ANSWERS: 28
  • No. Children are not our friends or our confidants. We must make our own decisions as to what is right for us. It's hard making decisions about your life but never ask your kids for advice. It sends the wrong message.
  • Maybe not the right, but it is probably better if the parent gives the child some input into the dating thing. Someone not blinded by romance can sometimes see things that the one who is, cannot. Also, parents need to listen to their children if they are voicing concerns over a dating partner's behaviour (if it seems strange or threatening to the child).
  • The right? No. But hopefully the parent and child have a good enough relationship that the parent and child can openly discuss their feelings about anything. But ultimately, the child does not have the 'right' to help decide.
  • not decide, but certainly have an input! i have a say in who my mum dates, coz if i dont like them she wont either, we have that sort of relationship, and the best man she could ever shoose is someone she chooses herself, so i have faith that shes happy! =]
  • not hardly, we cant pick theirs .
  • Depends..on his/her choice!
  • Mmmmm...Not really. I think the only one who can decide is the people whom are dating.
  • It's not right for the child to completely make the decision, no. The child should get a say though, especially if this is someone that could potentially be living in the same home as the child. A lot of children are a good judge of character when it comes to adults. So no, they shouldn't be able to outright choose, but I think their opinion should be taken into consideration.
  • yea, if u love youre kid u shud hear them out
  • Well...there's "dating", and then there's "long-term committed relationship/remarrying". The child has no place dictating terms in the first; but if the first is likely to turn into the second, then the parent definitely needs to consider the child's opinion and interests...
  • No but to an extent - My daughter doesn't want me with anyone EVER so she purposely doesn't like ANYONE I date. She has let me know that I am not to ever get married also (her exact words). I let her know that I am not going to stay single forever. Once she grows up and meets someone she wants to spend her life with where would that leave me? Her selfishness doesn't weigh in on my dating life. She does however have a say if he likes the guy or not. I take into consideration and go from there.
  • your child will always be your child. partners will come and go. to many are not good and being lonely is not good either. an older need to voice his concerns and thoughts. a younger childs need to be treated with respect and compassion by the new patner
  • no however keep in mind u have a child is good they have a good ground between them
  • no i do not, since when does a child ever dicide for a parent??
  • No. They have no concept of responsiblity or compatability, nor should they be involved in adult decisions. They should be kids, and worry about homework and gets to sit shot gun on the way to the store.
  • If you think so try and see what happens
  • No, not the right. But it is wise fro the parents to listen to any reasonable, well thought out feelings a child may have and take it under consideration. It is the parent's decision and being older and more experienced and knowing their own needs better than the child, the child needs to accept whatever the parent chooses.
  • Dating,no. Marry ,yes,to an extent. They may see things you don't know about when your not around. They might not like the way he treats you (yells,calls you names) and they have every right to voice their concerns but the final decision should never be left to them. That gives them way too much power over you.. Then they become the judge and jury for everything else you want to do or wear or eat.
  • No.I think it's the parents responsibility to not inflict their sexuality on their kids.
  • I think a decent parent would be interested in the child's feelings concerning the parent's date. Once that is known, it's up to the parent to decide what would benefit both the parent and the child.
  • I was about to say "no, not at all", when I remembered something rather nasty. This memory means that I believe that the child has the absolute right to be listened to over the reasons why a parent should not date someone. This really applies to mothers with children, though I suppose it can apply the other way around. It is by no means unknown for a man to seek to date the mother in order to abuse a child. It is not the norm. Child abuse is not the norm. But it is not unknown.
  • I don't thin a child has the right to give their opinion on who mom or dad is dating. However I think that the child's feelings should be listened too and respected. Therefore if a child does not like someone the parent is dating I don't think they should have to spend a lot of time with them. Also if a child says that the other person is abusive I would definitly take that seriously.
  • It's not your child's choice but you have to remember that it is still hard for them to see there mom or dad dating someone. And you have to listen and think about what they want and what is best for them just not you. They are your responsibility too.
  • I don't quite understand what you mean by "right", but I think that they should have an input considering they have to hang around who you're dating also.
  • If you are dating, stop. your focus is on the child now. Not involving a man to get to know, then break the childs heart when it doesn't work. Let the child grow and get out of school. Then you will both be ready to involve drama. The child akready has enough to worry about going through life then to judge their parents and their step parents and step siblings. Let the child have a simple life. Children are number 1 if you are not married. your husband is number 1 when you are married.
  • i think if you don't know or think a guy is a good person for your child you shouldn't bring him/her around but if you find someone and he treats you right and ur kids look for signs ask your kid what the guy/girl do for them or to them while you weren't around you'll know if a person is doing or telling your child something good for them or not
  • If a man and a woman are the members of their newly-formed family, they consult each other about the decision to add a member to their family. I see no reason why the same should not apply to children in an already-existing family. I know of families who always discuss it with the children in their household before they take on a new foster child, for instance. This seems fair to me. So, yes. Not a right of veto-power, but their wishes should be taken into consideration. Particularly if the parent in question is a care-giver.
  • My mom was a loser-magnet when I was little. She didn't seem to know what a-holes the guys were that she dated. I was just a kid and I knew they were no good. I wish she would've asked what I thought of them and listened to me, but it just doesn't work that way. Kids are forced to accept the people that their parents date, no matter what kind of scum bags they may be.

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