just say "i went through your phone and saw... please explain...(he talks here)... well you dont realy love me so FUCK OFF" its not worth it if his not in for the long hall

That's always difficult, because you know that something's going on, but he's going to call you out on looking through his shit and being "jealous", "psycho", etc. Truth is, he shouldn't have done it in the first place, or at least he should have been smart enough to delete them off of his phone. Honestly, I would just pack my shit and leave, or if you don't live together, just blow him off and be done with it. If he gives a shit about you, he'll ask why, and you can confront him at that point. But that's just what -I- would do, because I don't put up with shit like that.

All men cheat in one way or another. They are all robots.

Leave him... NOW. Get off the computer, pack your stuff, and go. If he lives in YOUR place, let him come home to a nice pile of all of his stuff outside of your house/apartment/whatever. Once a cheater, always a cheater. How can you seriously build a relationship with someone you can't trust? Leave him. If he asks why, just say that you happened upon some nice pictures and texts in his phone. If he calls you crazy, psycho, blah, blah, just laugh in his face. Cheating is emotional abuse and you don't have to take it.

Approach? I would consider departing.

OK, #1 - you have to accept the fact that you looked through his phone and THAT is the first place he's going to attack you. #2 - when you talk to him, don't start with "I went through your phone...." just get to the point and say "So I understand you have plans to hook up with your ex-fiancee and another person while I'm away for two weeks." Just like that. #3 - you are going to either break up with him if possible or you're going to be in for a huge load of bullshit geared to convince you that "it was only words," "it was a joke, I love YOU baby!" "I would NEVER do that" or the good old stand by "I don't know what you are talkign about." lots of luck....

You don't approach him, you forget about him. I know that the person who invented cellphones and computers, did not mean for them to used to transmit naked pictures of people. Only the insane do this.

You know everything you need to know. 'Approaching' him about it is pointless and counter-productive. I recommend that you just gently distance yourself from this guy and move-on. Any pain and anguish you suffer because of him from this point on is unnecessary, and your choice. He doesn't deserve to know he hurt you and he won't understand that his betrayal is cause to lose you. You owe him nothing. But you do owe yourself some respect. Don't give away your self-respect by 'approaching' him. Just move on, and be the better and the wiser for it. This guy did you a big favor. Let him go.

Don't approach him, just leave him. Than get yourself checked for STD's. God knows what he was doing behind your back already and what he may have gotten.

Dont worry about looking thru his phone. You probably felt some intuition and followed it. Have no guilt over that. Plus the end result exhonorates you. It's not like he cheated before the fact because you looked through his phone at a later date. He is caught. I would get ahold of his phone and forward the most damning messages and images to your phone or even better some gmail account that you invent. Leave it on his phone all of the forwards for him to see, but dont confront him. Let him stew and wonder if you know. This deserved torture to him..outsmart and ensnare him. Have your evidence safe for when you do confront him. A scorned woman with naked photos of the other two parties would certainly make them both sweat. Deny that you forarded them..tell hi his phone must have gotten hacked..and most importantly, ask him what he is talking about, "What were the photos of honey???" Outsmart him. Make them sweat. But dont distribute the pics in any way.

You approach him hang-dog, apologizing for disrespecting his privacy. Don't approach him angry, accusatory, and self-righteous, because he has something to be angry, accusatory, and self-righteous about, too, which means you'll only end up fighting with each other. After confessing to and apologizing for your misdeed, get to the point, which should be about fixing your relationship. Both your and his misdeeds point to the same problem: there is a lack of intimacy and trust between you. It doesn't matter whose fault it is, because it is now a problem for both of you: it is a problem in your relationship, which is something you both share. Fixing a relationship gone astray takes a lot of hard work, open communication, honesty, and so forth. It will take many conversations, maybe even years' worth. In the course of it, you might discover you need outside help, counselling. Or you might discover it's time to give up and say goodbye. Or you might succeed in rediscovering why you are together in the first place. Good luck! P.S. I didn't advise you to demand an apology from him, but I am expecting he will offer one. When I say don't go into it accusatory, I don't mean hold back on your feelings. I imagine you are hurt by what you've discovered: let him know. Just don't forget that you are in this together. Pitting you against him will go nowhere fast.