It sound's like you've already forgiven him - At the same time can you not ever bring it up again ? Or are you making excuse's for his behavior by saying he's sooo sorry - Just think about how you truly feel inside

I find it hard to put my mind around "cheating" when someone isn't in a committed relationship. If you wanted him to be exclusive to you, then you should be married to him. He didn't cheat, he is just sampling the sexual techniques of other women like you. I doubt he is really sorry, he would probably do it again given the chance, that is just the way men are. Sounds like he wants to blame what he did on the binge drinking. Find a guy that doesn't get so wasted that he can't get a woman off his jock.

If it was me I would end the relationship. I wouldn't stay with someone who was unfaithful if we weren't already married.

Being a boyfriend means a committed relationship even if it isn't marriage yet. Drunken foolishness is an excuse, not a reason. The fact that he told you may have been for his own relief of guilt for hiding something from you rather than remorse for actually doing it. Perhaps he isn't ready for a committed relationship and rather than suffer heart ache from repeated infidelity, it might be better to leave the relationship and look for someone actually looking for commitment?

Leave him. Wait to love somebody who is ready to be loved exclusively. OR -- get used to the idea that this is not a committed relationship, but rather, a relationship in which you can never be sure where he's been or what diseases he's picked up; never be sure if he values you, or values sex whether it's with you or someone else. 1. He is obviously not ready to be in a committed relationship. As one of the other answerers said, he's out there "sampling" other women. 2. He could easily catch a disease from "sampling" -- even from oral sex alone -- and give it to you. If you can't trust him to be faithful, you can't trust him to tell you each and every time he is UNfaithful. You could DIE from him wandering around "sampling." Or, if he "only" gives you syphilis or PID or something like that, you could be made sterile. For life. 3. How can you respect a man who treats you this way? 4. How can you respect a man who treats this drunken party girl this way? Who takes sex from her, and then... then what? Runs off, back to his "real" girlfriend? (And please note, he took satisfaction from her and, by his own report, didn't GIVE her any satisfaction. What the heck was that about, if not more proof of selfishness?) I'm not trying to be harsh, I'm trying to get you to look at this with some self-respect instead of all this pity for his drunken promiscuity. Sympathy for him = no respect for yourself. You deserve better, Soccergurl. Take care of yourself. A disease, a pregnancy, or "just" a broken heart now can mess you up for a very long time. And by the way, if he's using alcohol as an excuse for this... what else will it be used to excuse down the road?

Only you know this man's personality and his motives for confessing. Does he believe honesty is the best policy? Or does he routinely do things that he later apologies for? Confession aside, cheating five months into a relationship is not a good sign. The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. If he expects you to forgive him, he needs to prove himself to you going forward, until you can trust him again. If you take him back, you need to understand that you could be setting yourself up for disappointment and hurt again.

I love my boyfriend for life, but if he got head from another girl I would break his nose and send him on his way. I would always love him but forgive him for that? No way! Being drunk is an excuse. I am sorry but I have been drunk many, many times and never cheated...YOU deserve to be with someone with self control and who respects you more. He is a grown up I am assuming, he has a choice of what situations he places himself. Good Luck.

Its your right to choose to forgive him. Its also your right to dump him. The fate of your relationship is in your hands and you do not lose face no matter what you choose. But if he ever cheats on you again you need to dump him right away.

Give the guy a second chance, he came and told you, you didn't find out, if it happens again, dump him...

If you stay with him, he will likely cheat again. In my experience, when your boyfriend cheats, and you forgive him, it is sort of like showing him that there aren't consequences to his bad behaviour. Do not put up with someone who disrespects you like that. A 6 month old relationship just isn't worth sacrificing your health and heart for. It'll be hard, but I think you should end it. You deserve respect from the guys you date, and cheating is NOT respectful.

Did you both have an understanding that you couldn't see anyone else? Only 6 months so... Normally I would say leave him but I will say give him a second chance for these reasons: 1. He came and told you about it. That shows that he really cares about you and is probably truly sorry. 2. He probably had zero emotional attachment to her. He was drunk and she blew him. Probably felt the same way during that as he does while masturbating.

I'm not gonna tell you whether you should stay or leave him; That's gonna be a personal call of trust. All I can say is that if he stays, I would put it on the condition that he never puts himself in a position for that to happen again. By that I mean getting smashed & being alone with another girl.

I would probably leave him. Chances are he will do it again.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, they are always sorry! Same old story. I suggest you leave him sooner than later otherwise you will only prolong your pain and heartache. He isnt going to change. Dont waste anymore time with him.