Why is it more acceptable for someone to make a comment about me being skinny but not for me to make a comment about someone else being too fat? For example: "You're so skinny it makes me sick." I'm not even that skinny. I'm 5'8" and 145 pounds!!
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Ganja_Goddess
ANSWERS: 5
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I wish I knew! It is very similar to when I am told that I am tall. Folk think they can point out how tall I am and then get offended when I suggest that they are short!
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I think they may be paying you a compliment. It should be worded differently but generally I think commenting on someone's physical appearance is a very touchy thing to do. Most people want to be skinnier and taller so when people say things to you about that, it's because they envy you. Take it as a compliment. It's a little like the cashier commenting on your purchases. I'd rather they didn't, but I think they're just trying to make conversation so I try not to take offense.
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I used to be pretty heavy and no one made any comments ... now I'm pretty thin and get so many comments about being too "skinny"! It's amazing. I would have thought it would be just the opposite. I think it's just difficult for some people to lose weight, they might be a bit jealous when they see someone who doesn't need to lose any.
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If it makes you feel any better you are approximately 20 lbs overweight for a ballerina that height. You can tell them that. I would guess they think it's a complement to say that. +4
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It is NOT acceptable, unless YOU have initiated a conversation about your weight. And then, such a rude and thoughtless comment would NEVER be acceptable under any circumstances. You are faced with incredibly rude and ignorant people in such a case.
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