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by Violet on April 14th, 2009
maybe you're dressing or acting like a slut, or leading the guys on. Also, where are you "going out"? Bars? Clubs? That's were where guys go to pick up bar trash. If you want to meet a nice guy, don't go "out" looking for one
by Bigcurt on April 15th, 2009
It depends where you are meeting the guy if you are finding them in bars or clubs most of the guys their are just looking to get laid and not a relationship
by Moongrim on April 15th, 2009
Probably is something you're doing.
Perhaps you need to stop having sex so readily.
For lack of a better term- such is considered to be 'easy'.
And by being easy, that's considered to be all you want.
It's the dudes who continue to show you attention even after you've turned down sex, that you're supposed to be interested in.
by Rocket on April 14th, 2009
One thing I can say for sure is don't sleep with anyone the first time you go out unless all you want is sex. Men want the sex but they just don't respect you as much if you just give it up on the first date. Get to know them a little. My grandmother always used to say "why buy the cow when the milk is free"
by 08Busa on April 14th, 2009
I have done this before, slept with a girl and figured she was to hot for me so I never called her again. Figured she was just having pitty sex.
by starynite on April 19th, 2009
im not religious, so prob would not be a good idea in the long run would probably cuase rows. i said i have done differnt night courses in hobbies im interested in to no avail. same as for shops ect.its been a year and a half since i split with my ex and the only guy i felt i made a connection with since had a girlfriend.
by patpatroney on April 30th, 2010
Maybe you're boring.
by Timjon on April 14th, 2009
It is definitely something you're doing. I would take Violet's advice on this one.
by Jonathan on April 15th, 2009
I always agree with Violet, however there is nothing wrong with meeting people at clubs or bars. If you are out very late however I do agree that generally all a guy is going to want is sex (most gal's as well for that matter). If you go to a better class of place say early evening you can meet some sincere guy's. I do agree with V and Timjon though, do not give yourself up so readily, that is one of the reason's. How are you dressing? Try more serious communication and get to know someone better. Let the guy wait and let a "relationship" develop first! It would also help with the answer to know the age range you are talking about.
by starynite on April 15th, 2009
maybe its trying to attract a mate as you put it for more than just sex tho. i still dont think the term slutty clothes means anything. clothes are clothes. the only way a person is a slut is if they think they are in my oppinion. nothing to do with the close they wear.
by inflatable_ian on March 27th, 2010
i think violet is living in closed minded lala land.....its 2010...wear what u want and have fun but always be safe, i think eventually you will find a guy who will just want to be with you in every way and be loyal and faithfull and fullfilling...but we are hard to find...lol!
how can i tell if i cum or not?
by mznikkibaby1 on November 26th, 2011
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why cant i ever find the one girl like me...? im Bi and looking for my Girl to meet but i always meet ugly fat girls!!
by Lola40 on November 29th, 2011
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would sombody likes to have sex with me as i m smart handsome healthy guy
by Lalit_S on November 5th, 2011
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Ladies if you were at a bar & 2 men were hitting on you, have you ever offered to take them both on? I did you?
by MLT1977 on November 30th, 2011
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my gf, and i work together she said she was sick so didnt go i find out she went to a custome party lastnight,
by Gabriel_Q on October 31st, 2011
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Comments
Wow! Right on Violet! Good advice!
by Timjon on April 14th, 2009
It may sound harsh, but the truth hurts. But I'm glad you agree :)
by Violet on April 14th, 2009
Yes, sometimes the truth does hurt, but needs to be said. :)
by Timjon on April 14th, 2009
what is dressing like a slut? if i go out i dress up. if i wear a slirt doesn't mean i deserve less respect that if i wear jeans
by starynite on April 15th, 2009
you are "putting yourself out there", and dressing in a way, that attracts a certain kind of guy.
Think of it like a bird. They have these colorful feathers, but they only show them off during mating season. The colors attract the mate.
So by wearing slutty clothes, you are "attracting a mate" (it's pure biology, and psychology)
by Violet on April 15th, 2009
dont buy that at all
by starynite on April 15th, 2009
attracting a mate doesn't mean your looking for a one night stand/ and clothes are clothes. clothes cant be slutty
by starynite on April 15th, 2009
"clothes can't be slutty"? that's the dumbest thing I've heard in a LONG time.
by Violet on April 15th, 2009
In my opinion what you put on the outside is what you are saying to the world about what type of person you are, what you are looking for in life. It is kind of like the old saying "you are what you eat" same idea. So how you dress is the person’s first impression of you. If you dress slutty you are going to attract men that are looking for a slut, and they will treat you like a slut. Just give it some thought.
by Rocket on April 15th, 2009
Having been a red blooded male and out to clubs and parties over the years i can honestly say whenever i see a women dressed real slutly like the first thing that comes to my mind is a)she knows she is hot/sexy and is showing off or b) she is definley out to get some male attention (and dont try to tell me that a women wearing a short short skirt and/or wearing a very low cut top is trying to attrach a nice guy or celabrating her feminality cos i dont buy that for a second)
by kiwisoccer on April 15th, 2009
I'm glad we got a man's opinion on this one :)
How are you Kiwi?
by Violet on April 15th, 2009
Hey Kiwi nice to see you... great point....
by Rocket on April 15th, 2009
Kiwi- tell Rocket where you've been, she'll love to hear it
by Violet on April 15th, 2009
Kiwi - Yeah where have you been ???
by Rocket on April 15th, 2009
Violet you mean Today or this last week?
by kiwisoccer on April 15th, 2009
Yeah i have been better my sinuses are blocked up so i have been feeling like someone has been hitting my head with a hammer all day ;)
by kiwisoccer on April 15th, 2009
Kiwi - sorry to hear about your head that sucks... get well soon...
by Rocket on April 15th, 2009
I meant with your new group of friends ; )
by Violet on April 15th, 2009
Cheers rocket so how have you been, keeping out of trouble for once in your life ;)
by kiwisoccer on April 15th, 2009
Lol ah i get you now Violet ;)
She is refering to me joining up to the local BDSM club and going to my first workshop and play party this satuday night which is going to be exciting and a bit nerve racking at first :)
by kiwisoccer on April 15th, 2009
Rocket- I thought you'd like the idea : )
by Violet on April 15th, 2009
ohhhh wowwww..... Fun stuff....WOOT.... you will have to tell us all dirty details.... Do you have a hot outfit for your first night???
by Rocket on April 15th, 2009
Lol yeah dont you worry, you and Violet will be the first ones to get all the juicy gossip on what went on and how red my ass will be in the morning ;)
Mmmmmm i dont have any leather or PVC outfits so i was thinking just jeans and a nice shirt unless you two ladies have any suggestions for me :)
by kiwisoccer on April 15th, 2009
ohhh you need a collar.... I wish I was there we could go shopping... eeeee fun stuff.... They may have one to put on you if you are going to a party...
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http://hellforleather.net/store/images/Spikes%20and%20Skulls%20D-ring%20Collar.jpg
by Rocket on April 15th, 2009
I think office casual is just fine. Nice jeans, button down (doens't have to be long sleeve) and no white sneakers (you don't have to wear black dress shoes, nothing TOO casual:
http://shop.nordstrom.com/C/2380907/0~2376778~2372807~2375671~2380907?origin=FirstImageSnippet&pbo=2372807
by Violet on April 15th, 2009
OH and maybe one of these:
http://male.stockroom.com/Jocks-Thongs-Briefs-C246.aspx
by Violet on April 15th, 2009
or these:
http://www.bondagefetishstore.com/c/mens_clothing.html
by Violet on April 15th, 2009
ahhhh sweet....
How about one of these....
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http://cdn-www.answerbag.com/images/answers/105201/205013/tmb_gag.jpg
by Rocket on April 15th, 2009
Hey V I think we are having more fun then Kiwi is....
by Rocket on April 15th, 2009
LOL
Rocket that collar does look nice i am sure it will send a signal to the femdoms "hey ladies i have been i very naughty boy and need some disapline now" :)
Violet i think i would have to get my bikini line done first before i could wear any of those jock/thongs ;)
Its a pitty you 2 ladies arent here, we could have made it a good day out shopping lol
by kiwisoccer on April 15th, 2009
Hehehe i think you ladies are having more fun then me :)
Rocket that gag looks good but does the ball come in cherry flavour ;)
by kiwisoccer on April 15th, 2009
I'm not too much into BDSM, Rocket's the expert in that.
by Violet on April 15th, 2009
Hey dosent matter V you could still give me clothing advice :)
by kiwisoccer on April 15th, 2009
yes, I sure can! :)
I have to get to bed, I have to get up early for once
by Violet on April 15th, 2009
I thought you two would get a kick out of who was wearing the gag... I don't know if it comes in cherry... I have only used ones that taste like rubber... Maybe you should market that idea...
by Rocket on April 15th, 2009
No worries V have a good sleep :)
by kiwisoccer on April 15th, 2009
Lol worth a shot :)
by kiwisoccer on April 15th, 2009
So rocket do you have any advice for me since it will be my first time?
by kiwisoccer on April 15th, 2009
Well have you done it with anyone before... or done anything like it???
by Rocket on April 16th, 2009
None absolute beginner
by kiwisoccer on April 16th, 2009
Ahhh... you’re a brave soul... just try to keep an open mind... You may decide you are not into the party or group thing and still like to do it with your lover... I personally do not like the party / group thing... I have to be very close to someone that I am giving my body to... But the party you are going to may not be a full blown balls out sex fest or it might be??? I will think good thoughts for you and please do tell us all of the details...
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I have been to a party like that where it was just mingling and making contacts and so called hooking up... That was a cool party...
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Do you have a friend into it? Have they told you anything about this get together???
by Rocket on April 16th, 2009
Yeah you only live once so i thought why not ;)
From what i have heard its not a sex fest but if anyone is up for it then they can go for it
So what happened at that "hooking up" party or does a good lady never tell ;)
Mmmmm as far i know all my mates are very vanilla about it (but i could be wrong)
Ummm theres 2 areas, a play area and a social area, No means No, its up to the 2 people if they want to have sex, there is a Dungen Master in charge of the whole thing and if something is too unsafe they will step in and stop it, i will find out more when i go to the safty meeting
And dont worry on sunday evening i will ask a question on here so you and V can talk to me about it :)
by kiwisoccer on April 16th, 2009
wearing a short skirt does not make you a slut. so what if your showingh off your figure to get noticed. does not mean your ONLY looking for a quick one
by starynite on April 16th, 2009
STARY- no it doesn't MAKE you a slut, it makes you LOOK like a slut. You can show off your figure with jeans, and a not to low cut top, or a classy dress:
http://shop.nordstrom.com/C/6023104/0~2378467~2378483~6023104?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=leftnav&pbo=6012825
http://shop.nordstrom.com/C/2377032/0~2378467~2378483~2377032?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=leftnav&pbo=6023104
by Violet on April 16th, 2009
Yeah have to argee with Violet seeing a chick like the ones in the links she put in, is ssssssssooooooo much hottier and sexier then any short shirt or low top could ever do :) (but thats just me
by kiwisoccer on April 16th, 2009
yea there are some pretty nice dress's in the pics. i do wear dress's tho, and jeanes. but i still seam to attract the wrong guys for what i want. i try to look nice when out, i dont slap on a load of make up or anythin.
by starynite on April 17th, 2009
that's good, you don't want to over do the make up. You can show some leg and some neck/colar bone, but don't over do it.
Where are you going where you're meeting these bad guys?
by Violet on April 17th, 2009
late bars mainly. its a lot harder to meet people in other places (no matter how easy people say it is)
by starynite on April 18th, 2009
in the long run it may be well worth the extra effort! You will reap what you sow.
by Timjon on April 18th, 2009
ok. so you tell me where am i meant to go? i have joined night clases. i work, still dont meet any nice guys.
by starynite on April 18th, 2009
how about hobbies or special interests? Could you attend any activities where you might meet someone with like interests or hobbies? Maybe you could develop or learn some new venture which would increase your available audience. How about attending a church and getting involved with activities or groups there?
by Timjon on April 18th, 2009
This may sound lame, but grocery stores, HARDWARE stores for sure, sports games!
I wouldn't recomend meeting people at church, unless you're into those kind of guys..
by Violet on April 18th, 2009
You're right Violet. YOU certainly wouldn't be into those kind of guys. But you are speaking for yourself and not for the women who would like to find a decent guy who will love them for who they are and not just for their bodies!
by Timjon on April 18th, 2009
I wouldn't be into what kind of guy?
What do you mean by this:
"But you are speaking for yourself and not for the women who would like to find a decent guy who will love them for who they are and not just for their bodies! "
by Violet on April 18th, 2009
I believe the sentence clearly speaks for itself! "I wouldn't recomend meeting people at church, unless you're into those kind of guys clearly shows a disdain for Godly men! God forbid they find, date, and marry someone who would love a woman the way she should be loved and treat a woman the way she should be treated.
by Timjon on April 18th, 2009
I don't think Violet ment anything negitive.. She stated "unless your into those kind os guys" If you are I sure she would be happy for you.
by Rocket on April 18th, 2009
Tim- so just I wouldn't want to meet a man at a church, I don't want "to find a decent guy who will love them for who they are and not just for their bodies"? WOW. That's ignoant.
by Violet on April 18th, 2009
Rocket- yes, that IS what I meant. Thank you
by Violet on April 18th, 2009
Thanks for your comment Rocket
by Timjon on April 18th, 2009