Alot of things will change in your mind between 17 and 30. Trust me. I fathered my daughter when I was sixteen. We both thought we wanted the baby, and of course I love my daughter, but it made life VERY difficult for us. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think about how my life would have been if I didn't have a kid so young. We put ourselves in a rut that we're still digging ourselves out of 10 years later. Not to mention it destroyed the relationship we had with each other. Listen to that dude, trust me.

only you know when the time is right:)

Not to be mean and i will prolly get downrated for this but oh well...YOUR DUMB!!!!!

It's not wrong, but you're screwing yourself over in my opinion. You don't want to educate yourself to get a career and make good money in the future so you can actually support a kid? And you don't even want a family, you just want a baby, women like you are usually just trying to fill a void, a baby isn't the best way to do that, you want a baby for the wrong reasons.

Of course it's not wrong to want a baby. You're a female of biological childbearing age. Your brain is WIRED to want a baby. It WOULD be wrong for you to do something stupid, like sabotaging your birth control in order to force your boyfriend to father a child to you. Your boyfriend seems to have a good head on his shoulders. He knows he's not ready to be a parent. You need to respect his feelings on the matter. There is plenty of time for you to procreate after your teenage hormones have died off a little and you're more capable of making a rational decision.

if you have'nt the brain cells to figuerout your too young then really you should'nt be allowed to breed

you are too young. why do you want a baby so quickly? do you think it will be all fun and games? if i were you i'd find a relative with a baby and ask them if its ok for you to mind the baby for a day and then see. and what about YOUR life? dont you want the best possible life for your child? what about collage? what about choosing more then the bare minimum to get by on? what about your boyfriend? doesnt he have a choice? do you know you'll be with him in 5 years? how about when all your friend are out having fun and your stuck at home all the time? dont you deserve to live too? do you own a house? where are you going to live? how are you going to make ends meet? whats your lifeplan? Your 16 years old. your not ready. you WILL have regrets like every other 16yr old mother does

not wrong i wanted a baby at like 15! but i was responsible enough to know i want to give my baby a decent life and i knew i was to poor and immature still 2 give it everything i didnt have! im almost 21 and ALL my school friends and some of there younger siblings r having children and i get jelous but i know 1 day ill be able to say im ready and then our family will have a better life then them!! think about it - your boyfriend will not stick around if you just went and got pregnant with out his agreement which will put a huge strain on you and your relationship and the likely chance is that youll split up then youll be raising this child alone with no money!! could you do that to your child!??

try geting educated first so you can suport the baby

Having the desire for a baby isn't wrong.... However actually going through with it at your age would be disgustingly irresponsible! Ask yourself this, do you have the resources to bring house, feed, & bring up a baby...... NO YOU DONT!!!

You really want a baby, do you have any other dreams, like college? Your gonna find once children come into the picture dreams slowly turn to sadness.

I'll save you the trauma of l&d. You can have mine. I'm 22 and would love to get my life back. I'm miss my friends, my sleep,getting up to go to the store when I want and I never thought I would say this but I miss school! Please think about what you are saying!!

You are still a teenager. Why rush into things? Live out your youth for awhile first. Give yourself a chance to explore other priorities right now--like school, planning your future, traveling, pursuing a career, even meeting new people. Wanting to become a mother is great, but the timing is totally important--and a bit more maturing on your part would be a positive thing for you--and your future baby.

Please reconsider! I was a mother at 17 the first time. My next two children were born at 19 and 22. Our whole lives together were a struggle. Though I was married to their father he wasn't ready to be a father (he was 5 years older then I) the first time and he never really stepped up. I can say with certainty as well that who you might choose to love at 17 might be very different from who you choose to love when you are older. I don't regret my children. I love them very much. Still, I know I would have been a better mother and provider had I waited until I was emotionally and financially stable. Please please do not become pregnant against the wishes of your bf either. That is a giant betrayal of trust and in all likelihood he will disappear condemning your child to a life without a father. Is it wrong to want a child? No Is it wrong to have one at your age just to indulge your short sighted want of a child? Yes I think it just might be wrong.

Yes it is wrong wrong wrong. I hope your boyfriend runs far away from you, because you are trying to trap him. He told you how he feels about this. Stop thinking just about you and think about him and the kind of life you would have to offer a child. Babies grow into PEOPLE. It's a huge responsibility.

Your boyfriend is smart. I think you need to grow up and realize a baby is not a doll. They eat shit and poop all day and require $$, lots of it, to keep them healthy and happy. You are 17, what kind of financial responsibilities do you have to make you a fit mom? Listen to your b/f.

Considering that your parents will raise it and your boyfriend will have to support it, I don't think what you want matters

It's not wrong to want a baby but extremely wrong to follow through with your desires. You would not be able to give the baby the life it deserves. It would be very irresponsible of you to get pregnant.

It is NOT wrong for you at all to desire a baby. That's completely natural, and understandable. But we cannot grasp all of our desires either. Sweetheart, I'm sure everyone here is telling you that it is not a good decision and you may not be able to understand. But if so many people are against it, then there must be some logical explanation. I won't doubt your care-taking skills, you may have incredible potential as a mother. But there are many other factors which do not help this matter: 1. Your potential partner is against it. If there is no consensus among the couple, that is an automatic no. It will only lead to further problems 2. You are still in school honey, graduate, perhaps get a degree, get a job atleast. Make some money so that you will be able to support your child financially. 3. You need to have the mental and emotional capacity to deal with a baby. It's a full-time job. You won't have time to work and take care of a newborn. 4. You're still a child, I don't mean to be offending but I am also 17, almost 18, and even I have not figured out what I want to be in my life. Everyone moves at a different pace, yes, but I highly doubt that you're sure of yourself. You're only a teen once, enjoy your years while they last. There is an appropriate time for everything. And now is the time to have fun! A lot of parents miss their freedom and responsibility-free lifestyle after they have children. 5. If you're doubting this and you have to come on answerbag for advice, that is a sign of immaturity. 6. What does your family think of this? Best wishes to you, take everything into consideration. All of these people are here to help you, even if this isn't the best place to get advice from. Usually your family or your elders, friends (matured) are there for a reason. They know you and your situation best. Anyways, I hope I helped. Although my advice may not have as much standing as others because I am in the same age group as you. Good luck and god speed.

your boyfriend is wise beyond his years. He's a keeper.

YOU SOUND CRAZY!!!

Well yay for your b/friend then. You do not need to get pregnant at your age. That is too young. You have plenty of years ahead of you for that, for becoming a mother. I don't think it's wrong for you to want a baby in the way that maybe you want one because you just love babies so much. And you may be wanting to give alot of love to one. But you can babysit someone else's baby for now or something. But to have a baby at your age on a permanent basis & to have to take care of.....you should not. There will be much time for that a little later on in your life.

I have a cousin who was just like you. She was 16 and pressuring her BF to get her pregnant, and I sat down with both of them, looked directly at her BF and told him "Do NOT let her trap you into this, you are too young." Well she was able to find another BF to do it because (lucky for him) her 1st BF listened to my advice. She had a baby about 4 years ago. They were completely unstable, homeless, and didn't have anything. She is now broken up with him, living somewhere with some strange man, meanwhile this poor child is subjected to so many things that he shouldn't be. Not that I'm saying that your situation will turn out just like hers, but you really need to stop and tell yourself that you have SO MUCH TIME before you have to start a family. The BEST thing for you to do is to properly prepare YOUR OWN life, that way you can give your child(ren) everything you want. More importantly, children deserve to be born into a stable household, and to parents who aren't still children themselves. Trust me, you have a lot of time. Concentrate on your future first, that way you can give your children the best life possible. It will be worth the wait.. and when that time comes when you have your child, it will be amazing!

This is something I have already written, so I will just copy/paste: Get a puppy first. Three months after getting the puppy multiply the work you did for it by 10,000x and that's what it will take to have a kid. Sleepless nights, food, diapers, no partying, no me time, very little time to work on your relationship with your boyfriend. Does your boyfriend have a job? What will your income be like you are on maternity leave? This is a child we are talking about, not a toy. This is at least 18 years of your life and soul poured into a human being. Are you sure you are ready for a child? Are you sure you can handle it? I am 24 years old, living with my dream girl, in a house I just bought, with 2 dogs, and my life is wonderful. We don't want kids yet because we understand the HUGE responsibility they are. We understand that this little life will be molded by our actions and by his or her surroundings. Do you really want to raise a child in an environment where you struggle to pay your bills? You have a LOT of growing up to do. Don't rush it. You will have a kid, but I urge you not to have one yet. You say that YOU want a kid and YOU are ready. Well, keep in mind that this child doesn't have a choice. So if you really aren't ready, it's the kid that suffers.

YOU CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it can come out deforemed because you are too young.if you have a baby too young the baby comes out with eyes like a chinese person.(no ofense chinese people)