You've made a few general facts about yourself on your bio and someone use those bits of information to assume that you were mentally unstable or had a personality defect, how would you feel and how would you handle it?

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• That's all fine and good, but what about those who read and believe the false conclusion that has been writen about me.

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  by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009

• if people know you, they know better...if they don't know you, does it matter what they think?

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  by BROADWAYTHECAT on June 13th, 2009

• The people may think they know me but does anyone really know anyone else here. And yes it matters. When someone questions you mental stability, it matters.

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  by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009

• please! just because someone "thinks" it, does not make it a fact. we do reveal our selves to others here but their perception is colored by their life experiences and you can't take that away from them. as far as the people here who question your instability...what influence do they have over the quality of your life? I don't mean to minimize the positive things that comeout of AB but don't put more emphasis on the negative than what is warranted.

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  by BROADWAYTHECAT on June 14th, 2009

• i'm going to add something here and this may be very hard for you to hear but it is true...what others say, even if it's about you, is really none of your business unless they say it to you. then you can try to clarify for them but they don't have to change their minds. think of it this way...would you want someone telling you what you can and can't say? I doubt it...so you can't expect to be able to tell others what they can and can't say.

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  by BROADWAYTHECAT on June 14th, 2009

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• so true! and there are a few that love to point out others faults. I have also felt their jabs. +++++

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  by Sunshine in a COAT of Sunshine on June 13th, 2009

• I such a novice here. Who are CL?

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  by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009

• A CL (Community Leader) is someone who can erase negative comments about an ABer, and put someone in PB (Penalty Box) for a certain length of time for initiating a direct attack against another user. When you've been PB'd, your account is frozen until you are allowed back. You can't post comments, respond to anyone, or ask Q's until the "time out" is over.

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  by Phillis - Zacks little sister on June 13th, 2009

• Also if someone (troll) is down rating you over and over tell them that. You might tell a coat member or a few of us out here and we might come to the rescue and put the points back up there that he took from you. Dont give up we're mostly great people here!

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  by Sunshine in a COAT of Sunshine on June 13th, 2009

• I just lodged my second complain using the 'feedback' option. So far, all I've gotten is 5 points for the abuse I've taken from
  Mr_Natural continues to evolve. I've never named another member here but I do feel there needs to be further action taken. Thanks for your helpful comments.

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  by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009

• @ phillis - how do I contact the Community Leader?

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  by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009

• They are each on here at varying times. Look up Galeanda and see how long ago her last comment was written. Barculuv67 is also a CL. And Mrs. Cleaver, but she isn't on at night. LynnfromMN is also a CL. Look them up, see who was on last, and tell them. But don't mention an ABers name to them. I don't want you getting into trouble. Also, give me a link to the problem comments, please.

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  by Phillis - Zacks little sister on June 13th, 2009

• Sherri, I put in an email to Mrs. Cleaver for you. She isn't online tonight, but she will be in the morning. Best of luck, sweetie. Don't let anyone get you down. You're a good person!

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  by Phillis - Zacks little sister on June 13th, 2009

• I just can tell you how helpful you've been. In my comment on Feedback, I ask that more be done besides just giving me 5 points. I just don't think that meets my standard of compensation for such an abusive comment.
  I went back to the page and question where this took place and all comments have been removed. I guess I supposed to be happy with that. I've click on the box for an e-mail answer from the staff but I've never gotten a responce. Guess this doesn't work either. Thanks again Phillis, anyone would be honored with your friendship.

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  by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009

• Thanks! I didn't expect all that! I just wanted you to feel like there was more to AB than JUST negativity. Some of us really do care about everyone else. I looked at your profile, but you had already removed everything. I was real disappointed :(
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  Still writing..........

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  by Phillis - Zacks little sister on June 13th, 2009

• I didn't find the offending comments. I guess they were removed, too, but that's a good thing! That is exactly what is supposed to happen. Don't expect feedback from staff. They rarely give it. But I did read many comments on the Atheism thread, and I gotta say, they were pretty harsh on both sides. That probably won't serve you very well in the future.

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  by Phillis - Zacks little sister on June 13th, 2009

• SOmetimes, just telling someone, "I understand." is enough to make them feel like not fighting. I use it often, especially on tough subjects. I am here for you if you need me, okay?

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  by Phillis - Zacks little sister on June 13th, 2009

• You sound like everyone's ideal of a great friend. Thank again Phillis.

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  by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009

• {{{Sherri}}}

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  by Phillis - Zacks little sister on June 13th, 2009

• Sherri, please contact me if you need to talk. Thanks.

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  by Over and Out on June 14th, 2009

• I have to say Sherri that I read that thread before it was deleted and Mr_Natural did actually say that because you had been downrated he felt sorry for you and up-rated you. However, I did also notice that your downrating percentage stood at 64%. I hope you sort it out. Have a good day.:)

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  by Neptune66 on June 15th, 2009

• Together with this accusing people of bigotry and hatred (when the intention, in fact, appeared to be quite the opposite) and posing a question like this gives the impression that you are trying to whip up sympathy for yourself and hatred against the other abers.

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  by Neptune66 on June 15th, 2009

• Did you actually read what he wrote?

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  by Anonymous on June 15th, 2009

• Yes. I did Sherri.

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  by Neptune66 on June 15th, 2009

• How did you read it when it's been deleted? And, it you did, please write what you read so I know you've read it.

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  by Anonymous on June 15th, 2009

• I'm unsubscribing now. Hope you guys have a wonderful day.

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  by Phillis - Zacks little sister on June 15th, 2009

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• I know but , it's very hard when the blows fall below the belt. The assumptions were terribly hurtful and, I believe, motivated by revenge. When someone writes, "we are watching you", I don't think I'm being paranoid. I removed everything from my bio and was about to remove all of my friends also. This was just more than I ever expected from this site. Thanks for responding.

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  by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009

• SHERRI7...That is right, I am yelling! Please do not get rid of your friends or change Anything you have done or will do. That person is an idiot and we have a huge group of people here who cares for each other and you are one we can protect from this CRAP! Please let me know who it is. No One here is going to hurt you!!! I meant it when I became your friend. I am and always will be!

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  by Sunshine in a COAT of Sunshine on June 13th, 2009

• You can't let one or two people affect you, Sherri7. Not everyone is as thick-skinned as I am, but I have had a lot of practice...(smile). And I give as good as I take....

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  by Tom 47 is back in his bear COAT on June 13th, 2009

• @ sunshine8 thanks for your comment. I've written 2 'Feedback' complaints already. I've recieved 5 points, the removal of the abusive comments and no reply from the staff as I requested. The person who I feel violated my trust in the goodness of the people here is Mr_Natural continues to evolve .
  I've never named another member but, I'm afraid this guy just doesn't get the point of what he did. Thanks sunshine8

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  by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009

• Sherri7 I was wrong on asking you to call him out. That can cause problems. I am sure that the CL will help you resolve this if given enough time. In the mean time try to get back to asking and answering all the wounderful Q&A you do! We're here for you. ((Hugs))

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  by Sunshine in a COAT of Sunshine on June 13th, 2009

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• HA I knew IT!! It is true what everyone has been wispering about for so long! lol :) +++++

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  by Sunshine in a COAT of Sunshine on June 13th, 2009

• Well now, I suddenly don't feel so alone. Thanks, I needed the smile.

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  by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009

• Somebody once said that, "To a truly sane person, the rest of the world must appear insane"... I can't argue with that.

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  by Tom 47 is back in his bear COAT on June 13th, 2009

• Tom please go down and look at my answer to this Q and the comments thread afterwards. She seems to need us!

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  by Sunshine in a COAT of Sunshine on June 13th, 2009

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• Thanks for an insightful answer.

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  by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009

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• Again as I wrote, I'm a novice here. What or who is CL?

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  by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009

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• Shan has spoken, let it be done. ++++

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  by Anonymous on July 5th, 2009

• hehe. the judge has made his verdict! :D

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  by Shan is Purrrrrfectly Happy on July 5th, 2009

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