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I am convinced when I spare the rod I would spoil my children.
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I was smacked when I was little - a lot - so clearly it didn't work or they wouldn't have felt the need to do it so much. It may make some behave, but children are individuals. Some respond only to punishment, some respond well only to praise for good actions. On my experience, I wouldn't smack my children. It seems pointless to me and teaches kids that violence is acceptable.
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Smacking them doesn't make them behave, teaching them right from wrong makes them behave. No child is born knowing what good behavior looks like. You have to take the time to teach them. Spanking them (under really tightly controlled conditions) reinforces the teaching. That should not be the only tool in the toolbox, however. It is just one tool, along with praise and hugs for good behavior and other consequences, such as losing toys and privileges, to teach them to avoid bad behavior. If all you are doing is hauling off and smacking the kid whenever they do something you don't like, all you are going to do is produce an angry kid.
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behave as kids possibly, but not as teens or adults.
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