Follow your heart, and who cares what everyone else thinks. You are your own person, or couple, soon. Do what you want. Just decide what's more important, a best friend or a boyfriend.

Its always nicer to be honest with ur friend about your feelings and intentions.....its dam nasty for her to find out from someone els!!...but hey if u dont care about her feelings then heck go ahead make ur move since ur so convinced that his feeling the same way.......hope ur relationship last or is worth the complication that it already sounds like it is......maybe his the one and u should take the chance.....maybe his not and all u get is pain and the loss of a best friend. u game enough to find out?

My personal rules about this are 1. A friend's Ex iS always and forever off limits. There are so many reasons not to date a friend's ex and so few reasons to do it. 2. Always pick a friend over a boyfriend (or girlfriend if that's your situation). Especially if you're a teenager. I'm not trying to talk down to you but I vaguely remember what being a teenager was like-and trust me, if this girl is a true friend she'll be more important to you than the guy who will probably be history in less than a year.

dang, this is like the exact same problem i'm having right at this very second... i just told my best friend that i would "stop liking" her ex....

Wow, that sucks. It sort of reminds me of my situation in 2007 before I got with my boyfriend, but not exactly. Okay, so there are these 3 guys that were in my situation. I'll call them *Joe, *Jack, and *Bob. All three of them were close friends. I'm pretty sure they still are, actually. I had a huge crush on *Jack. *Joe had a crush on me. *Jack would tell me that he couldn't date me because *Joe liked me. That really bothered me because I didn't care if *Joe liked me. I liked *Jack, not *Joe. As far as I was concerned, I was not *Joe's property. Eventually, I moved on and was interested in one of the other guys I was talking to. I'll call him *George. My interest in *George put an end to the *Jack thing. He was easier to get over, though, because we'd argue a lot and we have extremely different lifestyles. Okay, so here's where the fun part comes in. *Joe invited both *Bob and me to his birthday party. At his birthday party, *Bob and I fell for each other unexpectedly. *Bob and I ended up dating 3 days later. At first *Joe was pissed off. After awhile, he got used to the idea and decided to be happy instead because two of his best friends were in love. In the end, it all worked out. *Joe is now with a girl who truly loves him who he truly loves back. I'm still with *Bob. Yeah, that's my story. *Joe isn't an ex, but this situation reminded me of mine. Moral of the story? Your friend's ex should be able to date whoever he wants. Your friend doesn't own him just because she dated him. That's not fair. Do you know how frustrating that would be for the ex, anyway? What if he truly loves you? What if you two are meant for each other and the only thing standing in the way is the fact that he dated your best friend? Doesn't that seem wrong? Anyway...