Found my ex's saved msn conversation on my computer about cheating on me, i'm not making any false claims about her, i simply want to email her colleagues this transcript, is that ilegal?

I suspect the readers of the transcript would merely lower their opinions of you and perhaps even find justification in her decision to cheat.

As for the legality, that might come into question if she were to suffer financial loss or even mental distress due to your distribution of the material. She could file a civil suit. She might not get anywhere with it, but you would likely have to retain an attorney in order to answer and defend yourself.

Now, wanna re-think it, drop it and be on your way in life? Good move.

+5

While not technically "illegal" probably, it wreaks of bitterness and rejection. It will make you look pathetic if you do. I'd suggest that you be more grown up and just move on in your life.

I recommend against it for many reasons that do not relate to legality.

She's your EX.

Drop it and let it be, dude. Anything else is nothing but hateful spite and serves no purpose other than demonstrating your a malicious *ss. No amount of pain and suffering is worth sacrificing your personal honor and dignity like that.

Man, that sucks, i feel for you...... I've been through something quite similar myself recently.....but i wouldn't go spreading excessive defamation about her around.... chances are many people have already gossiped about it and most people know already... and drawing extra attention to it will only make you look spiteful..... I know it hurts to think that other people think badly of you about it just because they don't know what actually happened (and possibly they even think less of you) but in the long term their opinions won't matter...... stay strong.... most of the pain eventually goes away....... :)

Probably not illegal, but quite sickening. Karma, my friend.

What exactly do you hope to achieve? So she cheated, she talked about it on MSN and you have this conversation. You tell her colleagues that she cheated on you by emailing them the transcript - and what!? Do you exoect thst she will suffer some great humiliation that will lose her the job or make you feel better?

In legal terms, although viewed badly I am not sure that it is an offence since the material is on your PC but if youthink it is going to make you feel better by making her feel bad, you should think again. What her colleagues will see is a demonstration of someone hurt and bitter about being cheated upon - you will demonstrate you have a vicious, nasty streak and they may well side with her due to your unbelievably vengeful behaviour!

To be sure. . .it's unnecessary. From a "legal" viewpoint, it COULD be defined as "defamation of character". Either way. . .be a "bigger" person by merely "considering the source from whence it comes" and use your time and effort toward more constructive pursuits. Your "ex" is your "ex". Just leave it that way. Have a wonderful day today!

Why?????

I reeeeaaaally think this will give me closure, we were together for 7 years - she even bought a car which belonged to the guy she was cheating with for me- as a christmas present!!!

One way it could be illegal is "copyright infringement." But I agree with the other answers anyway, you don't come out ahead by doing this, and her friends will all say they're GLAD she cheated on you, that you forced her into it by trying to be so controlling.

I know its childish but i need to know where id stand in case of any backlash.

she doesnt know i know yet.

If anybody has expressed doubts about whether she did actually cheat on you, then I would say send them the transcripts. But if you do it just to cause trouble for her, then I think it is likely to backfire.

I wouldn't do it. For legal reasons somewhay but also I'm not a revengeful person. I think that's unhealthy.

Can you post the conversation? I think that would help.

What would be the point in emailing it to her colleagues?
Would it not be better to save the information for the divorce case?
Or to send it to her current partner, so they know what they are letting themselves in for?

what purpose does it serve?