Don't convince, just hold him tight when he gets ready to spooge!

Why do you want a child? For the child, or for you? I have a brother in law with it, and I see how it progresses. You may be able to 'enjoy your pregnancy' but you won't be able to enjoy raising your child. You won't be able to run, to play, to carry that child, if you are at the point of 'getting sick.' I realize you may really want a child, but please, please think of that child over your own wants and desires.

Get pregnant with a guy on your street....

Dont ask him to discuss it, tell him to listen to you! If he loves you he will understand! Im sorry your feeling worse, my daughter just got diagnosed with it too she has surgery next week. Stay well hun

You will probably need a third party, possibly a counselor, to help because men spend an awful lot of time not being ready for children. I don't know how rheumatoid arthritis affects childbirth but is it possible he thinks it would be dangerous for you to give birth?

I hate to say it, but I wouldn't ask him OR discuss it any longer. Your window of opportunity is closing fast!! Just do it any way you can. When he holds that bundle of joy he'll forgive you soon enough. I wouldn't wait one single minute longer, but that's just me.

CORNER HIM. He will not want to talk about it, but you'll have to force him. Tell him you want to have a baby, tell him that you know you're getting sicker, and tell him that you don't think you can wait anymore. Good luck, and I really do hope you get better soon!

Isn't that hereditary? I had a friend years ago with that disease and he and his wife adopted because they didn't want to risk passing it on. Perhaps that is what your fiance is thinking about. Maybe he has doubts about risking putting children into that pain. Maybe if you start by asking what he is thinking and how he is feeling instead of pressuring him to have kids, you'll get further. Maybe he sees how you are suffering and is afraid. Maybe he is afraid that you won't be able to care for a child, or that pregnancy will make you sicker. Asking questions about how he feels might be a better way to get him to open up.

First, why don't you two get married, then attempt to have a child? Sounds like your fiance is dodging the situation for a reason. Could it be he does not want to be stuck with raising a child, if you cannot because of RA? He has his reasons. Try this and maybe he will open up to you: ask him to marry you now. If he refuses, you will then have your answer.

My mom has Rheumatoid Arthritis, and has raised two kids. If a child is something you want then go out there and get it. I understand that you and your fiance need to talk it over, but that should be the only thing stopping you. Don't listen to anything anyone tells you. Having a child it beautiful and amazing. My mom did have a hard time holding us and taking care of us, but that's where help comes in. I am sure their are over a million friends and family members out there to help you out. I don't know the pain that you go through because of it, but I have seen it my whole life. It is tough, but you have to get through it. Try new medicines and don't stop fighting. My mom did it and so can you. My dad never understood the pain, and your fiance might be the same way. I think you should make sure he understands the pain you go through everyday. You and your fiance need to make sure you two are on the same page for kids. Children are life changing, and a big part of life. If he does not want that you should start thinking about your relationship. I also want you to know I understand that a child is about him too. I know that, and that is why you two should discuss this with him. No more messing around you need to show him who is boss. If he loves you he will understand how you feel. Please consider.