Whenever my boyfriend and i have sex, he doesnt stop until he "comes". I understand the concept of "blue balls" but does he have to push it like that? Or, does this mean he's in it for the sex?

...um unless he is physically hurting you by continuing until he's satisfied...this is a COMPLETELY normal practice!

This is unfair question.

When a guy wants to have sex he wants to come. Period. When men masturbate they do it until they come. Coming is the best part.

If a guy wants to go out with you he wants have sex at some point. It's the way we are built. It's not an ulterior motive.

However if he keeps going when you want to slow down or stop then that's an entirely different issue. If that's the case then he probably objectifies you and doesn't really consider your feelings.

I think that's pretty normal behaviour. We're biologically wired up that way - as far as nature is concerned, sex is there for procreation and a man who stops before cumming is as useful to procreation as a rubber dildo.

I think that's the whole point of having sex.

No, that doesn't automatically mean he is in it just for sex, just that he likes the end result. With that said, talk to him if you think he pushes too hard. He may understand.

I tyhink he just enjoys sex with you and wants to come.

My boyfriend will finish most of the time, but sometimes he just stops because he's tired or doesn't really care. He says he just likes to get me off, and doesn't always need to cum. I feel guilty when he does that but he honestly does not even seem to mind. So he's the opposite of the rest of these guys.

Does your boyfriend last for a long time? Is that why it's an issue? Just take everyone's advice and talk to him about it and maybe try more foreplay.

Even just on the physical end of things, men and women get different things out of sex. For men, it's less about the journey than about the destination.

Imagine you want to drive to the store to go shopping. Yo get two blocks from your house, park the car, and walk home. Kind of pointless, right? Why even bother getting in the car.

It's supposed to be enjoyable for *both* of you, and if you want to cut him short before he is satisfied just because you've had enough then that is mean. In fact, it implies that you don't care about him; maybe YOU'RE the one looking for a convenient good time.

I'm not saying that that is the case, but I am saying that it *could* be interpreted that way even if that isn't what you mean to convey.

If you want to have a lasting, meaningful relationship then the two of you will have to work out some sort of compromise. Relationships are about give and take, and if you can't work out a mutually agreeable arrangement in the bedroom, how are you two going to work together in other areas?

i have NEVER had sex and not came. It is unheard of to me. I do know that the race to the finish line after the girl has came, you might might see the girl filing her nails or something, but it is not selfish, it is implicit. Guys have to come during sex. In it to win it. That is the releaase and reward.

He's probably doing it because he feels left out if you come before him and he hasn't had a chance to... If he's not hurting you, it's normal, plus it's another chance for you to have another orgasm... :D

Just go with it unless he's hurting you... If he is, tell him to finish in the damn bathroom... XD

I hope this helped... :D

Ask your bf to slow down a little and spend more time on the foreplay so he can go long enough for you to have an orgasm before he gets off.
Good sex for me actually takes about an hour for it to be really good for both of us.
Sex that both of you will enjoy is never a quickie kind of thing and its well worth the time to do it right.
Don't be upset with him for not knowing, but guys can actually get off in about five minutes but you can't do that. And yes, all guys are into relationships for sex but that can turn into love if you both work at it.

you might have more control of the situation if you were on top instead of being underneath. sometimes that last inch of good feeling just gets hung up and try as hard as one might, it just lingers beyond reach. they want it all.

my husband and i have been together for 4 years and he comes EVERY time, even the 4th time in a row, they have to come or it hurts, different from us, we get our satisfaction from good sex, not coming guys have to come to get satisfaction.

What is he supposed to do? stop abruptly? unless you tell him to stop, for whatever reason, and he doesn't, then I think what he's doing is quite normal.

if he's making you cum the whole time too then your a luckier women then most, if you don't cum and you don't want him to cum either then theres not much of a point to having sex in the first place

Well, if he stops then he isn't going to cum. Some guys feel they have to hold off and please he woman first before he gets his, if this is the problem, then you have you a good man that wants to please you. Ask him why he does it and if he keeps pounding and you get tired and can't cum, act like you are and see if he goes ahead and cums. If he doesn't, then he may have performance issues or bored

Why SHOULDN'T he get to cum every time?

perhaps you can offer him a hand job or some oral to help relieve his blue balls ... i know how much i enjoy it ;)

If you don't like it then tell him that. If he just wanted to get laid he probably wouldn't have wanted to be in a relationship with you in the first place.