tolerant" of others, then you will always see signs of a bully. Bullies are extremely resourceful and usually well connected, they feel safe in their environment and are usually very intelligent. If they find a reclusive person then it is extremely easy to manipulate them because of that persons lack of connections. Women are easier to control and are usually easy targets, children are so easy for them to manipulate because of their innocence and lack of social skills. Power is a heady thing, it makes bullies feel like they have the world by the tail on a down hill slide.

cause they feel inferior to other.

They are most likely insecure and lack self-esteem and imagination.

They are insensitive and are sad people.

There are a lot of reasons why some people bully.
They may see it as a way of being popular, or making themselves look tough and in charge.
Some bullies do it to get attention or things, or to make other people afraid of them. Others might be jealous of the person they are bullying. They may be being bullied themselves.
Some bullies may not even understand how wrong their behaviour is and how it makes the person being bullied feel.
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Probably to make themselves feel better...

Only the bully knows the answer to that!!! Only they can help themselves.

Bullying is an act of repeated aggressive behavior in order to intentionally hurt another person. Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person (Besag, 1989). Behaviors may include name calling, verbal or written abuse, exclusion from activities, exclusion from social situations, physical abuse, or coercion (Carey, 2003; Whitted & Dupper, 2005). Bullies may behave this way to be perceived as popular or tough or to get attention. They may bully out of jealousy or be acting out because they themselves are bullied (Crothers & Levinson, 2004).

USA National Center for Education Statistics suggests that bullying can be broken into two categories: Direct bullying, and indirect bullying which is also known as social aggression.[4]

Ross states that direct bullying involves a great deal of physical aggression such as shoving and poking, throwing things, slapping, choking, punching and kicking, beating, stabbing, pulling hair, scratching, biting and scraping.[5]

He also suggests that social aggression or indirect bullying is characterized by threatening the victim into social isolation. This isolation is achieved through a wide variety of techniques, including spreading gossip, refusing to socialize with the victim, bullying other people who wish to socialize with the victim, and criticizing the victim's manner of dress and other socially-significant markers (including the victim's race, religion, disability, etc). Ross (1998)[5] outlines other forms of indirect bullying which are more subtle and more likely to be verbal, such as name calling, the silent treatment, arguing others into submission, manipulation, gossip/ false gossip, lies, rumors/ false rumors, staring, giggling, laughing at the victim, saying certain words that trigger a reaction from a past event, and mocking. Children's charity Act Against Bullying was set up in 2003 to help children who were victims of this type of bullying by researching and publishing coping skills.

A bully may often be a bully and a victim at the same time. Most bullies have been hurt at one time and need help, not isolation. People that bully do it because they have felt the pain before, or are being mistreated themselves. For example, someone that bullies might be retaliating because of mistreatment in their family.

most bullies fall into the sadistic-sexual rapist later in life and of course most of them get sexual thrill out of humiliating others. They get sex and violence fused at an early age and need to hurt others in order to activate their sexuality.

Well, this question is under the correct category - kids.

Some kids bully because they like to have the feeling of supremacy over other kids.

Teens have committed suicide because of bullying. See video below. Bullying comes from insecurity, jealousies and physical stature/size. A sense of getting satisfaction by hurting or teasing others. Parents who do not admit their sons or daughters are bullies essentially make it worse.
Bullies can turn into criminals. It's a behavior problem and, when in extreme, it can be a brain disorder.
Bullies can cause irreparable damage to their victims in the emotional dept.

To gain attention, to gain a false sense of respect.