by Yanstari on May 15th, 2009

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Is three weeks into a new relationship too soon to be considering living together?

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  • by AK First Blitz on May 15th, 2009

    AK First Blitz

    Way , waY, TOO SOON. Relationships ARE HARD ENOUGHT WITHOUT STARTING OUT HAVING TO DEAL WITH EACH OTHERS FAULTS IN THE BEGINNING.

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  • by Calypto on May 15th, 2009

    Calypto

    It depends.
    How long have you known this person before you started dating?
    That's the deciding factor, I think.

    People say first impressions are only on the first meeting commonly, but I disagree.
    I think people are often so self-conscious of the "all-important" first impression, that they keep trying to make a good one one or maybe even two months after getting introduced to a new person.
    And, as we all know, how people act when they try to make a first impression is not representative of who they really are. They lie and cheat and generally do everything they can to make themselves look good.

    So if you've only known this person three weeks, then chances are you don't know them at all, aside from what lengths they will go to to impress you.
    And I would say that, is not a good enough foundation for living together.

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  • by twist and shout on May 15th, 2009

    twist and shout

    Mayb keep your stuff in boxes coz chances are you will be on the move again in another 3!!!

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  • by Little Miss Sunshine on May 15th, 2009

    Little Miss Sunshine

    Put it this way... you will find out soon enough when eachothers bad habits either grate or not!

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  • by Cally4214 on May 15th, 2009

    Cally4214

    My BF moved in after a week and we are still together after 7 years... so it may work...:)

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  • by Cyanotic Wasp on May 15th, 2009

    Cyanotic Wasp

    Not for hamsters or rabbits.

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  • by Level 47 And Counting... on May 15th, 2009

    Level 47 And Counting...

    i think so 3 weeks is DEFINITELY not enough time to get to know someone

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  • by Ocean Flower on August 26th, 2009

    Ocean Flower

    You will never really know until you do...too soon for some...ok for others...just follow your gut instinct!

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  • by Wonder Woman on August 24th, 2009

    Wonder Woman

    Yes.

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  • by AIR_INDIA_says_Wass_Up on October 3rd, 2009

    AIR_INDIA_says_Wass_Up

    relationship takes time , to understand the partne you need to spend some time , know all his aspects and then decide :)

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  • by Violet on September 25th, 2009

    Violet

    yes!

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  • by Kira on August 31st, 2009

    Kira

    It is too soon. You just started this relationship and it's new and you're barely getting to know this person. You should give it more time because you don't this person well enough to live with them.

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  • by CinnamonWhirl on August 26th, 2009

    CinnamonWhirl

    I agree with another answer , "Would you be asking the opinion of others if you were sure?"

    But as an example which might help, I met my boyfriend when i was 17, I'd known him for about two weeks when my mum went into hospital and he stayed with me almost every night and ended up living in my mum's house with me while she was in hospital for 6 months. He then ended up living with me in my student halls and now I'm 19, he's 20 and we live together in a flat and we have had no problems at all.

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  • by Anonymous on November 2nd, 2009

    Anonymous

    I moved in with my bf 3 days and are still together 1 year later...Good luck you never know....

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  • by jaygee on October 17th, 2009

    jaygee

    Not a good idea cause you both are still adjusting to each others personalities. It would be very rare that you could move in after such a short time of knowing each other and still make it work. Dont rush it and time will tell.

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  • by edu on November 6th, 2009

    edu

    There's a reason you are asking total strangers this question: your subconscious mind knows it's not right.

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  • by Ms.A on November 6th, 2009

    Ms.A

    Yes.Are you kidding?

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  • by Derf on October 15th, 2009

    Derf

    Probably, after three weeks, you two havn't even gotten past the novelty of a new relationship yet.

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  • by pandora on November 6th, 2009

    pandora

    Yes and no. It depends on a lot of things.
    Why do you guys feel the need to live together. Are you both saying you are ready for a life time commitment? Some people just know they are meant to be, so why wait. (My husband and I moved in together after a month and a half and we have been married for 27 years, going on 28 in Feb.)
    If not then that means either you both have doubts or one of you do and you guys should take time to think about things and see where it leads. Its easy to move in and live together but not that easy to break up and kick someone to the curb when you feel you made a mistake. Especially if its your place and you have no intentions on being the one who has to move out but the other person is still in love with you.

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  • by Capital J on November 6th, 2009

    Capital J

    yes

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  • by Leansquad23 on October 15th, 2009

    Leansquad23

    Well, that depends on how long you've ACTUALLY known the person. If you just met them recently then this SHOULDN'T EVEN BE A QUESTION TO ASK BECAUSE YOU ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER.

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  • by Anonymous007 on August 24th, 2009

    Anonymous007

    YES WAY TOO SOON, get to know eachother first slow down

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  • by kaboodle on August 24th, 2009

    kaboodle

    No times are tough nowadays so just think of it more as a roomie situation and rent month by month that way you can get out if you need to

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  • by waynechriss on August 24th, 2009

    waynechriss

    It really depends on how much knowledge you have on this person. Trust is a fine quality but if you don't know her living habits then you'll go into this blindly. I suggest getting to know her more, know enough that you can feel safe living with her.

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  • by justchattin on August 24th, 2009

    justchattin

    99% sure, yes.
    Are you the other 1%? It may be possible.
    Would you be asking the opinion of others if you were sure?

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  • by lonelydragon on August 24th, 2009

    lonelydragon

    Since you need to ask, you're obviously not ready. Three weeks is way too soon. Heck, I'd say that even three months is way too soon. You should date for at least a year so that you know each other well before moving in together. Living together is a big commitment. You need to know that your personalities and habits are compatible.

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  • by BROADWAYTHECAT on August 17th, 2009

    BROADWAYTHECAT

    yes...really, how well can you know this person after only 3 weeks?

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  • by Ocean Flower on August 15th, 2009

    Ocean Flower

    Hell yeah! Don't do it! You want to enjoy the dating type stuff for a bit longer.

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  • by Marc on August 15th, 2009

    Marc

    May be yes for the normal ones. Not for the special ones

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  • by dogland on August 17th, 2009

    dogland

    WAY TOO SOON. Of course it may work for some couples but I think those cases are exceptions.

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  • Have we all learned nothing from Judge Judy? Her show is full of people suing each other after living together arrangements beak down because the parties involved knew too little about each other before taking the plunge.

    If you do move in togteher after 3 weeks, you deserve whatever misery you get, especially if either of you have children who will be exposed to this household.

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  • by barsoom_redux on August 26th, 2009

    barsoom_redux

    If you aren't sure... then your not ready. I met a girlfriend and by three weeks I was ready to move in together. We didn't, until around three months and by that time I knew I wanted to marry her.

    One month ago we had our 28th Anniversary.

    It's all about being sure.

    Hope this helps.

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  • by Anonymous on September 25th, 2009

    Anonymous

    whoa! YES, it is. pump your brakes, sweetheart!

    you guys are still high on new relationship energy and the thrill of its potential to be something great. usually, at the start of a relationship emotions/sex/connection are intense and that ends up blinding us to some of the less positive traits of that person - everything they do seems cute/sexy/amazing/arousing and because you think that person so great you might not seriously consider that maybe you guys have very different lifestyles, have different habits, and so on and so on...

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  • by Sexyrabbit on September 25th, 2009

    Sexyrabbit

    Yes, strangers know each other better. :)

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  • by LovelyRita on October 3rd, 2009

    LovelyRita

    There are probably some who have been able to make that arrangement work, but there are most likely a LOT more who have failed. Moving in together really does make the relationship a lot more complex, and after three weeks probably most people don't know each other well enough to open up and really give that much trust over.

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  • by ♥AngelHeart♥ on September 25th, 2009

    ♥AngelHeart♥

    It depends on how comfortable you are with each other and how honest you both are. Go with your gut feeling. If it feels right, it could very well be the best thing you have ever done. But only make this important decision if you are totally comfortable with it.

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  • by Nod.Coltsfan on August 31st, 2009

    Nod.Coltsfan

    Its real quick, so just make sure you have some place to go incase it does fail. With that said, if you love them, why not as long as you work out all the details and don't jump into it.

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  • by weatherman taking week or so off on August 31st, 2009

    weatherman taking week or so off

    It depends. After the first night, did the other partner never leave? Three weeks together continuously is a pretty good sign....

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  • by crooked_shaft on August 31st, 2009

    crooked_shaft

    unless it is a one of those have to things I would wait just a little longer but if you both kind of need the room mate thing anyway than go ahead but I would still rather not have to move them in that soon I would wait for atleast 3 months.

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  • by Jane on August 31st, 2009

    Jane

    i should say so.

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  • by royal77 says hello friend on August 15th, 2009

    royal77 says hello friend

    I would say that it is too soon.

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