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by von-dita on February 14th, 2007

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I cheated on my b/f and told him the day after i did. An now 4 months later and i can't stop thinkin bout how stupid it was and how much i regret it, at 1 stage i wasn't eatin coz i felt so bad! I want to win all his love back so badly!an i dunno wat 2 do

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  • by Wigster78 on February 14th, 2007

    Wigster78

    What you first need to do is ask yourself what you feel bad about. Do you feel bad that you upset this person. Or do you feel guilty because of your own actions. You may be confusing your own desire to make yourself feel better and lose your guilt with a desire to get back together with this person.
    Think about why you feel this way before you consider approaching him again. And be prepared for rejection.

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  • by nevets - badgicide on February 14th, 2007

    nevets - badgicide

    The ball is entirely in his court.

    If you speak to him, maybe he will give you another chance. Take things very slowly, and be ready for the possibility that he doesn't want to go back.

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  • by JadeEzekiel84 on February 14th, 2007

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    THIS ANSWER IS IN REPLY TO HER NEW INFORMATION THAT SHE JUST GAVE....
    Of course he won't, and he probably won't for a while. Just stick it out, and things will eventually either work out or not. Just don't give him any reason to doubt your commitment to him anymore. The most you can do is ask for forgiveness from him, and forgive yourself, and show him that you are in it for the long hall, and won't let him have any doubts about you. You can always gain back trust, that is if the other person is willing to trust you again, and it sounds like he is. It will just take time. Cheating on someone hurts you as well as the person you cheated on. It takes time to heal.

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  • by JadeEzekiel84 on February 14th, 2007

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    I do not know the current situation, but...
    1) If you are still together, sit down and talk with him, and let him know how badly you feel. Ask for his forgiveness. Then you need to forgive yourself for this mistake you made.
    2) If you are not together. Either call him up and ask him to forgive you for your mistake in cheating on him, OR Step one: FORGIVE YOURSELF. Everyone makes mistakes. I honestly think it is a great thing that you feel really bad, that means you know what you did was wrong.
    If you want him back, you need to forgive yourself and learn from that mistake, but ultimately you need to forgive yourself.
    I don't know how you are going to get him back, because I have no idea what situation you are in, so good luck to you, I hope it works out well.
    Just remember, that if he doesn't take you back, he has a reason not too, it will hurt you, but just know, you made a mistake and it won't happen with the next person.

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  • by keithold is a prodigal bagger on February 14th, 2007

    keithold is a prodigal bagger

    G'day Von-dita,

    Thank you for your question.

    Are you still together? If so, I would show him how much you love him and how you regret your moment of folly.

    If you split up and he isn't interested in getting back together, I would try to move on and find another guy while learning the hard lesson.

    Regards

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  • by singwell-is off researching a lot on February 14th, 2007

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    it's been four months, honey. That's a long time. I know it's hard, but chalk it up for experience, and move on. He probably has.

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  • by giapooh on July 17th, 2008

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    Okay, you made a mistake...if he loves you, he'll be back, it may take some time. I'm sure you apologized, let him make the next move. Don't call him, you've done all you can. We all make dumb mistakes, forgive yourself. If he doesn't come back, it was not meant to be!! You'll be ok!

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  • by Client10 on July 4th, 2008

    Client10

    If he is so upset about this incident then he isn;t worth keeping. Drop him.

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  • by von-dita on February 14th, 2007

    von-dita

    we are still together, and we have been for almost 2 years. I have spoken to him about it heaps of times and have asked him if he wants a break. But it just really hurts because i know he doesnt feel the same about me as he used to.

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  • by asairel on February 14th, 2007

    asairel

    letting go is really hard.. and love shouldn't be one sided.. give him a space that he needs and take it slowly.. you did something then you should be ready for the consequences.. crystals can't be like what it is used to when its broken..

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  • by von-dita on February 14th, 2007

    von-dita

    Thank- you so much! your advice was so helpful! i wish you all the best!

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  • by farseer on July 13th, 2011

    farseer

    The trust is broken, you can never truely get it back.

    It's not meant to be as you would never have cheated if so, so just break it off and let him live his life.

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