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by engineer is Terminator on March 6th, 2007

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I am a Universal lover.I love every one.So when ever i see any one in distress i feel the person's pain and agony.In due course i use some words like DEAR,SWeety which some people dont like.Do i need to change my attitude towards others or just carry on?

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  • by PrettyPirate on March 6th, 2007

    PrettyPirate

    I am not a fan of being called pet names by complete strangers. Somehow - in my opinion - it seems condescending and it makes me feel uncomfortable. I don't consider myself an uptight matron, I just don't appreciate being told "Yes, Darling", or "Of course, Sweetie", by someone I barely know. That said, it does depend, sometimes, on the situation. If an elderly person addresses me as "Love" or "Darling", I find it charming. If a 30 year old man addresses me as "Babe" or "Sweetie", I find it off-putting.

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  • by gtravels loves her life penguin on March 6th, 2007

    gtravels loves her life penguin

    Never change being a caring, compassionate person.

    You might want to hold back on the lingo though, until you know the person better.

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  • by FadingxSmiles on March 6th, 2007

    FadingxSmiles

    If you notice that a person becomes tense, or hesitates (or indicates in any other way that they are uncomfortable), ask them if being addressed in this way bothers them. If it does, there are many other ways to address someone.

    Otherwise, carry on as usual. Personally, I find nothing wrong with being called any of these names.

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  • by safyr_rain on March 6th, 2007

    safyr_rain

    Look at it this way. If you truly love someone, you will try to make them as comfortable as possible. The facts are there are people who are uncomfortable at hearing endearments from strangers or people they do not feel close to.

    Try to keep this in mind as you love everyone. Try to curtail your use of endearing names except with those you know are comfortable with it.

    There are plenty of other ways to express your care and love for your fellow human beings.

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  • by Anonymous on March 6th, 2007

    Anonymous

    Dr Phil said things like that are called "interpersonal banter" and there's nothing wrong with it, providing it doesn't make the other person uncomfortable. On the other hand, some people are just really uptight and nothing you do is ok. I personally think you should just carry on, and people will have to like it or lump it. :)

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  • by jennyb on March 6th, 2007

    jennyb

    Just by the way you've have explained yourself, I already love you! Don't let anyone bring you down. If you know you are doing the right thing in helping others, it doesn't matter what words you use. Its the intentions and actions that matter. :)

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  • by Valparaiso on March 6th, 2007

    Valparaiso

    I do the same things actually.

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  • by Jessicax23 on March 6th, 2007

    Jessicax23

    If you recognize that some people don't like them, then why use them indiscriminately? There are plenty of other terms that are more universally invited and appreciated.

    There is no reason to change your *attitude* towards other people, but if you want to demonstrate this love rather than just claiming it, then it wouldn't hurt to use language that is unlikely to offend or put people off. That way they'll receive the message you're trying to send.

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  • by kookymama on March 6th, 2007

    kookymama

    Sometimes it's not "what you say", it's "how you say it". Sometimes "Dear, Sweetie, etc." from strangers bothers me and other times it doesn't. It depends on how it's said. For the most part, I think you tell if someone is genuinely trying to be helpful or just condescending. On the other hand, some people are quick to assume everyone is being condescending and there's not much you can do about that - can't please everyone all the time, so just be yourself.

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  • by Sketchy Mess Jeoffory on March 6th, 2007

    Sketchy Mess Jeoffory

    I suppose this type of thing varies by region and culture. Here is Georgia it is something that nearly every good ol' boy or southern belle who has any manners and is trying to be nice does all the time.

    When someone who I have just met calls me things like baby, sweetie, or sugar it just makes me feel at ease around then- like I don't have to prove anything to them because they already like me. Then again, I am a person who can very easily have intimate conversations with people an hour after meeting them and I love it when I meet someone who can open up just as easily.

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  • by Spunts.answered 67 questions in 1 hour. on March 6th, 2007

    Spunts.answered 67 questions in 1 hour.

    some people misinterpret courtesy for love,so you need to choose your words more wisely.

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  • by GLENN_NNELG on March 6th, 2007

    GLENN_NNELG

    Well, a word like dear...yes can be used in alot of moments. Butttttt to a stranger in distress you could be percieved as trying to be a white night and attempting sweeping her off her feet with sweety. Sweety is a very sexual word. It dosent implie are you alright sorta thing

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  • by safyr_rain on March 6th, 2007

    safyr_rain

    Sorry, this was suppose to be a response in a comment section. I must have clicked the wrong button and didn't notice, sorry *blush*

    I couldn't find a way just to delete it.

    Note to self: Be more observant -_-

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  • by Done. never again. on January 31st, 2008

    Done. never again.

    This question doesn't really make sense to me. I guess I don't like it when my girl friends call me babe or hun or sweetie, I think it sounds fake...but that's just me. I guess don't call people names that they don't like. It has nothing to do with your attitude..if you want to be endearing, maybe come up with a name that is special for the person you're addressing.

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  • by singwell-is off researching a lot on March 6th, 2007

    singwell-is off researching a lot

    this has to be a joke...Dame Edna Everedge, is that you?

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