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by Ailsa on June 27th, 2009

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Why does it hurt so much when someone you love upsets you?

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  • by Account Closed on June 27th, 2009

    Account Closed

    Love means you have given them some trust and when they upset you that trust gets a little bruised.

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  • by Lion Heart sleeps on June 27th, 2009

    Lion Heart sleeps

    Because your hearts breaks! OHH SNAPPPP!

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  • by Blue Tiger. on June 27th, 2009

    Blue Tiger.

    people that you love, you never expect them to hurt you ever.

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  • by DukeG on June 27th, 2009

    DukeG

    Because I'm an insensitive clod alright.

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  • by Nod.Coltsfan on June 27th, 2009

    Nod.Coltsfan

    Because you love them.... it seems logical that it would hurt alot.

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  • by phirad -you can call me Mike on June 27th, 2009

    phirad -you can call me Mike

    Because you care so much about them. Thier opinions and actions have a more personal meaning to you.

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  • by kaetalist on June 27th, 2009

    kaetalist

    Because your muse and your chance to breed are both snatched away together. You also usually feel it was your own fault which adds insult to injury.

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  • by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on June 27th, 2009

    Sheriff Raff -Answerhag

    The only person who can upset me is my husband. Everyone else can take a long walk off a short dock. Thankfully, we don't get into fights all that much.

    Remember that everyone is unique and imperfect and sometimes there will be a bit of friction. It's part of life and as you get older you will find it gets easier to cope with.

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  • by - alluseek - on June 27th, 2009

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    Because it throws your entire world into a loop, at least it does for me. I do everything i can to help resolve any upsets with anyone i love, because until i do, i am all messed up. I dont know if this answered your question, but its from my heart.

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  • by ... on July 2nd, 2009

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  • by Occams Electric Razor on June 27th, 2009

    Occams Electric Razor

    because we are social creatures that thrive on and place emphasis on the attention, affection, and approval of others, specifically those we have formed relationship bonds with (love). When someone we care about, hurts, offends, disappoints or deceives us it creates anguish because it permanantly or temporarily disrupts that bond we usually use as a source for feeling good about ourselves. As social creatures this is experienced as a emotional feeling of rejection.

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  • by DukeG on June 27th, 2009

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    Maybe you're a little too thin skinned or maybe that person is insensitive to your needs. Or maybe a little of both.

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  • by jer818 on June 27th, 2009

    jer818

    i know how u feel when you ask the ?. it hurts so much because sometimes we see our future with certain people we love and when they don't think about what they are doing sometimes they hurt the ones they love.i did and i regret it. thankfully my wife loves me more than the world and forgave me. forgiveness releases you from self inflicted pain---so just let it go cause it will promote self growth.

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  • by Bella_italiana....livelovelearnlaugh on June 27th, 2009

    Bella_italiana....livelovelearnlaugh

    Because when you love someone you intend to only do good to them. You want them to love you back which means they only do good to you in return. So it hurts when they mess up because this doesn't account for the fact that we're all human and aren't perfect.

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  • by Celeste: It is what it is. Like it or not on June 27th, 2009

    Celeste: It is what it is. Like it or not

    Because You've finially began to trust someone,and you feel like you've been betrayed when they've hurt you.It's only annoying if done by strangers,but moreso completely crushing when you gave a person everything for them to throw it all away.*+++++*

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