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by classylady on November 15th, 2009
Please Google "narcissist". These are people who can never be happy, and if you try to stick with them, you will find you will never make them happy, either. No, they like themselves, and what you might be if you would only listen. Please tell us you're not married. Hope not. Follow up and read that definition, or get busy with Google, before you change your life to sheer hell. There are actually support groups for people who ended up loving someone with these personality disorders (they are usually handsome/beautiful and charming at first, and will win you over). That's right, a disorder, which means that they choose to be this way, and because you can never tell them anything, they are always right, they will never change in their nitpicking. They usually only do it behind closed doors, to the point it becomes controlling and abusive. To everyone else, they are model citizens, and can convince everyone else how stupid you are, too, including all their friends, judges when they finally divorce you, everyone. It isn't a chemical imbalance that can be modified with drugs. It is big trouble. Women who do this are called "naggers". Men who do it are "selfish bastards". Believe me, you will NEVER do anything right, and probably die trying, but before you do, it is you that will get the high blood pressure, other stresser symptoms, and finally cancer. They, however, will be fine. After all, they tried everything to help you. It was your problem that you got sick and died, because you just wouldn't listen to them.
Good luck with that.
by Lion Heart sleeps on May 15th, 2009
yes, I believe they care for me and suggesting some things that will make my personality even better!
by Stranger in a Strange Land on November 15th, 2009
No, I would consider that person a pest and avoid them. +3
by Tel UK- Licensed to fish! on May 15th, 2009
Hardly....
by alwayscurious on May 15th, 2009
No, I would think that they don't like me.
by Henderson on August 22nd, 2009
I wouldn't listen to requests to change simply because I don't want to be someone else rather than who I am.
by -Icy- on August 20th, 2009
i would not stick around long enough to find out if that is how they treat me if they like me, just imagine the hell on earth if they loved me. +5
by Firebrand on August 20th, 2009
I would think that they liked what they WANTED me to be .
by dreamgirl on November 19th, 2009
dont take their shit, basically they are insecure with themselved so find joy out of hating on others and no they really dont like you if they want to change you so drastically its pathetic
by BROADWAYTHECAT on August 22nd, 2009
no...and i'd put lots of distance between the two of us because there is no reason for someone to relentlessly complain or find fault with me...i'm not perfect but i won't put up with that!
by CaRbOnPrOdUcK is Baccuss on August 22nd, 2009
I would wonder how they found me, and why, because I would never associate with a person who relentlessly complained or found fault with me.
by CaptainHarley adores his life penguin on August 22nd, 2009
No. They probably like certain aspects of you, but not the whole person. This sounds like someone you need to avoid.
by spooner on August 22nd, 2009
No, I don't and where did you meet my boyfriend??
by justchattin on August 20th, 2009
Why would you want to know them?
by Merriment on August 20th, 2009
No I wouldn't.
And I would also question how good they really felt about themselves. Nitpickers and the like are often insecure and finding fault boosts them up.
by Sixty B - Commander Topcoat on August 20th, 2009
No... I would feel rejected and unsatisfied with the relationship.
by Beyond Repair on August 20th, 2009
No, I think he/she likes him/herself much better than you. Time to spend your time with someone who sees the best in you :)
by Po etry on May 22nd, 2009
Why would you bother wasting your time on someone that you don't care about. Don't you have better things to do?
by Sparkly B on May 22nd, 2009
Why would you think that if you are continually being criticised.
Run
by Ms.A on May 16th, 2009
No,and they'd like me even less once I throw a pie in their face ;)
by merry1 in a Texican COAT on May 16th, 2009
No, it means they are abusive and domineering, and this is on their GOOD behavior... imagine how terrible they will get in 5 years from now if this is the best they will ever be.
by Anonymous on May 15th, 2009
maybe it means that they like you. but it's not nice when ppl try to change you. they must like u THE WAY U R .:)
by sickofgames on May 15th, 2009
no,i would scrub them out of my existence,because i am what i am
by machinerat on May 15th, 2009
In a strange way, that may be their way of showinf affection... by trying to make you a better person.
by Mrs.Dufresne on May 15th, 2009
No, and if that was the way that they showed their love to others, then they are most likely destined to be
a l o n e...
+5
by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on May 15th, 2009
I would think that they didn't like themselves very much...Would you really want to be a friend of someone who behaves like this?
by DwarfClown on May 15th, 2009
I don't think that is behavior of someone that likes me. What they want is to make themselves feel better by putting you down.
If someone liked me, they'd focus on the positives and not my faults.
by AK First Blitz on May 15th, 2009
No I would know that they do not like me because they are wanting to change everything and I would leave them.
by Go know thyself is THE RED QUEEN on May 15th, 2009
Well..The other side to that... Is dependent upon if the person that is being picked on, provoked the nagging to bring about a predetermined end result, or not.
Some people do that... They act a fool on purpose, in order to get the end result of what they wanted of your nagging them. It's called button pushing... Some people are very cold and calculated like that. Then turn it around and blame the other person taking absolutely no responsability for anything themselves.
My ex did that to me.
But then you just have misguided confused people who nag because they want so badly to believe they are the sh*t and you are not... And as a result, feel that you need to be told on a daily basis. These are usually insecure types and therefore under those circumstances... No, they probably do not like you but want YOU to like them!
I think what you are saying, does apply to children... But they don't know any better so I would use it as a life guide.
by Merfish on May 15th, 2009
No, I do not think they liked you.
They like their own mental image of what they think you should be.
by L. Taylor on November 20th, 2009
If they did it positively and constructively, Yes! But if they are negative with their comments then No.
by Sharona Life is a Tale Told by an Idiot on November 19th, 2009
The important thing to note is if you continue to put up with this behavior, then YOU don't like YOU.
by AnonymousGirl on November 15th, 2009
Nope. I probably also wouldn't have much respect for such a person.
by SoulSearcher on November 15th, 2009
Nope, if they liked you, why would you need to change+5
by SoulFire on November 15th, 2009
No, love is about respecting and loving each other for who you are. A person who is demanding is not kind. I believe love is about freeing each other.
This is love, a poem I wrote for my husband:
Divine Love
With passion and with heart,
Our souls intertwined.
Creating a world between us,
That was stopped in time.
Breaking through the barriers,
We freed each others minds.
Held each other close and,
Created the Divine.
Love SoulFire
by vivere on November 15th, 2009
They may like you, because they think they can use you, or make you over into what they want, but the truth is, you are just another object to them, and they will NEVER be satisfied with you, even if you do change everything to suit them. Find someone else, and start appreciating the way YOU are.
by cold_cut on November 15th, 2009
depends on whos saying it.
by Nutsy_Rail on November 15th, 2009
It means that they are not happy and they don't want to blame themselves for their unhappiness. They justify themselves by blaming the nearest person for their problems so that they don't have to change.
This is all subconscious human thought. They are honestly convinced that the problem is you because they need the problem to be you, and not themselves.
by Universe Of Life on August 22nd, 2009
Sure ... and if they hit you in the face with a baseball bat ... it means they love you too.
by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on August 20th, 2009
I tell my co-worker where he can make improvements so he might attract a female but he never listens to me so I am just wasting my breathe.
by BigDaddyBS on August 20th, 2009
It seems they like you, but want you to be something else. Sometimes that's a better person, sometimes it's not. It's possible that if you do manage to change for them, that they won't like the person you've become.
by Mimi Sweety on May 22nd, 2009
If he gives me a piece of advice that is really helpful I think he does that out of love.
But if he wants me to change only because he likes that I think it's because he is so controlling and he is the type that wants to have the final say.
by Sunshine on May 17th, 2009
I have complained, found fault, demanded the other person change and LOVED the person.
You might not feel like the person likes you very much, but it is more likely that there are problems you need to work out. The fault finding and demanding change are ways of trying to get their needs met. It is not a great way to communicate, but this is what they are trying to do.
by guitar_player2009 on May 16th, 2009
Yeah, I've experienced that, they wanted me to change to be like them. IT WASN'T HAPPENING!!!!
by thatsJustme on May 15th, 2009
no, not the way you are....they may , after u become the way they want u !...do u like them, now that u know the way they are?....they aren't satisfied and sounds as if "never will be"...domination and control....:)
by Alice on November 24th, 2009
Nah these people are giving you excuses and finding reasons why they can not be with you. They are not being sincere to themselves +5
by Arithon on November 24th, 2009
Of course, that's what love is made of! :)
by good2know on November 24th, 2009
if you don't like what you see then don't look if you don't like how we talk to each other then stop talking to me you don't have to change for anyone
by Ms Bag on November 20th, 2009
Definitely not. They should peeve off, find someone who fits their terms and conditions, and leave you in peace.
by Anonymous on November 19th, 2009
Why would I think they likedme if they were constantly pointing out what they didn't like about me???
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Great answer!
by Alice on November 24th, 2009