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by Stillme FBB on April 4th, 2009
Better to not have than to have a bad one!
If a dad isn't around it's his loss, and his choice. You should thank God that a man who could have been your abuser wasn't there to harm you. Instead you have wasted time dreaming of a dad that didn't exist. Sometimes we have to be thankful for what didn't happen. If this jerk doesn't want to be a part of his childs life that's his problem don't make it your childs due to something you think you missed out on.
by Ditto on April 4th, 2009
I also grew up without a father and I also didn't want my children to grow up without one. The result has been a destructive 17 year ordeal in which there have been no winners. Despite my best efforts sometimes I feel they would have been better off if we hadn't continued the marriage. There are worse things than being the child of a single parent.
by Gone on July 17th, 2009
REMEMBER THIS!!!!!!! It is better to have no father then a bad father!! That is what someone told me one time when I was debating whether or not I should leave the father of my children. At the time I wanted SO badly for my boys to have their father so I stayed. The last straw was him calling my 2 yr old son a f@$#ing retard. That was it. I left him and havent seen him since. I dont regret it for a second!!!
by j ninja... on April 4th, 2009
No forget him, bring that baby up with all of the love a Mother could have for her child.
by raindancer on April 4th, 2009
If you have to beg him to be involved, it's not likely he will be a good father. If your child asks when he/she is older, tell him/her that you made a poor choice and that their father was not mature enough to be a real parent to them. Remind him/her that this is not a reflection of him/her or his/her value as a person.
by heartsmile on July 17th, 2009
No, if he doesn't want to be involved then he isn't going to be a good father anyways. You are a strong woman and you don't need him to help you. My advise would be to forget about him entirely and find a real man who will take you as you are. Marry a good man and have him take the father role.
by LindsayJ. on April 4th, 2009
a strong male role model doesnt have to be the babys dad. do u have any guy friends, cousins, brothers etc who could serve as a role model?
by bear on April 4th, 2009
No forget that loser, just focus on meeting a really nice guy the next time. If you do, he will be a good male incluence on your child
by ajanaepoohbaby12 on December 5th, 2009
I think u should not beg your baby's father maybe this your chance to show your child that single parents can be INDEPENDENT as a woman and if you dont have any money and you have a child try to get on section8 or warefare
by Nicola on July 17th, 2009
It's better that your child is without a father then the kind of father that will mess him around. If you beg, then that could push him even more away. I'm sure you can do this without his help.
by Bull wears a COAT of many colours on August 5th, 2009
Nah. He's a jerk. Baby's better off without him.
by - MojoThunder - on August 5th, 2009
Stop and re-read your question ... is that the kind of man you want in your life? much less the kind of man to influence your children???
by fantasy child on August 5th, 2009
I raised my son without a father. He is great, for fathers day he got me a card that said thank you for being both my father and my mother, I cry to this day over that card.. With God all things are possible. good luck if you ever need to talk my email addy is on my profile
by darkhorse311 on August 5th, 2009
i think you sould forget about him and come stay with me...i like kids as i have a son myself he is 19 months old now. i am married and my wife is bisexual and we have talked before about how nice it would be to help someone out in your situation. i was adopted because either one of my parents wanted me so i hate to see any child grow up with out a father...i know it sounds a little weird but im only offering a hand thats all.
by Thriftymaid on August 5th, 2009
I think you are asking the wrong question. Is the baby's father the love of your life and is he who you want to spend the rest of your life with? These are the first questions you must answer. If the answers are yes, then let this man know how you feel about him. If he feels the same for you, then the two of you have a chance of making a life together. If he does not feel this way for you then the two of you must agree on how this child will be supported and grow up knowing both of his parents. I don't think your pregnancy should be why or why not the two of you try to make a go of it. A baby is important of course. But the relationship between husband and wife (or man/woman if not married) has to be self-sustaining regardless of a child or a pregnancy. Raising a child alone is a tremendous burden -- that's just the way it is. On the other hand, your child will be the joy in your life. You are very young, and I assume the baby's father is also, but the two of you have some very adult decisions to make. Decide what you really want and talk to the baby's father. The two of you must be able to be friends if you do not get together as a couple, because you are going to have this wonderful child who will need both of his/her parents in his/her life.
by scotty on August 5th, 2009
alien ate the father ,make sure the kid grows up to hate him and then hope the kid never finds out the truth,if you have never told the father
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Comments
I like that. Very nice, Stillme.
by Ditto on April 4th, 2009
Thank you Ditto, some people get tunnel vision and can't see what's outside till it's to late.:)
by Stillme FBB on April 4th, 2009
I had my first child by someone that wasn't ready to grow up! I was asingle mom and only 20. He was a friend and after a drunk filled night i was pregnant. My daughter went for 2 years without a father figure. She now has a father, a good father that looks at her as his own. If i was you , I would live your life with YOUR precious baby. If you wait someone better than him will come along.
by sb_m0mmy on April 4th, 2009
That brought a tear to my eye :-( Very well put and very true
by Gone on July 17th, 2009
Dad is a precious name, only for those that deserve it!:):)
by Stillme FBB on July 21st, 2009
That's EXACTLY what I told the "sperm donor". A "father" has nothing to do with genetics :-)
by Gone on July 21st, 2009
AMEN!
by Stillme FBB on July 21st, 2009
i like the sperm donor (that's what i used to say). The sad thing is that when my daughter was born she looked just like her dad. As soon as i delivered, i told my sister to go see who she looked like (his entire family looks exactly alike). She came back and said she looked just like her dad, I cried! Hard! Now, she has done a 360d and looks just like me. Dumbass! Thanks for the comment Tila!
by sb_m0mmy on July 26th, 2009
Oh yeah, i'm pregnant again but this time it's with the REAL father of my daughter not a scumbag
by sb_m0mmy on July 26th, 2009
Congrats!!! For the baby and the non-scumbag! ;-)
by Gone on July 27th, 2009
thanks! Mistakes happen but you have to live and learn and grow-up!
by sb_m0mmy on July 30th, 2009