You should start by not using the word "like" before each sentence. You are not a failure. You wrote a pretty good question and that says something for your talent.

Accept that you are are allowed to fail as long as you learn from it. Then its the old say time is a great healer in a month or two it won't feel as bad as it does now:>) P.S stay positive.

The problem is just that you don't know who you are, really. So, your mind latches on to various bits of experience, and uses them to "invent" your identity -- uses them to tell you who you are. So if you don't know who you are, and you fail at several things in a row, your mind is likely to say ... "Oh! I must be a failure!" The trouble is, the mind isn't sure. There's just no way to be sure whether you're a failure or not, it's not enough information. Maybe you're just going through tough times, yes? If you were SURE you were a failure, you could stop worrying about it -- case closed. But you're not sure, so you try to "shake it off", hoping to avoid being a failure. The same problem occurs with success, btw -- people who are very successful, but do not know who they are, cannot really rest. No matter how many successes they pile up, they can never quite relax and be SURE that they "are a success". They have to keep on winning and winning and winning in a vain attempt to pile up enough evidence that they really are somebody. So really, there's just no substitute for finding out who you really are. That's the only thing that cuts through all this churning mental noodling, whether it's positive or negative.

Failure by whose standards? Seriously. Who set your standards? You? Your parents? The public? An unemployed single mother who may not be able to make money nor have a good romantic relationship BUT sees her children being happy and positive...to some, they may classify this mother as a failure but to her, she may see her children and KNOW that she's a success in raising healthy, positive human beings. That's all that matters to her. Define your own achievements and success. Please don't compare yourself to other people. If you're having a difficult time finishing a task, however small, make yourself finish it, no matter how long it takes and then pat yourself on the back for completing it. Work on getting rid of the word "failure" out of your vocabulary. Make a goal and then list small steps to work towards your goal and then reward yourself. Not only by indulging in something you love to do but also with a positive self-talk.

I wrestle with this question every minute of every day. And it's such a subjective thing. What you perceive as failure someone else may not. I don't think there's an easy answer to this one. I guess you can either not be quite so hard on yourself, but if that occurs you start to lower your standards. However, if you're TOO hard on yourself then you thwart any forward momentum with your own depression or anger over your feelings. I think the answer is somewhere in the middle. Sorry - not a definitive answer, but I don't think there is one.

Listen, kid, you'll never be as big a loser as me. You might as well see the bright side of things because as long as you live you'll never be as big a loser as me! I've talked to you. You're no loser. Someone is making you feel bad. Screw them!