I wish I knew. The guy I lost my virginity to certainly did not respect me as he went back to his ex two weeks later and said I was a neurotic that would need therapy when I was older. I was very hurt by the experience.

If they're a virgin too, I'd imagine they'd enjoy the 'deflowering'. What about women who 'deflower' virgin men? How do they feel about it? They do it because it can be done, and (hopefully) because it's consensual.

I don't see why someone taking someone's virginity when they have no intention of marrying them means they disrespect them. This is how I see it, it's probably different for most other people, but there you go. Sex is an action. It doesn't have any real meaning to it unless you put some kind of meaning to it. Sex before marriage has been frowned upon for generations, so it is hardly surprising that so many put an emotional connection with it, and particularly women it has to be said, in general put more emotional connection with sex. Now some men having sex with a virgin (I'm sorry, I just can't use the word deflorating) is like a kind of achievement, God knows why. This is shallow and pathetic really, as it is no real achievement. But other guys just see it as another sexual partner. You know, this can work vice versa too. Women can have sex with a virgin guy and not marry them. It doesn't mean there is no respect, it basically means they wanted to have sex with them, they had sex with them, there was no life long comitment intended. I believe most men do respect all women, despite whether they have had sex with them or not, and despite whether they were a virgin at the time or not

I know it's sad that the guy you first have sex with doesn't care much about you. What percentage of men still have the good old-fashioned moral values? Unfortunatly not many from my experience. Does it really help that the some women have become less feminine and have started to embrace the drinking/partying "ladette" culture of the big cities. What exactly does it that to convince a man that you are a female who they should respect and not toss aside like a empty kebab wrapper? Could it be that in womens quest to gain respect we have got it completely wrong and de-valued ourselves?

Im a woman, I have many guy friends. Certain male friends (who shll remain name-less) used to make sport of taking a girls virginity, be with them 24-7, love them up until they got 2 'deflower' them. They are remorseful now, but at the time felt no respect for the girls. But each guy is different, to some guys it may mean something,to others it may not. Girl has to respect her self before a guy can. That is to say if the girl wants marriage and the guy knows this, the guy doesnt want marriage but she still has sex with him she is dis-respectin herself, so why should he respect her? If the girl is willing, to have no strings attached sex and the guy wants to, there maybe a mutual respect for his like-minded FB, but thats another can of worms.

I am female and this is going to sound bad but I am happy my first basicly drop kicked me like a bad habbit. I was bitter and mad for along time but it was a lesson I had to learn and there was no other way. There are alot of guys that only one thing and they are willing to act like they are your everything for it. My parrents told me that but I was so innocent that I could not imagine anyone really lieing about love. Now my innocence is gone and I know you really can't trust guys . You have to see how long they stick around and pay attention to their actions not their words. Sometimes that does not even work. But I would not give up the knowlage I got from the expierience no matter how much amount of pain it caused me.

I would feel guilty because you have spoilt her , when she gets married , her husband will have to live with the fact that other men have already been there. He has to live with it for the rest of his life , she cant undo the harm by arguing that it didnt mean anything or that it was before they met etc.. Nearly all men want their wives to be virgins , as for the ones that dont. Well , I'm completely baffled.

How do we know that they won't marry the female? What if the female has no intention of marrying him? It isn't as if women want to marry every guy they have sex with. I'm not sure where this assumption comes from, rather than blind, traditional ignorance. What is this "deflorating"? Do you mean "deflowering"? I can assure you that no females naturally have flowers there, nor do said flowers disappear after she has sex. No, I don't answer your question, as I think your question is inherently flawed and sexist.

I'm happy that no other man has pentrated my wife , she gave herself to me , it was a beautiful experience. I dont see her as spoilt , she would be spoilt if she had had sex with someone else. Her value doesnt lie in this quality only , it is just one piece of the jigsaw , I dont know what misogynistic means but it sounds good to me!

They do it for a game. They think it makes them more manly some how. That whole "fist one ot the top of the mountain wins" mindset. Most of them don't respect the girl and they use what ever they have at their disposal to get it. Sad thing is they're preying on young girls who haven't got a clue what's going on because nobody's ever sat them down and told them what's what. They really believe these guys care about them and when they get tossed away it destroys them. What's worse is the guys have now been programmed that women are there for their pleasure they could care less how she feels. Now the girls are getting the same message that sex is just a game with no emotions or consequences attached.

Sex is emotional - ALWAYS. The question is which emotions. A man has sex with girls to prove he is better than them, ruin them, or to love them. Men seek virgins to sacrifice on their ego of "Told you that you aren't better than me" altar. It is to make his ego able to say "I'm not so bad, she's bad too". There is NO respect for a girl who has sex. Respect takes work to protect her. Guys today do not want to protect a woman, just put them down some how. Men laugh at women that will have sex with them and brag about how we turned another girl into a sex machine. We know that if we can get you having orgasms it is only a matter of time till you will have sex with us and once you start you can't turn off the sex urges. We got you and can pass you around at will. You can't help it once you start. Respect? There isn't any before the sex, now that he has your virginity he must do something to prove he isn't a bad person, so he will blame you, run away, and laugh at you. Just to cover up his feelings of hurting you by taking away the only thing you have of value. It is a selfish action of not letting another guy be more important than him to you to get your virginity, and being just as important to you as the last guy if you aren't a virgin. Men are just playing King-of-the-Hill.

My Love considers the number of girls he's "deflowered" as unfortunate. He hates hurting them. It's not a pride thing for him, and he doesn't like thinking about it. We broke up for a while, and I pointed out his new girlfriend was a virgin, and he smacked his forehead- "goddammit, how does that keep happening?" So not all men are pigs, if that's what you meant to imply by your tone.

im a a guy i can see what your asking about, but im still a virgin at 18, i always had the perfect picture of myself loosing my virginity with the girl i love but the girl i love is someone iv known for over 8 years. its sound really strange even tho im a virgin but i wish i was her first i wish i could be the one to treat like a queen, but its not the case shes been there and now im the one with her holding my heart hoping i dont treated badly. so some guys do go through the same expirence as girls cos im seriously worried im going to get hurt its all down to love and trust in the end. i know i would treat a virgin with care and delicacy if im ever in that situation. not all guys are the same

What year is it...1954? "why they do it" because people have sex. "considering they wont marry the girl" speak for yourself, man..thats an outdated thought process.

i dunno but im a guy an i do believe in marryin a girl first cause im the kind of guy who only wants the real thing the real love

At a young age, it means more to the girl then it does to the guy..in most cases, not all. It takes guys far longer to grow-up then it does girls and this is very evident in love and sex. Most girls do it for the emotion and most guys do it because it's a new experience.

What do men feel deflowering a virgin? With me? Awkward if i know about it. It really adds performance pressure because you don't want to turn the girl off sex, and lets face it, we can't always be at our peak. Of course two folks overcome by lust don't usualy realize that one of them was a virgin till after the fact. Why do they do it? With me? I actually prefer partners who aren't virgins. They have experience and know what they want in bed. Of course if I was in love (or in lust) with a virgin I would still sleep with them. Lastly you dn't need to be a virgin to get married. That is a lie told by men who sleep around to get a woman that can't tell how crap they are in bed.

Various reasons why guys like it; 1:Bragging rights- Guys can be pigs. We like to compare score with other guys 2: Apparent cleanliness- perception that a virgin is less likely to be "unclean" 3: Tight (sorry but that is true)- A virgin is less stretched out. Before girls get mad at that one let us not forget that many women want guys with huge dicks and it is for exactly the same reason so ladies don't get angry at this one unless you feel sex with a 5 incher is as good as sex with a 9 incher with twice the width. 4: Possessiveness-Some guys want to feel that she is theirs only 5: Insecurity- Can't compare him to other guys so he can always be amazing (provided he is gentle) 6: Mysoginistic sadism- Sadly some guys get off on hearing a women cry in pain during sex, the fear in her eyes and hypeventilation before just before penetration, the wimpers and comments of "easy..easy..go slow..ouch..please" as he starts putting it in, the sudden yelp/scream when he rips the hymen (if it is still there), the wimpering, gritting of teeth with the eyes shut tight while she says "ouch..ouch...please slow down...it hurts" as he pounds away like a jackhammer makes some jerks feel like men. I have heard soem virgin hunters brag about this and one even admitted that was the primary attraction of virgins for him. For me when I was in high school it was primarily the attraction of her being very tight (which was a wee bit exagerated in common folklore). The reality was that I had to go so much slower to avoid hurting her (I was a gentleman), that it more than overcompensated for the tightness. A bit over-rated I thought.