it means it wasn't in the cards, it's not your destiny, you shouldn't be together, pick any you like.

Whoa, this unquote is unclear.

"it wasn't meant to be" means that it's not meant for you. It has not been yours, it is not yours, and it will never be yours. So move on.

1) I think that you meant: "What does the phrase "it wasn't meant to be mean" mean?" 2) It means: "It was not intended to be cruel". 3) "Verb to mean (third-person singular simple present means, present participle meaning, simple past and past participle meant) 1. (transitive) To convey, signify, or indicate. What does this hieroglyph mean? The sky is red this morning—does that mean we're in for a storm? 2. (transitive) To want or intend to convey. I'm afraid I don't understand what you mean. Say what you mean and mean what you say. 3. (transitive) To intend; to plan on doing. I didn't mean to knock your tooth out. I mean to go to Baddeck this summer. I meant to take the car in for a smog check, but it slipped my mind. 4. (transitive) To have conviction in what one says. Does she really mean what she said to him last night? Say what you mean and mean what you say. 5. (transitive) To have intentions of a some kind. Don't be angry; she meant well. Someone's coming up. He means business. 6. (transitive) To result in; to bring about. One faltering step means certain death. Usage notes In sense 3, this is a catenative verb that takes the to infinitive. See Appendix:English catenative verbs In sense 6, it takes the gerund (-ing)." Source and further information: http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/mean#Verb In "it wasn't meant", meaning number 3 is used, "To intend; to plan on doing." Notice also the usage note. Also: in this answer, as I explain the meaning (in "What does the phrase mean?"), I am using meaning number 1. 4) "Adjective mean (comparative meaner, superlative meanest) 1. Causing or intending to cause intentional harm; bearing ill will towards another; cruel; malicious. Watch out for her, she's mean. I said good morning to her, and she punched me in the nose. 2. Miserly; stingy. He's so mean. I've never seen him spend so much as five pounds on presents for his children. 3. Selfish; acting without consideration of others; unkind. It was mean to steal the girl's piggy bank, but he just had to get uptown and he had no cash of his own. 4. Powerful; fierce; harsh; damaging. It must have been a mean typhoon that levelled this town. 5. Accomplished with great skill; deft; hard to compete with. Your mother can roll a mean cigarette. He hits a mean backhand. 6. Low in quality; inferior. Synonyms (causing or intending to cause intentional harm): cruel, malicious, nasty, spiteful (miserly; stingy): See also Wikisaurus:stingy (acting without consideration of others): selfish, unkind (powerful): damaging, fierce, harsh, strong (accomplished with great skill; deft; hard to compete with): deft, skilful (UK), skillful (US), top-notch (inferior): cheap, grotty (slang), inferior, low-quality, naff (UK slang), rough and ready, shoddy, tacky (informal)" Source and further information: http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/mean#Adjective In "to be mean", probably meaning number 1 (causing or intending to cause intentional harm), or maybe meaning number 3 (acting without consideration of others) could have been used.