I cry myself to sleep almost every night of the week. over a loss I recently had in my life. How do I make myself stop crying?
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Scrappy
ANSWERS: 11
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it's just part of your grieving process. you have to will yourself to stop & move on. if you can't, you might need to seek professional help to get over the loss.
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Just let it out. In time you wont get over it all the way but it wont be like it is now. Ive gone through the same thing quite a few times. My best friend died in a car accident and I would cry even when out with other friends. At least they are understanding about it, but its been a year now since his death and I still think about it but it gets better, give it time but in the meantime let it out, its okay, your not alone.
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I am sorry to hear about your loss. The best thing you can do right now is rely on friends and family for support. Open up to them and discuss your feelings. The worse thing you can do is shut down and push anyone that cares about you away. Again I am sorry about you loss.
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I'm sorry to hear that. But just think of them being in a better place. I lost my mom three years ago, so I understand how you feel. She died of cancer, and there are still times when I cry thinking about her. But I look at the positive: she's no longer in pain. It will be hard, but you will be able to pull through it. Don't forget that person at all, but just think about all the positive impacts that person made in your life and think of them that way, and not as a person who passed away. That person will still be with you in your heart.
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Sorry to hear that Scrappy. Crying is just part of the natural grieving process. It is healthy and normal to do it, eventually you will cry less and less often. In the meantime remember the happy moments you had with that person. {Big Hug}
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Matthew 11:28-29 "Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. "Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS. " Philipians 4:6 "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God" Deuteronomy 31:6 "Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you" Psalm 42:5-6 "Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rlio7lcORws
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You are grieving for someone you truly loved and it is a natural thing to do. However, if you carry on crying yourself to sleep you may need to have bereavement counselling to help you recover from your loss.
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time, baby, time...
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I agree with every answer so far, and I've been there. I hated to go to sleep because I would cry and cry. What I ended up doing was staying awake in another room (and sometimes crying) but I wouldn't go to bed until I was over-tired. Then I went right to sleep and the bed did not remind me of anything except sleep. If you've read other answers of mine, I did this years before I developed insomnia and other sleep/breathing disorders. I hope all of these answers help you. Hugs. +3
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If the loss was recent you can be sure that it is part of the grieving process and perfectly normal to feel the emotion creep up on you when it is quiet. If it persists for too long you might want to speak to a doctor about bereavement counselling but I wouldn't think like that yet. What I always finds helps when I have lost someone is to talk to them - to tell them how I am feeling and how much I miss them. A friend of mine taught me a little ceremony to help - write your goodbyes down and roll up the note. Place it in a fireproof bowl with three tealights around it in a triangle (the top of the triangle away from you). Light the note and the candles and sit concentrating on your loved one until the last candle burns out. Take the ashes of the note outside and let them blow away in the wind. When I did this I felt an overwhelming peace and warmth that no amount of crying could induce. Sorry for your loss - take care.
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You shouldn't try and make yourself stop crying. There is an apparent reason for it and it's healthy.
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