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by loserfish on February 6th, 2005

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My boyfriend is Mormon and I知 agnostic. We want to be married one day, but I don't believe in organized religion. What is the best way for a non-believer like me to find faith in the church of LDS?

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  • by DudeLer on June 30th, 2008

    DudeLer

    the question was writtin in 2005. where is that couple today?

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  • by Anonymous on February 14th, 2005

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    This is a tough question for me to answer, but I will at least try.
    First off, if the two of you are still together in spite of such a fundamental difference between you - well you must really be in love. Now if your boyfriend is a Mormon and you clearly love him, you can see that at least some of the man he is today is because of the guidance of the faith he believes in. So you can also acknowledge that the church of LDS is doing some good.
    Secondly, you do not need to look very hard to see many good things that the church of LDS does.
    Actually finding faith, the real faith in things you cannot prove or disprove is a very difficult thing to do. Even the bible tells us that faith is a gift, and some are not so fortunate to have recieved the gift of faith. For those us who do not have faith in these things, I would suggest that you simply look and acknowlege what you see. Certainly you can see that most churches do good things for society in general, and even if you find faith lacking in your heart, you can acknowledge that you do well for yourself and others when you practice the faith.
    Eventually, I suspect you will develop the faith you need, in the mean time, do your best to just practice the drills. Time works wonders.

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  • by coolbair on June 30th, 2008

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    The answer to your question is amazingly simple: Read the Book of Mormon with an open mind and an open heart and then pray and ask God if the book is true.

    Why will God answer your question? Why wouldn't he?! Again and again in the Bible, Jesus says seek and ye shall find, knock and I will answer. In James he says if any of you lack wisdom, ask of God and he will give and not hold back. God doesn't lie and he doesn't exagerate, especially on this point. Communication with his children is of the utmost importance!

    Why will discovering the truth about the Book of Mormon help you know the truthfullness of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints? Because the book was claimed to have been translated by a true prophet of God, under the inspiration of heaven. It was claimed to have been delivered by an angel, a former prophet of God, and one of the actual authors of the Book of Mormon. It was claimed that the actual gold plates that the book was written on was viewed and touched by 11 men other than Joseph Smith, and they never denied any of their written testimonies. So, if the book is true, and God himself tells it to you, then the church is true. The book even has a promise in it's final pages (Moroni 10:3-5) that YOU CAN KNOW FOR YOURSELF!

    When you look at other factors, the Book of Mormon teaches nothing but love, forgiveness, goodness, christ-centeredness, morality, generosity to the poor, and family values. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints has no paid clergy, and doesn't want anything but to help people be at peace, have loving relationships with their families and with their fellow man, and to know God, their creator. Why would enemies of the Book of Mormon or the LDS church try to tear this down? They don't look at these things. They look only at some of the more advanced doctrinal details before understanding what our church is really about at it's center. They don't care that our church does so much good for so many people. This church has never tried to bash on any other religion and never will. Actually, our church tries to foster understanding between faiths and respects the right to worship God however they may.

    Do enemies persist because they think we're dragging people to hell? Even if our doctrines were wrong, would God really condemn people because they tried their best to search out the truth and then innocently choose the wrong religion? What kind of God could be so ruthlessly and carelessly strict, without taking all the facts into consideration? It's not even just to condemn people who mistakenly follow fallacy for the simple reason of misjudgement or ignorance. But if our doctrines are true, then of course we would have many enemies. Anyone who is an enemy to God, for one, would be an enemy of our church. If our doctrines were true, Satan himself would do whatever he could to discredit us, slander us, misrepresent us, and utterly destroy us. Is that what Christ taught? To destroy other churches, especially ones that confess Jesus is the Christ? A house set against itself cannot stand. Christ as well as others taught in the ancient church that if the teaching be false, leave it alone and it will come to naught. But this doesn't satisfy the enemies of the mormons for some reason.

    Finally, I share my solemn testimony to anyone who will read this, that God has given me many undeniable witnesses that the Book of Mormon is infact true. Like the prophet Joseph Smith said, I know the truth, God knows I know it, and I can't deny it, nor dare I do it.

    Whoever is reading this, searching for truth, please don't ever loose hope of finding it. God is there, and he does know you're looking and he cares. Believe it.

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  • by Weird Science on December 27th, 2007

    Weird Science

    I would suggest to research the churches history. If you go to www.mrm.org they have done a lot of the reseach for us. Then I would inform your boyfriend of your findings. If he is smart you will both be non members and be happly married, but I hope you find some kind of spiritualty.

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  • by Anonymous on January 30th, 2007

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    I was in the same position myself about 20 years ago - my then girlfriend was a mormon bishop's daughter. I was what you might call agnostic. When we got serious, there was a big push for me to convert. She was not very devout, but felt that we both needed to have that in common and in order to be married in the temple.

    I just never felt comfortable with forcing myself to believe for the sake of preserving a relationship. We broke up because of other reasons, but it had become an issue. I am so grateful to God that things happened the way they did, even though painful, it was the best thing. Even though there are "good works", I found out alot about the LDS church and what they believe about Jesus, etc. Alot of things are simply wrong.

    I don't want to sound discouraging, but the most important thing is that you don't compromise in the area of faith (if you are agnostic, then you don't deny that God exists). Take it from someone who has been there.

    The best way to "find faith" is to put away the idea of finding faith in LDS. At the risk of sounding proseltyzing, find your faith in Jesus Christ.

    Hope things go well.

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  • by temporary name on October 22nd, 2008

    temporary name

    Your beliefs are at odds with his. You say you don't believe in organized religion. If you are going to stay true to yourself and your beliefs, then you might not be able to reconcile your differences. If it's more important to you to reconcile this difference, you will have to give up your beliefs (or lack thereof), and accept the LDS teachings without questioning, that is what is expected of you, because that is the definition of faith.

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  • by iDeath on November 26th, 2009

    iDeath

    Fake it. He probaly will too if he loves you.most members don't really take it seriously. Just be honest with each other.

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  • by I am the God of Hellfire on October 29th, 2008

    I am the God of Hellfire

    Don't attempt it. The relationship will not work.

    Take it from one who has been there and thought we could co-exist with each holding their own beliefs, but it eventually causes a rift.

    Why should you be the one to give in to his beliefs. There are other fish in the sea.

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  • by STRAWBERRY24 on October 13th, 2009

    STRAWBERRY24

    one way i would try 2 believe in organized religion is read the bible go 2 church every sunday and pray every day and ask GOD 2 lead me in that directon and u will find that religion and faith hope u find it 2 thumbs up good luck

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  • by maS elcnU on October 29th, 2008

    maS elcnU

    Find a new b/f. You do not want to deal with MORmONS.

    My 2 cents.

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  • by Andrew_N on October 30th, 2010

    Andrew_N

    Listen to this.

    When I was 5 months in developement, my mom had a cyst in her womb swollen to the side of a cantolope. I would have been born with a smaller body than most and almost no brain IF I survived being born that early. So we were going to have surgery done in a few minutes so my mom prayed that I would survive, then when they rook an x-Ray to better understand it, it was gone and there was no evidence that it was there. Now that I'm 14, I play football, basketball, run track, and am one of the smartest of my class. We also found out that because of some condition my mom has, if we took the surgery, we would have both died.

    I bear my testimony that the church of Jesus Christ of latterday saints is the true church. That Joseph smith jr. was a true prophet and that president monson is the true prophet today. That the book of mormon is a true holy book testifying of Christ and god. In the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

    If after reading this you aren't convinced it's true, I don't know how you will ever believe in it.

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  • by Mister IT is trying to Liahona outta here on October 13th, 2009

    Mister IT is trying to Liahona outta here

    Well there are a lot of fish in the sea and only a few of them are Mormons!

    >What is the best way for a non-believer like me to find faith in the church of LDS?<

    I would ask yourself this question: "What's more important: The truth or compromising myself for the sake of getting married?"

    Because if it's the truth you're looking for you won't find it in the LdS Church.

    And since you're a woman I would encourage you to read the following article - which was written by a faithful, practicing LdS man - about what it's like to be a woman in Mormonism:
    http://www.concernedchristians.com/index.php?option=com_fireboard&Itemid=42&func=view&id=74625&catid=526

    As well as this presentation that was given by a woman who specializes in ministry to Mormon Women:
    http://www.concernedchristians.com/index.php?option=com_fireboard&Itemid=42&func=view&id=74636&catid=526

    And these articles on how Mormonism impacts Mental Health are also highly recommended:
    http://www.concernedchristians.com/index.php?option=com_fireboard&Itemid=42&func=view&id=74805&catid=526
    http://www.concernedchristians.com/index.php?option=com_fireboard&Itemid=42&func=view&id=75252&catid=526
    http://www.concernedchristians.com/index.php?option=com_fireboard&Itemid=42&func=view&id=75623&catid=526

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  • by isomcdd2 on November 11th, 2009

    isomcdd2

    my best advice for you is to read the Book of Mormon and go to church, and pray. Try it out. You don't know if anything is good until you try it. Just like anything in life.

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