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by Nakki143 on February 28th, 2007

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My gf got drunk for the first time in her life and then a guy walked her to her room. He then kissed her and she kissed back, but litterly just one kiss. Then she told him to leave. been together for 4 years. would you leave her? I don't want to...

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  • by fruityloop on February 28th, 2007

    fruityloop

    If she was drunk for the first time in her life then it is very unlikely that she really knew what she was doing.

    It isn't a good sign though, if she gets drunk and allows herself to be led astray like that.

    She needs to learn not to drink to get drunk so the situation doesn't happen again.

    How does she feel about it now? Is she making light of it or is she showing genuine remorse or doesn't she even remember it properly?

    I think you should forgive her if it genuinely was a first time drunken mistake. 4 years is a long time to just give up.

    For me it would boil down to trust - can you trust her again or are you going to be suspicious every time she goes out without you?

    If you can't trust her you are better off not being in the relationship at all.

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  • by Simply msFortunate on February 28th, 2007

    Simply msFortunate

    Stick with her - you've been with her 4 years. She told the guy to leave, and she was obviously impaired. Since it was her first time being drunk, I doubt she realized the full effect that alcohol can have on judgement calls like that. Be careful, keep an eye on it, but I wouldn't worry about her too much.

    Best of luck!

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  • by VOD on February 28th, 2007

    VOD

    Stick with her and consider not drinking. Youll be better off.

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  • by Patti jo on August 19th, 2007

    Patti jo

    No let it go and at least she was honest with you . Four years down the drain over a kiss.

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  • by Gonzo on August 19th, 2007

    Gonzo

    For 1 kiss! No way, man.

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  • by Anonymous on July 4th, 2007

    Anonymous

    Don't you dare leave her she will be very uspest and possibly turn to more alcohol... You wanna waste 4 great years? Go find this guy (he is obviously taking advantage of her) and punch him in the face. Seriously man. I don't care if he is bigger than you (just don't get killed!) Don't leave her. The fact that you said you didn't want to makes me wonder why you asked the question here.

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  • by thinkin on February 28th, 2007

    thinkin

    Ok first i have never bought that whole I was to drunk to know what I was doing line, but is this the first time she has ever done anything like this? I would sit down with her and tell her look if you are going to come on strong to other guys and I have to find you kissing them then we are done. Play it by ear you should know her after 4 years but if your gut feeling is saying leave then listen.

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  • by Jewel on August 19th, 2007

    Jewel

    Oh sure. Leave her. And using the same yard stick, go out and shoot the dog for eating something that fell on the floor. Give away your car because it needs an oil change and lock your mom up in a closet because she argued with your dad.
    Sheesh. If you would consider leaving her after 4 years into a relationship because of a silly slip years before, then I think she should consider leaving you before you walk away and tear up her life over some other weird reason.

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  • by Jade on February 28th, 2007

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    That does not seem to be a serious indescretion, but it would depend if it would destroy your trust. I would say stick with her...alcohol does weird things to people sometimes.

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  • by brian646 on September 2nd, 2009

    brian646

    he obviously took advantage of her drunkeness.....she was incapacitated when she kissed him.......take care....Brian......

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  • by elena on April 21st, 2009

    elena

    are you gonna throw those four years for something stupid. you sould tell she cares about you because she kicked him out.so i say no...

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  • by Anonymous on January 27th, 2008

    Anonymous

    No. She made a mistake. How would you feel if she dumped you for the same reason?

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  • by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on August 19th, 2007

    killdrphil - reasonable for a madman

    No. I think you have to forgive her for that. Hey, kiss some girl. Then tell her you did. Fair is fair.

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  • by Amphetamine is alone again on August 19th, 2007

    Amphetamine is alone again

    One kiss is forgivable. Alcohol can distort situations, and as long as she learns to monitor what she's drinking from now on, so she doesn't find herself in that situation again.
    If it were me, I'd forgive one kiss

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  • by Naturals on August 16th, 2007

    Naturals

    To me its questionable... how did she know if she kissed the guy if she was so drunk, honestly it may have been a mistake but she needs to learn her limits and you need to eat some food because it makes no difference what happens if you waiste away. It clearly looks like you have a very stong connection so I say as long as your willing to dealwith it then fine.

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  • by the general on April 14th, 2007

    the general

    i think myself that i would let this one slide,the fact that she was really tanked and yet still wouldn t allow it to happen makes me think that she really can be trusted.stay with her,it sounds to me like you have a very special girl there.

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  • by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on August 19th, 2007

    DA BEN DAN yanggui zi

    for one kiss when she was drunk?...no, that is no reason to leave anyone.

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  • by rdrainer on August 19th, 2007

    rdrainer

    Are you kidding? This is your gold mine. Let her know that only way she can ever pay you back for this serious infraction of trust is a LOOOOOONG period of personal services. During this time, she will have to do each and every bit of your bidding, and make sure that you enjoy all of it. Milk it for everything it is worth, which could be a lot, depending on her sense of guilt. She could have just brought the two of you so close together that you will never want to leave her, or even consider it.

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  • by DJ Joe H on January 6th, 2008

    DJ Joe H

    Tell her this. If she ever gets drunk and accidentally kisses a guy DON'T TELL YOU ABOUT IT. Don;t even tell a friend about it. You'd never know otherwise. I know she wants to be honest with you about it but tell her that reporting that to you can only potentially stress out two people instead of just one.

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  • by Struckbyluv on September 14th, 2007

    Struckbyluv

    This sounds like a very minor offense. HOWEVER, it is important that you acknowledge to her that this hurt you and alcohol is not an excuse to cheat (even if it is a very, VERY minor case of cheating). Has your relationship been a healthy one for 4 years? If that is the case, talk to her about it, resolve it and let it go.

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  • by Brian I on August 19th, 2007

    Brian I

    Leave her because of one drunken kiss and then telling him to go, what sort of over the top response would that be? She told you about it and so obviously regrets it - forget all about it and get on with your lives.

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  • by kat tarrin-AYPWIP on February 28th, 2007

    kat tarrin-AYPWIP

    im a drinker i know that drunk feeling and how ur mind doesnt work when it comes to guys. that said talk to her find out what she remembers how she feels about it then make ur choice

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