I am more successful than my boyfriend (better home, job, car etc.) I don't care about this (i'll be his sugar mama it's cool) But he gets upset and insecure. How can I help him get over it?
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wow he sounds sexist and close minded... how can he?
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Come up with a different definition of 'success'
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I don't think there's anything you can do about it. It's something that he has to deal with on his end, as long as you aren't rubbing it in his face. You may offer to go to his place more often, let him drive, let him buy if he really wants to. This way he is aware that you are comfortable with what he has, and not disgusted by it or ashamed of it.
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Lots of problems facing you two. for a man, its a big ego trip downer, when his girlfriend or wife, makes and lives better than himself. most men may not admit this, but not being the big breadwinner, is an emotional no-no. I can understand his being insecure with this relationship. this problem is going to be difficult to resolve. his ego is not going away and neither is your social status. I predict an end will come here. your relationship may be great now, but he will never be secure, as long as you outweigh him in the money department. its just a man thing. Enjoy what you two have for the present. he will never accept his lower status and this will always create a problem, one that will not go away.
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I understand how you feel, im a teacher and earn more money than my boyfriend. It has and probably will cause more problems in the future when it comes to houses and property, holidays and general expenditure in life. Communication is key, you have to also get used to the fact you earn more and will have to pay the extra for those nice things you do. But would it be as much fun if you did it with someone else, or alone? If you love him and he makes you laugh then go for it and keep workin together. Look for his talents in other areas, even if they do not make money. Good luck x
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I understand how you feel, im a teacher and earn more money than my boyfriend. It has and probably will cause more problems in the future when it comes to houses and property, holidays and general expenditure in life. Communication is key, you have to also get used to the fact you earn more and will have to pay the extra for those nice things you do. But would it be as much fun if you did it with someone else, or alone? If you love him and he makes you laugh then go for it and keep workin together. Look for his talents in other areas, even if they do not make money. Good luck x
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I do not know how to help him, but I am jealous of him. not only is my wife unable to work at all, but her health prevents me from bringing in my full income which is already inadequate. he needs to grow up and not feel the need to compeet with you.
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If you guys are talking in these terms, he is NOT going to get over it. Maybe you both need to focus on his qualities rather than his wallet. Does he have goals that he is succeeding at? If not, making him weak by supporting him will not keep him happy or nurture this relationship.
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I understand his concern, its the same for me. I feel like I have something to prove to her now. She just landed an amazing job. It makes me wonder if i'll be in the picture. I must admit i'm feeling insecure about the little money that I do provide. I'm just not a very good sales person like she is. I do trust her. I just wonder if it will be enough to keep her happy. When you have time and feelings invested in someone, you hope that what you can offer is enough . It shouldn't be that way, but in our society, it seems to be ultra important,( what men bring to the table). Love isn't enough. only in our dreams it seems. maybe i'm wrong, but its been my experience.
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Encourage him to get into something he really enjoys doing. Then be supportive of him.
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Send him to this link: http://bit.ly/2iUcCdk It is about ''how to pickup girls'' but my boyfriend read it during our relationship and helped his self-confidence a lot! We had problems similar to this. But only, he was a bit worse. He couldn't go on drinks with me because he didn't have a job and so on. We didn't meet any people, we didn't go out at all... He found it him self and helped himself a lot! Cheers! :*
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1-9-2017 Sexist or not, couples where the woman makes more than the man usually don't last long.
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Boost his ego in other ways. Most men are simple. Sorry guys. Make him feel that in bed he is a God. Give him all the kinky sex you can muster and make sure you let him know he's the best EVER. At the very least it should make you both happy and boost his self esteem.
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officegirl I would have agreed with that when I was young but no longer. Maybe their egos are simple but not them. They need to be involved in something that they like or that has meaning for them or they can do well at for their self-esteem. All the sex. "kinky" or otherwise, in the world can't change that.
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5-14-2017 A woman who makes more than her husband almost never stays married to him very long.
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