My son, who is a 3rd grader, just got his 4th referral today, which means an automatic suspension! Any ideas that you can give me as to how to punish him tonight and tomorrow while he is home would be appreciated! He needs to keep busy! THANKS!

I would get his work from school and make him complete it even if the teacher will not give him credit so he isn't missing academics...also manual labor yard work, house cleaning. No tv, video games, computer etc.

You must also look in to his behavior problems, he may not have all the answers. Speak with his teachers, develop a plan etc.

Well, I'd say there's a penalty soming, but maybe the more important thing to do is sit down with him and ask him about his behavior. He's obviously acting out and usually there's a reason for it. He needs to know that there are better ways of expressing yourself.

As for punishment, I find that kids crave being social and nothing hits home like removing them from social activity, either family or friends. The "if you can't act appropriately, we prefer not to be with you, so I guess you're on your own" approach has worked very well for me and involves no corporal punishment.

Make him do something productive, rather than taking something away. Make sure he knows why he's getting the referrals, why you're punishing him, and why what he's doing is wrong.

ok, first take away anything that he can have fun with...i hope you are planning to punish him for more than two days.

make him do chores and things he does not like to do. also my mom used to make me write alot so my suggestion is, make him write 500 times "i woud be good in school, i would not...." let him know you are the boss, stand strong and show him that he can only get things if he is a good kid...he'll cry, he'll yell, but it would het better

In my opinion, you should reprimand him in some way, so he does not get away with his deed so easily. But however, if you only punish him, he might gradually turn to hating you (although not all the time). Therefore you need to sit down with him and talk one to one...

Talk to him on what made him do what he did to receive so many referrals, then negotiate with him on what he can do as a person to improve his behavior (if the problem lies there), then support him in his undertaking.

Find out what is causing him to act and react like he's doing - By talking to him where he can feel safe to talk to you about what's really going on with him - Be calm and no yelling -