I've been with my girlfriend for about a month, and last night while very intoxicated I kissed another girl. I feel really bad about it and don't want to hurt my girlfriend. Should I tell her?
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Honesty is the best policy.
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Its a kiss, this is your chance to see what your relationship is made of. Honesty is the best policy, or lie so the relationship wont die.
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No, Flag that. It will only lead to hurting her, as you said you dont want. Just do anything to find a way to get over it. Its not worth the fear of loosing her. peace.
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Just tell her, if she really loves you then she would forgive you as long as you promise to not do it again.
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I say leave it that way, why even bother telling her when u only been her b/f for ony about a month. If u don't wanna hurt her them simple as that DON'T TELL. If she says somehting about it just denied it.
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If I were the girl and had only been with you for about a month - I think I would take that as my cue that our relationship was open....whether you should tell her or not - that I cannot answer... Good Luck!
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You need to tell her. If you really feel bad about it, you need to own up to the responsibility and accept the consequences of your actions. If she leaves you, you should accept that it hurt her as much as it hurt you. If she doesn't then you are lucky, and it can strengthen your love for her when you realize she is the one you truly want.
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this is a little tough to answer, because, she is your girl, for only a month.. and if you tel her, or if she finds out, that you kissed someone else, she might think that you're that kind of guy. she's still trying to believe in you, and it takes time...now even though it was just a kiss, and you were drunk, it's still cheating.. so you decide, what is more imp to you? you can be honest, and risk losing her, or you can hide, but always feel guilty about it? it's your choice..
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im afraid honesty is the best policy here. its going to be hard for her but she needs to know, i would just think of this as a test for your relationship
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NO!!! IT'LL ONLY hurt her and she will never trust you again. intoxication is no excuse for kissing another girl. maybe you should look into your feelings for this new girlfriend. maybe your still looking around and not ready for a real relationship.
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Well as someone thats had that done to me I can say I wish I hadnt known. You want to tell her because you feel guilty and you want relief from that guilt, but in doing so you are going to put pain on her simply to make yourself feel better. Thats a very selfish act. Only you know if you'll do it again, if the answer is no you will never do it again then let her continue to feel happy with herself and keep the guilt to yourself as karmic retribution for what you did.
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Some people would probably disagree with my answer, but I would say NO. Do NOT tell her. Just don't do it again. If one mistake is all it was, and you're not prone to hurting her by doing it again, it will damage the relationship and probably hurt her more if you did tell her.
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Don't be silly. No.lol The relationship is one month old. Just don't let it happen again.
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I think so, why not? It's been one month, and by telling her that will show her that you're an honest person who really cares about the relationship. My ex from a long time ago, got drunk and kissed another guy after only a month of dating...well, he kissed her and she told me about it right away. I was upset sure, but then we got through it and had a great two years.
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Yes, tell her. Its much better to hear this from you, rather than from someone else. It also shows respect toward your girlfriend. She will trust you even more now, since YOU told her the truth, rather than someone else. She will forgive you.
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I would definitely tell her. If you don’t have trust, you’ve got nothing. Now, whether or not you should have been intoxicated is for a different question…. ;-)
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Not unless you want to get dumped. Say nothing.
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take it to the grave
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