My gf asked me if id marry a blind person.i told her it doesnt matter.i also told her its obvious she wouldnt which is pretty messed up.she asked"obvious?"and i said sometimes she cares bout what others think and appearance2much.she got mad.what do u say?
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I am not quite sure what the question is... what do I say to what? I can completely understand why your girlfriend would get mad with you, that isn't something a girlfriend wants to hear from her boyfriend. Our S/Os are supposed to see the good in us, and not judge us on the bad - if they love us they take us for who we are, if they don't like who we are, then they shouldn't be with us. I would be mad if my boyfriend decided for himself that I care too much about appearances. She probably doesn't feel like she does. I wouldn't bring it up again else you will just cause more problems. If you are asking do we think it is messed up that she wouldn't date a blind person, then I don't have an answer, we all want/need different things. All I can say is that I agree with you that it doesn't matter.
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"I also told her it's obvious she wouldn't, which is pretty messed up." I don't think you should have said that. That's a rude comment and not a nice assumption to make about another person, especially when that person is your girlfriend.
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She is stuck on herself and thinks she is above others and gets mad because you do not think as great of her as she does herself. Toss her man and find a good hearted girl to date. You will have more enjoyment in life if you do.
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i don't think you should have spoke for her and tell her that shes petty even if its true.
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I must laugh. Most comments on AB say, 'be honest,' 'let the person know what you are thinking' and yet when you do you are slammed two times. Funny. I have a short question for you. If you think she is this way why are you with her? I really can't comment about your g/f b/c I don't see where she 'said' anything. I see only what you said you think she believes ;)
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You are making a big leap. I agree that it shouldn't matter as a general principle. However, if you want a spouse to rock-climb with you each weekend, it would probably not make sense for you to date a blind person. If you want a spouse to cook you meals every day, then you should not date me. As politically-incorrect as this may be, there are practical reasons not to choose someone to marry. Why do you need to judge and criticize her?
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I say find someone who is more aligned with your way of thinking. But let me ask you this: Is your gf hot? If the answer is "yes," then I would look within...
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I think she was mad because you basically called her shallow! You might not think that she would but she might you didnt even ask her what she thought.
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I think you're a bit out of order for being so curt and saying that to her. Sure, you should be honest with ur partner, but not harsh. If you phrased it that way I'm not surprised she got mad at you. I think you should be glad you have a girl who takes care of herself! There's nothing worse than people who get comfortable in a relationship, and use that as an excuse to 'let go', stop dressing well, using makeup, etc. It's awful! Then again, so it dressing up too OTT... I don't know. You need to strike a happy medium. Apologise for the way you reacted and try not to be so harsh with her in future. Be happy you have a lady who cares about herself!
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I'll keep it simple. Our vision does get in our way of talking and getting to know other people. Some people can acknowledge that, some can't.
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thing is,i said it doesnt matter.meaning whether they were blind or not,im not looking for someone with a perfect body.what if i fell in love with someone and they lost an eye?will i then leave her for something as ridiculous?i didnt mean to make her feel bad i was joking around when i said its messed up,but what she has showed me is that sometimes shes that girl-the girl that only looks at outer appearance.my opinion came from her actions,and i even told her that its just her,what can i do?nothing,i wont attempt change her.i really care about her and we are young...no need to think as far ahead
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