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by PrettyPirate on May 24th, 2009
What a terribly sad situation.
Ultimately, I don't think it's a good or bad idea. There are a fairly equal amount of negatives and positives each way. Forcing his children to get sober and clean is good, but at the same time, that kind of thing is never easy and people should be given some leeway to make mistakes or have bad days.
There is also the possibility that they will remain sober and clean until the estate is theres and then go right back to being dependent on drugs and alcohol. People with severe dependency issues are very, very clever at doing what needs to be done to get a fix. The fix is their priority - not STAYING clean. Of course, this isn't always the case.
They may also remain clean and go on to live happy, fulfilled lives. Either way, this situation is very sad and is going to cause pain to people.
by DreAnna on May 24th, 2009
Well..seems a little extreme, but, I guess if they want the money that bad, they will deal with it. :)
by Kewl Guy - has gone 360 on May 24th, 2009
better to give themn a chance to clean up before inheriting the estate then letting them just piss it off on drugs and alcohol
by Gone on May 24th, 2009
A father has the right to inflict this clause for the better of his children - if they can do this for a year the chances are (hopefully)free from their addictions. Secondly no doubt this guy worked damn hard to leave his legacy - I say fair play to him!
Let the guy have the last word and try and straighten out his kin
by Eidelweiss on May 24th, 2009
It's his stuff, his rules, his controlling behavior even after he is gone...
by tonsofun on May 24th, 2009
Depending on past actions by the children, one year may be enough for them to clean up. Stranger clauses are written in wills. Dad might know best.
by buxtonite ..slowly losing my mind on May 24th, 2009
bad...bad...bad!, who the hell does he think he is trying to run his kids lives even after he's kicked the bucket... they should tell him to stick it up his arse and let this fool take it with him ...bloody jerk!!!
by Anonymous on November 30th, 2009
Good idea. I wouldn't want to leave my money to someone without any real character. If he gives it to Bill Gates' charity it will probably be used well. I do think he should leave each daughter enough to get along on for that one year, though -- get a good car, an apartment -- and guidance for staying busy in a good way (school, music, a job) so they'll get a taste of the good life. I think the year ought to start up to a month after the reading of the will, too, to give them a chance to test the waters and slip up and get back on track.
There's no way (if I had control) I would leave the money (i.e., freedom and opportunity) to a person who was more interested in maintaining a personal high than in studying to become a doctor or someone else who would contribute to society.
by john pennington on May 24th, 2009
Why is Sunday excluded? drug users know no day of the week.
Its a great idea for one year, but if they are drug users, think what will happen after the reading of the will and the year has ended?
Good idea, kinda.
The money should given monthly, based on a drug free screening. no money for a neg. result. no lump sum.
This will keep them in line, at least until the money runs out.
by schmee2369 on May 24th, 2009
Y are sundays excluded?...and if his daughters needed to be forced into being sober for a year to please their fathers will it shouldnt be done. And its NOT a good idea to make them sober, cuz after they get that money, on the last day...its gonna be a PARTY!!! no more rules, regulations...tests...lets take the money and PARTY!!...Is exactly what is gonna be done. its like when people get offa probation, first thing they do is party. I would tell then they better quit whatever it is they do TODAY, AND STAY CLEAN or they wont get any money at all....maybe they would turn their life around. But...money to drug addicts or alcoholics...isnt a very good idea, at all...AT ALL.
My mom left me her home and all the furnishings in her home except things specifically noted elsewhere in her will. what does that mean?
by ldm07 on March 4th, 2011
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My step dad passed in March with no will. My mom is still living. Are his kids entitled to anything even if he disowned them years ago?
by Jean_M2243 on May 15th, 2011
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My Dads wife of 16 months made him change titles AFTER he made his will(she WASN'T named)Is she entitled to the jointly owned property?
by pammylynn2 on April 10th, 2011
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I am confused as to how a trust works compared to a will. Once I draw up the papers on line, it has to be signed and notorized, correct?
by Anonymous on March 2nd, 2011
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My late wife and I had a trust for our kids. I removed all the monies and paid for my kid's college. Can my kid's come after me?
by sunmariner07 on March 22nd, 2011
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You're reading A friend requires that his daughters be drug and alcohol free for an entire year after the reading of his will, or their share of his estate is donated to charity. It also mandates DAILY substance testing (only Sundays are excluded). Good idea? Bad?
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I know them, personally.
There is NO WAY that they are gonna get their inheritances. No way.
They will "use & abuse," and the provisions of the Will won't allow them to get their money, which is SUBSTANTIAL.
They have to have blood tests EVERY SINGLE DAY, except Sundays.
Trust me, they'll fail, miserably.
Both of them are total losers.
Sad.
+6 for your input
by Anonymous on June 12th, 2009
Nobody is born a loser. People like that, more often than not, have suffered greatly in their lives. Perhaps you could be a little more compassionate instead of being so self-righteous.
by PrettyPirate on June 12th, 2009
I'm NOT being self-righteous.
I know them better than ANYONE on AB.
They came from a very well-to-do family, with LOTS of money, and squandered much of their money on illegal narcotics and booze.
The provisions in the Will are indeed JUSTIFIED.
My statements about them, STAND.
by Anonymous on June 12th, 2009
Why are you yelling the last word of every sentence? You know them better than anyone else here - so what? You asked for opinions. If you're not prepared to hear opinions that differ from yours or that cast you into a less-than-perfect light, then don't ask them. Making a statement and trying to mask it as a question doesn't really work around here. You're not the only one with brains.
by PrettyPirate on June 12th, 2009
Why are you afraid of capital letters?
If you don't like my emphasis, don't read it.
You're probably intelligent enough to figure that out.
Maybe...
by Anonymous on June 12th, 2009
Wow. Attacking my intelligence is the best you can come up with? I expected more from someone who chose the name "Mensan". If you're going to link yourself to the high IQ society, the very least you could do is act like you have some mental and emotional intelligence.
by PrettyPirate on June 12th, 2009
It appears that your sole purpose for being a part of the AB community is to denigrate, demean, debase and destroy, with insults and non-constructive criticisms. And, I'm sure that with your inability to engage in spirited debate and intelligent discourse, you'll carefully examine this entire response for spelling errors, or childishly equate all capital letters as "yelling," rather than calling them by their proper designation: emphasis (or, "stress").
I came to this website for three reasons: To have fun (primarily), to cure my ignorance on a variety of subjects, and to perhaps give a viewpoint or an answer not previously seen in another participant's questions.
I did not join AB to make any enemies, nor to encourage anyone to vilify me, due to my non-Christian beliefs (to which I am entitled).
I respectfully suggest you attempt to torment someone else, because I am really not interested in that aspect of your psyche.
by Anonymous on June 12th, 2009
Oh God. Save the self-righteous and pseudo-intelligent spiel for someone else. You're not impressive, at all. I could not possibly care less about your religious views - you really don't need to inform me that you're entitled to believe in whatever you want. I don't care about your beliefs, or lack thereof. Also, you should really attempt to step out of the dark-ages and acquaint yourself with internet etiquette. Capital letters is seen by the majority of people as yelling. In fact, it is strongly discouraged on this site because of that. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Netiquette I suppose you're arrogant enough to believe that these rules don't apply to you, but you're living in a Generation Y world, and I can assure you, they do. However, if you're determined to be pompous and over-bearing in all you do, that's your prerogative. Just expect to be called on it. Have a very pleasant day.
by PrettyPirate on June 13th, 2009
You have a pleasant day, too.
I look forward to the day when you grow up and act just like you claim I should behave.
(I could care less what "the majority" see all caps, as.)
If we truly had "majority rule" in the USA, there would be no Federal Income Tax.
by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009
I'm not American, thank Christ.
by PrettyPirate on June 13th, 2009
"We" are so fortunate that you're not.
by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009
Yes, because having a highly educated, young, attractive, professionally established and personally comfortable female like me is the very last thing America things. Riiiiiiiight.
by PrettyPirate on June 13th, 2009
You left out, "modest."
by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009
Modesty is over-rated. Anyway, you're American, what would you know about modesty?
by PrettyPirate on June 13th, 2009
Now THAT is a truly excellent and highly intelligent point!
I'm sorry I can't give it a +6.
I can hardly wait for your next insult.
They're getting better with practice, I see.
by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009
*yawn*
by PrettyPirate on June 13th, 2009
You have the last yawn.
by Anonymous on June 13th, 2009