Hi, I am 25 yr old male. I am still a virgin and never been in a relationship, but do masturbate a lot. I feel I am suffering from sexual weakness or youth impotence. I started masturbating at 12 - 13 and initially was very active like cumming once per

I have read your question several times before answering so that I can try and understand where you are coming from. Personally I think that you are asking your body to do too much, if you are masturbating 3-4 times per day of course recovery time will be slower, it also appears to me that you are using masturbation like it is some kind of sport, why do you feel like you need to masturbate so often? Also if you are masturbating as often as you are your erections will be semi hard, it isn't because you are impotent I just feel that you are masturbating too much, you should try and not do it until your brain is in tune with your body and needs you to do it, you appear to be doing it for the sake of it. Also what your body could do at 12-13 it cannot do the same thing at 25 so you need to be aware of this and stop trying to push your body to its limit, just try and slow it down, if you feel that you have a medical problem then you should go and discuss it with your doctor.

1) You can't over masturbate, but you can masturbate to the point of making yourself desensitized to the pleasurable feelings of masturbation.

2) This is normal and expect.

3) This to is normal if you masturbate frequently.

4) Yep, this is normal too. The more often you masturbate, the longer it takes to get back up to "full strength" again.

5) Since you are masturbating as often as you are, it doesn't sound like you have a girlfriend, so you don't really know if you suffer from pre-mature ejaculation. My guess is that you won't because you masturbate as often as you do and pretty much know when you feel like you will orgasm and can stop so that you don't.

I will say that some people do masturbate more than others and so people don't feel the need to masturbate at all and they have a regular sex life too, so what's normal for other people may not be normal for you. Here's what I would suggested:

a) Instead of trying to masturbate as often as possible, try masturbating only once a day. This will give you body time to rest and recover. Additionally, your orgasms will be stronger than usual because your body has had a chance to rest and build up the sexual desire over a longer period of time.

b) For the times that you previously masturbated, get out of the house and find a girlfriend or female companion. It would help with your desire if you had someone to look forward to seeing often, especially if she was a real hottie. Additionally, it would help with your compulsive behavior to masturbate and give you more 'balance' in your life (i.e. masturbating and nothing else is not balanced).

c) Keep in mind that there is always hope as long as you are alive. If you want to be healthy, normal, and feeling good about yourself, then also try focusing on other people instead of yourself. Much of what people are is determined by how we treat and interact with other people, so get out and socialize, even if it's just with one friend.

d) If you are shy around girls, then make a plan to work on that aspect of yourself. I'm not saying to job feet first into the water of talking to people, but find a girl that seem nice, is single, and that you find attractive. Start just a small conversation with her like if she is reading a book, then sit near her, turn your head sideways as if to see what the name of the cover is and when she looks at you because of what you are doing, just say "oh, i'm sorry. I saw that you are really into that book and I was wondering what it is that you were reading." From there, just make small talk about it. After a few minutes, say something like "I'm sorry. Where are my manners. I'm so-and-so. What's your name?" and go from there. Oh, one last clue. No matter if she has the perfect body or the biggest tits, or her blouse is halfway undone and her nipples are sticking out...don't look at anything about her body other than her face. You can look away as if you are thinking or if you really need to think about something, but then look back in her face when you continue to talk to her.

IMO, I think the lack of a girlfriend has messed up your behavior and you just need someone to be close to you to help change it. Even if you can't find a girlfriend right away, I would suggest following the above steps so that when you do find one, you won't have any problems in bed. Good luck! :)

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