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by Anonymous on March 6th, 2007

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Im 16 and ive never had a boyfriend before. ive had a lot of guy friends but never a relationship. im quite quiet and im not one of the prettiest girls in the school. is this the reason? am i a freak?

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  • by LuckyLefty on March 6th, 2007

    LuckyLefty

    lol not to sound concieted or anything... but my girlfriend wasnt the cutest most outgoing girl in our school either. But she was humble & modest, and kept to herself. I really liked that. I on the other hand played basketball, football, i rapped... i was pretty much that kid, up there. She still asks me what i saw in her & stuff, but i never know the answer. Sometimes, you dont know what you have to offer, but one mans trash is anothers treasure. So look at what you can offer besides being what you are not. Dont change yourself for nobody, i gotchur back.

    And no you are not a freak, its better not to have a relationship than to put yourself down & try to change for someone else. Be yourself, & dont care if you cant have what you want. Better things to come, keep ya head up.

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  • by sutspeare on March 6th, 2007

    sutspeare

    There are a lot of reasons that people don't have relationships in high school. I used to be a high school teacher and some of the brightest, most attractive people with a lot to offer never had a boyfriend or girlfriend. Those people are usually the ones that had the happiest, most fulfilling relationships in college because mature people could see what they had to offer. While this answer doesn't help you today, you do have a lot to look forward to.

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  • by Perfect Dark on December 20th, 2007

    Perfect Dark

    I think the only reason you have not been asked out or had a boyfriend is that you are quiet and thus not noticed among the other girls. You don't have to be really attractive to find someone. Pretty will do just fine. Looks are not everything. Don't worry about dating in high school anyway. Relationships in high school don't always last.

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  • by Costantinus on December 3rd, 2007

    Costantinus

    if you had been 46 then yeah it'd be strange but 16 seems pretty young to have such worries.

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  • by Shelly on December 3rd, 2007

    Shelly

    I don't think you are a freak. I think boys are more afraid of rejection than girls. So if you think you might be interested in someone ask them to go to a movie or something. The worst they can say is no. Then you reply OK, Thanks, I just thought it would be cool if we hung out. No harm no foul.

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  • by NeshaP on December 3rd, 2007

    NeshaP

    I know exactly where you are coming from. I'm 16 and boyfriendless too. I have crushes and stuff but I guess I'm too shy to actually pursue a relationship.

    That in no way makes you or me or anyone going through this sort of situation a freak. And like others have probably told you already... You don't need to have a relationship, focus on you right now and when you do, who knows, maybe there will be tons of guys line up at your door in the future.

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  • by RFlagg on March 6th, 2007

    RFlagg

    No, you're not a freak.

    I've known plenty of people who didn't get into a relationship until that age, and older, for that matter.
    Kids these days are entering that arena way too early.
    And I consider a mark of social maturity to enter a relationship only when you're ready and have found a good person, rather than at the age that everyone says you're "Supposed To".

    Don't worry...
    A relationship is something that should come naturally, and when the time is right, they usually do.

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  • by Michellek518 on March 6th, 2007

    Michellek518

    No at ALL. At 16 it is very hard to determine what kind of a person you REALLY want in a relationship, unless you are very mature in that aspect. Different things effect your life at that time, and I think that teenagers in this day and age place WAY to much effort and emphasis on having a boyfriend/girlfriend, that they miss out on the crutial part of their own development and education.

    You have plenty of time, don't worry. Focus on what is truely important to you in the long run, because THAT is what will always bring you through.

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  • by Hyper on March 6th, 2007

    Hyper

    No way. Most people i know have never had a relationship and most of them are between 16-18. You are better off not having a relationship until you are ready and really like a certain person who deserves you and treats you well.

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  • by aydeology on April 20th, 2008

    aydeology

    You're fine. I'm 16 too. I was pretty shell-shocked when my best friend had her first kiss...she always seemed to be the one less likely to have a boyfriend in comparison to me.
    Be happy you have guy friends. I have problems just being comfortable around guys, and I'm quiet. You're not a freak. I'm just waiting for high school to be over and for real life to begin. Maybe you should too!

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  • by Anonymous on July 18th, 2009

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    WHAT??? You are only 16, you should have better things to worry about, other than having a B/F, like graduating h.s.. Im sure when its your time you will find somebody good and who will treat you good.

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  • by Hanannananah on July 18th, 2009

    Hanannananah

    Honey, dont think your a freak, you are certainly not a freak. You are so young, you should just hang out with the guys and be comfortable with who you are cause i swear the prettiest girl in school wishes she was you because they arent your friends because you have the biggest bust or know how to kiss, they are your friends because you are a good person with a good personality. And im sure one of your guy friends is crushing on you, there just too affraid to tell you, wait it out and you'll be sweet :)

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  • by Anonymous on December 20th, 2007

    Anonymous

    u probaly are. But just work that ass.

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  • by Pontiac25 on July 18th, 2009

    Pontiac25

    Ok I'm not going to say "your not a freak" because I don't know you... Maybe you are. But I can say this, not having a bf doesn't make you a freak! And your 16, that's still pretty young. Oppurtunities to spark a relationship will come to you as you get older. Trust me, don't worry.

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  • by Teresa on July 18th, 2009

    Teresa

    No, you're not a freak.

    I think a reason you've never had a boyfriend is because you're so quiet. When you're quiet and reserved, what chance is there for people to meet you, get to know you, and like you? Or, if someone develops a crush on you from afar, when will they have the opportunity to let you know? The bigger your social pool, the likelier you will find a boyfriend within it.

    But I'm not saying you have to change. Even quiet girls find boyfriends eventually. Many boys/men like quiet girls/women. You may not have as many relationships in your life as other girls, but surely you will have some.

    Any time something in your life is bothering you, though, and getting in the way of your happiness and satisfaction, it's a good idea to make some changes. You don't have to suddenly be the most outgoing girl in the school, but you could try to improve your social skills.

    One tip is to show interest in whom you're speaking with: ask questions, make eye contact, offer praise (when appropriate). Forget trying to come up with brilliant one-liners: focus on being interested, not interesting. If you google "improve conversation skills," I'm sure you'll find many other tips. If you suffer from social anxiety, google that too, and how to improve self-confidence.

    You might also look at other areas that might affect how people see you.

    You say you're not the prettiest girl in the school. I think that doesn't matter -- unless there is something about your looks that's driving people off. Do you have poor hygiene, are your clothes ill-fitting, is your hair a rat's nest, do you have bad acne? Things like this can really have an effect on people's attraction to you, and they can also all be improved upon.

    Good luck!

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  • by BigDaddyBS on April 20th, 2008

    BigDaddyBS

    Oh, come on...

    1) You're NOT a freak. I didn't have a GIRLfriend until I was 25.

    2) Most girls who feel they are not one of the "prettiest in the school" tend to blossom into pretty young women. Don't take the attitude that you're not pretty. It kinda shows through, and HS guys like girls with a strong self-esteem, and who exude confidence without being self-absorbed. Work on that part of yourself more. BELIEVE me... There are guys out there for you.

    3) Being quiet means nothing. There are a LOT of guys of ALL ages who like quiet girls. This too will change, I'm sure, as you get a little older. If you feel you want to be a little more vocal, try out for some theater or take some classes. It will help... It did me.

    4) Don't worry about the relationship so much. Just have fun being 16. Sometimes having a relationship so young just gives you heartache. By the same token, if you had one that failed, you'd kinda know what to expect the next time - the way YOU, yourself, would react.

    Give youself a break. When I was in school, there were a number of girls that were not that attractive. The ones I saw AFTER HS, were more attractive, and some of those who were FOXES in HS were no longer. (Same with the relatively unattractive guys and the "pretty boys".)

    I think it's true that there's somebody out there for everyone. It's when you stop worrying about finding them, that they tend to find YOU.

    Just be 16, and enjoy yourself. You'll get there.

    Good luck. ;-)

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  • by SoldierAngel when do i wake up on April 20th, 2008

    SoldierAngel when do i wake up

    I'm sure he will come along soon! Don't worry so much about it! If not being the prettiest girl ever and being shy is a freak, then there are alot of us out there!

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  • by Anonymous on December 20th, 2007

    Anonymous

    If you've had a lot of guy friend and a lot of girl friends then your not missing out on much at 16. Those friendships are usually the most memorable parts of highschool. Be aware though, it's possible someone IS showing interest in you and maybe your not noticing them!

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  • by A on December 20th, 2007

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    No. You're not a freak. A lot of people are in your shoes. Besides that, you probably are pretty.

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  • by Brandon on July 12th, 2009

    Brandon

    Your not a freak. i am 16 and dated a girl just like you, she always wondered what i saw in her and i don't know what it is, but i still do today. your not a freak, and having a boyfriends doesnt make or beak you, and it is better to wait cause you miss out on just having fun while your in high school

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  • by pouncey on July 12th, 2009

    pouncey

    i dont get teenage relationships and im 16 too.

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  • by Anonymous on July 18th, 2009

    Anonymous

    No, you're not a freak at all. You're only 16 and even though that feels like a lifetime it really isn't.

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  • by elena on September 8th, 2009

    elena

    that makes us two=]
    i always wonder that too.

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  • by Jane on December 20th, 2007

    Jane

    no you are not a freak you are 16. Ok so when i was 16 i wasnt that pretty and i dressed like a boy and i was shy too. no one popular looked at me. Well, i'm 25 now and let me tell you....i dont like to brag but i have a myspace, just check it out yourself. i turned out really well. being 16 can suck, it was the worst time in my life. Actually from 13-19 sucked ass. It gets better once your outta high school. Dont worry.

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