If a guy says he likes you and wants to go out with you but he has a bad reputation for sleeping around alot, what do you do?
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ANSWERS: 79
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If you are the type of person that finds his "bad reputation" to be disagreeable with you, don't date him. Otherwise, you and I both know what he will expect from you. If that's OK, then go for it!
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in my experience sexual reputation is like credit, even a bad reputation is better than no reputation. I personaly disagree with that mentality, but I am quite unique.
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go out with him and just dont give him any...
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i think i would give him a chance. but be careful, dont sleep with him for a good while. people can change and mature. I have seen fellas that have been awful to some girls then one comes along and he changes for her.
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Do what you wanna do. Just don't regret it. Now, If you are looking for a steady bf, forget it!
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Think. Decide what you want. Maybe even ask what he is expecting. Tell him what you are expecting. Proceed if both are willing to do the same thing. Make sure you have a backup plan if things go awry.
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you make him wear a condom
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My biggest concern would be his cleanliness and health. Cause if he exchanges body fluids with an army of ppl, then I wouldn't feel like dealing with it. Man it not a piece of reusable toilet paper, so he is not supposed to act like one.
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If you decide to go out with him ... don't kid yourself that he will be any different with you. If that's what you want, then go for it. If you don't want to be treated that way ... say "No Thanks" and find someone who will respect you.
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It's your choice. Just make him wear a condom, and be prepared for him to treat you the same way.
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if you want a one night stand, go for it. if you want a man, stay the heck away from that guy. you wont mean anything to him, and i can guarantee you, he tells the others that he likes them too.
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Go for it...unless it bothers you that he won't be true. Also you should be appreciative of the fact that he respected you enough to give fair warning....also if hes gunna sleep around so can you
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You run the other way as fast as possible and look for a guy who will actually look at you as something other than a conquest.
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Don't be suprised if he doesn't ask you for a second date whether you sleep with him on the first or not. It can be very tempting for a woman to think she can be the one to change a man like this only to be disappointed. If you get hurt easily or have low confidence and/or are a sucker for flattery don't bother with him, it sounds like a recipe for disaster to me.
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If you are attracted to him, go out with him. Don't sleep with him for a very long time. If he is just trying to play you, he'll get bored after a little while and move onto easier prey!
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I'd probably ask myself what makes me so different than the other girls. Then I'd decide I probably wasn't. Then I'd reject him.
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keep away and find some one else theres plently of men much better.
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Go jogging together. That should keep him awake.
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Hey try it you might like it.... Use protection however so you don't pick up an STD...
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you should give hima chance...but DONT end up his booty call
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Reputations are not always true. But if you like this guy and want to date him, take things slow.
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Trust your instinct.
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If you sleep with him, you have become him and accept to bear all of his past. If he sleeps around, do you actually think he wants a serious relationship? What happens if you sleep with him and then find a nice guy who learns that you slutted around. What if this one experience tarnishes you for life and no one respects you. If you are willing to risk it, then no problem. Me, myself, have always errored on the side of caution because nothing can ever be taken back.
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You know his game. It is up to you whether or not you want to play.
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You and other kids know about he's reputation. Even if nothing happened, other people are going to think differently and your reputation might suffer. Do you really want to go out with someone that has this bad rap? Don't expect much sympathy if something happens should you go out with him.
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DONT GO THERE.
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Either walk away or prepare to become just another notch on his bedpost!
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Well you do what you think is correct but if he wanna sleep with u , u better not first check does he really likes or he just wanna sleep with u , best of luck :)
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jus 'sleepin around' right???... meanz he aint a 'rapist' off sortz... it meanz the gurlz also were 'wiling'... right???... so it jus iz about 'wht the gurl wantz'... if she(yu) wantz it... 'yu get it'... els... 'NOPE'... PERIOD!!!... peace!!!
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If you like him, you have to trust him. A relationship is nothing without trust. But if he breaks that trust, even once, kick him to the curb! You don't need a cheater!
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Go out with him , but don't have sex with him!!!
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if you do go out with the dude just be cautious. Dont be so eager to want to please him.
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I'd run away.
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I would tell him straight up why I would say no. But then again, I have really bad judgement when it comes to men, so I'd probably end up dating a worse one!
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avoid him like the plague he cud have stds
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be wary, be very wary. have fun and stay safe but don't throw yourself into a situation that could lead to you getting hurt.
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!!! Run Forrest Run !!!
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Sleep with him if you want but if you're not into one night stands or flings, walk away. Depends on what you can handle.
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I would walk away.
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Give him a chance. But use a condom!
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How do you know that the rumors are true? Everyone deserves at least one chance. If you decide to follow the crowd and believe everything you hear without having done your own research you could be missing out on someone really nice. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Think about if the shoe were on the other foot--if someone was spreading nasty rumors about you and you knew they wern't true how would you feel if someone decided not to go out with you because of that? Of course, if it is true that's one thing, but I never blindly believe everything I hear.
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So you are worried about getting hurt. I can tell you that in my past I have been with many different women. I got it out of my system and I was ready to settle down with only one person. I have had many many different opportunities to sleep with some gorgeous women and there would be no way that my s/o would find out and I didn’t do it. So what I am trying to say is that he may have a reputation of sleeping around, but if the right person came along he may be perfectly content. It is up to you on whether you want to take a chance or not.
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You should go out with him if you like him. But maybe not have sex too early. ask him to wait and see how he reacts.
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People can change. Does reputation define everything about a person? Do you even know this guy? Why reject him just because he has a bad repuation? Doesn't he deserve a second chance?
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Look!~at the end of the day a man can really like a girl and not be with them as he feels the timing is not right depending on her situation. In the mean time he will date many others to fill in time until the one he likes becomes available. I have seen guys to the rounds with the hottest girls and then marry a plain jane and be really happy. String them out to see if they are in it for some time and they will either be there or they wont. Then you will have some idea. Relationships are not within our control so you will just have to be happy with whatever descission you have made either way.
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i would do nothing...it's not something i need in my life.
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People repeat past behaviors. If he is like that now, he will probably continue to be like that. If you do decide to go out with him, make sure you use a condom.
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I dated a guy like that, i regret it but he was a good friend
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Run away! But if you feel like taking a risk and most likely getting hurt, give him a chance... Maybe he'll change...
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It would depend what you were looking for. If you want a steady, meaningful relationship, he's not the guy for you. If you want some quick sex and nothing more, he's perfect.
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Wear lots of protection! ;)
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You failed to say if YOU were interested! Just because someone wants to go out with you, despite their reputation, it has to be because you are interested! Now...given he does have a reputation I would just be sure to have a serious talk before things got sexual between you two. Give him a first date before you just go with what others say if you are interested : )
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My advice would be that if this guy has cheated before he is likely going to do it again. If you do go out with him be careful and watch his behavior. After all actions speak louder then words.
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There's nothing wrong with going out with him, but be careful. It could be just be a bad rep, and/or he could be in the process of mending his ways. Learn about him before considering having sex with him. Make him get tested. Definitely wear a condom.
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If he sleeps around a lot he may have STD'S. Why do you think he wants to date you? He wants to add your name to he's collection.
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With that kind of repetation he obviously does not really care about his girl friends. Do not go out with this creep.
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bring a toothbrush :))
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say 'well, you better change that reputation, or you'll get a 'reputation' of being dumped allot'.
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Wouldn't even go there!!
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Give him a chance and keep your guard up.
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be prepared for him to break your heart dont let yourself fall for him. if you want, just have some fun, that'll be whats hes in it for.
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..go out with him..if he really likes u ..he'll change for u ..if he doesnt ..dump him lol..
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If you really like this guy then go out with him but don't think that he's gonna treat you any differently, just for caution take a pepper spray with you.
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You know, honestly I say give him a chance. However, if he constantly brings up having sex or if he asks you "how far have you ever gone with a guy" (or something along those lines), give him the boot!
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if your looking for a commitment, he probably isn't the guy for you. But if your just looking to have fun, why not? But be careful! =]
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I'd be careful. He probably sees you as another potential point on his scoreboard. How interested in this guy are you? +3
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As once said by a popular daytime television Doctor, the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour. So, logically if I were you I would assume that if you date him he'll most likely "sleep around" on you too. Yeah, so, what are you...15? Just forget about him, friends and kitties are better.
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if you know abt hs reputation.. & still you wanna go!! Then remember there are 85% chances that your reputation is also gonna spoil... if you can manage with that then dont worry go ahead!! Bt if behaviour of the society towards you influences your life and happiness then its a warning, FALL BACK... You will regrett a lot, later!! Speaking from experience!!
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dont sleep with him,hangout,talk,just get to know him and if you think hes only trying to get in your pants its then your choice to further some kind of relationship.even if your just friends dont end up in his"oh that was a chick i fucked book.Take your time.ive met plenty of those guys i still hung with them but i didnt sleep with them.unless you want to.
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I would like to give a second thought ,as the person looks like a playboy.
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Just imagining my granddaughter asking this question in a few (it will seem like a few) years, I would say, "Don't give him the time of day." If that does not work, he and I will have a serious talk - I mean VERY serious. One of those two methods WILL work!
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In other words, he IS or WAS a GOOD player! My ex bf was one of these and I did not realise till after we broke up that he was probably using me for sex. So be careful and do not take any crap from him, however if he has already had enough fun and ready to be serious don't let the opportunity slip if you really love him and he loves you back. Make sure he wants U for your beautiful personality and not just your beautiful body. :)
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That's simple. Don't put a chain around his neck. When he sees that you have no plans of holding him down, he'll think you have something up your sleeve in which this will draw him to you more. AS LONG AS YOU DON'T GIVE IT UP!
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say no, if he sleeps around alot hes not going to stop
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Ill go out with him, but I wont kid myself that he would take me seriously!
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i got da sme thng goin on but da dude dat i thnk i lyk smokes weed n isnt a virgin but i try to put dat all behind me u cnt change sme body but a sleeper will always be a sleeper un less hes willn to change nn dat tkes tlkn 2 him bout wat u fel n so on
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i would say hell naw i dont want to date your nasty ass
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I think it not a good idea to go out with somebody who sleeps around. You don't know what kind of diseases he may have. He obviously gets bored with women quick, so I dont think he'd stop with you. Look for a guy who has respect for women
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Dont go out with him because he would probably only want you for sex. Knowing he has a girl, is knowing he can F*** you whenever he wants. And if you wont give it to him, we will keep doing what he does, sleep around with other females. So i would say, forget him. There are other men who are better. You dont know what kind of disease he may have for sleeping around a lot.
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