A friend of mine and fellow ABer recently had a miscarriage of twins after getting hurt at work. She's hurting and I don't know what to say to her. What do you say? Sorry just doesn't seem enough.

I don't think it's what you say but what you are willing to do. Be there to listen. Be open but don't be angry or hurt if she pushes you away for awhile. Just let her know that you're there for anything she needs.

I cannot think of anything that you could say that would be enough. Everything that could be said would come off as trite.

The only thing I could think of to do is offer to be there for her, know that she is going to act oddly, including withdrawing and possibly lashing out at you, and be as overall supportive as possible.

Be sure she knows she can email you or talk on the phone if you and she are that close.

Well, under these circumstances sorry is not enough, but it's the only word we have. Just be there for her, and let her know that you are there for her; that is all you can do.

Your right Scrappy, sorry just seem like enough. There really isnt much to say, except you that you are there for her whenever she needs a friend to talk to. Remind her everyday how special she is, Give her a big hug.

Just be there for her, my heart goes out to whomever this is - I have never been through this and I can't imagine what it must be like, but my heart and sympathies are with you

What happened was horrible and should never happen to anybody. I hope she knows that her friends here will always be here for her even tho she thinks that most of the time she's the rock for us to lean on....We love you

There really are no words. Just let her know that you care and will be there for her. Cliche but true.

I can't think of anything that seee it better, I had one too last year and there wasn't really anything that seemed to mak eit better, I'll tell you I really ot tired of hearing "Maybe it just wasn' time yet" though, just be there as much as you can for her and let her know that you are sorry but don't know what to say, people undnerstand things like that are tough and when someone looses someone you never know what to say.

Listen,help with her chores and assure her there will be another child. Mostly be there. Sometimes a quiet friend means more than anything.

thank you everyone so much and thanks to my friend my dog for being concerned enough about me to try to help me. I appreciate all of you.

so if she is a fellow answerbagger, no doubt she will see that you are discussing her personal life with the whole of the internet????

just be patient....time will help..

All you can do is tell her you care and are there for her if she needs you. Just knowing that will help her tremendously.