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by Wide Awake @ has closing date woo hoo on April 21st, 2009
Not if she is to remain professional and ethical.
by BeenThereWillShare on April 25th, 2009
You have stepped over the line, both ethically and professionally. I'm sure you know all about "patient transferrence", and you are taking advantage of one of your patients. Since he came to you when he was in a "vulnerable" emotional state it makes it even worse. Who is to know that you wouldn't do this with your other clients? You are an extreme liability for this reason and should withdraw from the profession.
You have also set yourself up for a heavy lawsuit. This person could come back on you. Of course, right now he says it will be "our secret", but if things go wrong you could end up getting sued. He will yell "foul play" if you don't do what he wants. (Are you ready to be controlled?)In other words, he will have the upper hand in a game of "gentleman's blackmail".
When things come out in the courtroom you will have lost your license, your reputation, your career(future jobs), and a lot of money.
Is it worth the risk?
by Marky Mark on May 22nd, 2009
I think it shows a remarkable dedication to "duty". You did say you have no issues with it, you are unattached, he is unattached, you are attracted to him, have a good relationship with him and you obviously are an adult and nobody is being harmed. A true professional is someone who is prepared to go the extra mile....so I can't see any reason why not. In my humble opinion.
by Redhawk on April 22nd, 2009
Unless you are personally attracted to him, and would like to develop an actual and personal relationship with him; and quit seeing him PROFESSIONALLY...I say NO.
There is a difference between a Sex Counselor and a Sex Therapist. One is supposed to TALK about problems, the other might include physically working on problems.
It actually sounds like and occurs to me, that he maybe becoming a wee bit manipulative with you as well....I understand that he may well feel comfortable with you, but that doesn't mean you owe him your body.
And if you decide to become physically sexual with him, from an ethics perspective YOU CAN NOT continue to see him as a patient or accept money from him.
He's paying you to talk about how he feels and what steps he might take to get his social life back on track...not to play Doctor, suck his willy, or give him a hand job...he's already BEEN to one of those professionals...don't put yourself there.
by somewhere Pll loves her dawgy on April 21st, 2009
If she is a registered counsellor it would be illegal and unethical.
Beyond that I'd seriously question her agenda and credibility.
Not to mention the 'professionalism' of your purportedly 'professional' friends who would even consider it an option.
by Anonymous on July 29th, 2009
Personally, I would think for any professional (?) licensed (?) sex counsellor to allow or encourage a client to physically use her to "restore confidence" is a serious violation of established ethics, let alone the laws, rules, etc., under which you operate. You are potentially at risk of losing your professional career.
by james the first on May 15th, 2009
From personal experience, it is not a good idea.
by therapist on May 15th, 2009
totally unprofessional and unethical. Good way to lose her license.
by Wisdom Tooth on May 21st, 2009
Business and pleasure shouldn't mix. You'll have to resolve for yourself the nature of the "relationship" you wish to have with this person. You can't have your cake and eat it too ... At least not in this particular situation.
by Indyla on April 21st, 2009
The patient is a widower of 12 years. After a long period of abstinence he tried paid sex with understandably disastrous results. Hence the counseling.
When I suggested he get into a sexual relationship which I could arrange for him, he was very keen that I should partner him. He says he trusts me completely, and would much rather be dysfunctional with me than with anyone else. Only I, he says, will have the patience, sensitivity and understanding he needs to see him through this phase.
My colleagues are divided in their advice. I have no personal issues on this. I am unattached, and sexually very active and experienced. Moreover, I myself am drawn to this really sweet person, whose confidence I am particularly keen to restore.
The only barrier is the ethics angle. I've made him aware of this, but he strongly suggests I lay it aside. I trust him fully when he says it would remain our secret. I have full confidence in him.
I've never faced such a dilemma before, and didn't expect my feelings as a woman would interfere with my professional work.
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by Indyla on April 21st, 2009