Why do you want to break up? Is there someone new in your life? Is the relationship lacking something? If so, remember the grass isn't always greener on the other side.. Not to mention, why would you want to bail out of a ship that, although it may be slowly sinking, can be repaired and sailing open seas again? (with a little work) Other than that, if you just simply want out, be honest and sincere. Don't let it become an argument, and don't point fingers. Just tell her your reasoning, and tell her it's just how it has to be. (Now that doesn't mean, "Look, the Holidays were a little generous to your hips and thighs, and I'm on a diet,... So I gotta Jet." ) I'd say, first, try and fix the situation, and talk to her about it before you give up.

Well, again, assuming that it's simply because it is for the right reasons that you 'want out', all you can do is sit down with her and tell her how you feel. BUT- don't let it come out in any type of argument, don't say "It's just me, it's not you." and don't say it's her fault. (Those are all dead-end answers, asking for an argument.) Without knowing more about the situation, I'm not sure what else to tell you, other than be honest and keep it clean.

That's a toughie. If you want out, you want out. Theother answers are certainly good. Tell her how you feel in a non-combative way, don't get hung up on the little things, and don't lose your cool. Don't tell her you hate the way she leaves the cap off the toothpaste tube and you just can't take it anymore, for example. Keep it general and focus on the really important points of why you feel it's time to end the relationship. Breaking up may be the easiest part. Since you all live together, hopefully you can both be mature about parting ways without torching each others clothes or other such silly things in the process. Present her with a plan and ask for her input so she doesn't feel helpless. When my husband and I separated we sat down and worked out a separation plan which stated who got what and when the move out date was to be. We had to decide who was going to stay in the residence and who was leaving. His parents lived right across the street and had a huge house and he was fair about it and allowed me to maintain the house. Be reasonable, if it is easier for one of you to move out and less of a hardship don't get territorial. The bottom line is, come up with a plan you both agree on and (VERY IMPORTANT) sign and date it with witnesses of possible. Offer to help her pack and/or move as best you can if she ends up leaving. You all have spent 4 years together afterall. Be a gentleman and that will go a long way in avoiding things becoming nasty. If it doesn't, you can walk away knowing you acted appropriately as little solace as that may provide at the time it will count later. Good luck and I hope this helped.

After the sit down and the tactful explanation of how you feel you've done everything you can think of and just are not happy in the relationship... set a date with her on when she needs to move out. Tell her it needs to be soon (30 days or less) after the talk because you don't want things to become nasty. If you don't set a quick move out date things will probably get nasty just because of the women scorned syndrome. Good luck!

man im going through the same exact thing, only weve only been together a year so this isnt as bad. the only problem is, she has nowhere else to go and i have to make her head to her mothers place i guess ? dont know ... either way man wehn its enough, its enough. my gf destroyed my self respect and talks to me like im garbage, so trust me when i say you can only take so much. assuming that 4 years of non-ambition has really gotten to you that badly, as badly as one year of it ahs gotten to me ;) then i would do waht you have to do. you have lots of life ahead of you im sure so do what you have to and get your life back ! i will be doing the same tomorrow morning, oddly enough :(

every break up is nasty. bite down tell her that it's not working and start deviding stuff up. try not to get nasty yourself you can't take that back.

this is going to be very hard if she thinks everything is fine, be prepared for tears and questions why. make sure you are really sure about what you are doing because if you are not you both could end up getting hurt. if you are sure the best thing to do is be honest with her and tell her honestly why you have decided to call it quits. just remember if she goes and finds someone else there may be no turning back, make sure you are doing the right thing first

Hey man, I am going through the same thing. I just had a heart to heart with my fiance last night about things that need to change around the house if we are going to stay together.Needless to say things didn't go well. She pointed the finger at me and got defensive. I was only asking her to help me out more with expenses (rent) etc. She felt like I was getting greedy even though she only gives me a couple hundred a month which isn't even 10% of my mortgage. Women can be so evil so be careful!!

I have been with my "boyfriend" for over three years now but i have never been in love with him, i was just "comfortable" with him. I have thought about breaking up with him for a long time now & i am determined to live 2008 without him. I am just going to stay cool and avoid conflict then sit down with him & tell him I have made this descion. Just stay cool, sit down, look him or her in the eye & expect that yes there probably will be some sort of emotion reaction. Also remember to be clear with what u are saying because if they detect any hesitation in your voice they may tr to sway your decision. Also work out a support net work because it is true in order to leave something u need sothing else to go to: meaning friends & Family, new hobbies etc..GOOD LUCK im breaking it off for sure look out world! LOL :)

If your with someone for 4 years, then you both are attached for some reason. Don't be mean to each other, and I'm surprised she doesn't think anything is wrong? If you've spoken before about "issues" then they were eitheir solved or not solved. If its not working out, request a break up,in the kind words of "time for yourself." Don't point fingers, just say your not sure if this relationship is headed anywhere...and you need time away from each other to figure things out. I'd be firm but kind to her... just to help get her out wo her being mental or vengeful.

Just tell her u think it is time for you to go your separate ways

Honestly... That's all you can do. People change. Feelings change. Things fall apart and there's nothing anyone can do about it. Don't give her bullshit lines, because most likely she'll see through them and it will only make things worse. If you be honest with her, she really has no reason to be upset with you... She will be, but eventually she'll realize it's for the best and that you were only following your heart. It's worse to pretend a relationship is perfectly ok for weeks or months or even years, and then end it. It only makes things worse. I wish you and your girlfriend the best.

my boyfriend of 3 yrs. just broke up with me and i didnt think that he ever would. i took it really hard and i couldnt eat or sleep but its only been 2 wks. and im better b/c i know that he still loves me but we cant be "together" in a relationship. make sure she knows that you'll be there to help her cope b/c u obviously still care.

Honestly you can't if she wants to make it nasty. Just tell her that you need to find different people, that you don't think it's going to work out. Don't compromise, just make it clear a relationship between the two of you is impossible.

you are such a punk! you better be honest 100% how could you let her think that there wasnt anything wrong i think guys likd yu are two faced...i mean isnt easier to tell the truth when somethings wrong rather then surprise her cuz she thinks that everything is okay....why did you do this? have you thought of any other options? do you not love her n-e-more? will you regret your choice?

WHY ISNT SHE WORTH IT TO YOU TO WORK THINGS OUT? IS THERE SOMEONE ELSE?

Look dude just tell her how u feel about her and if she really loves you she will understand .. But if she said anything negative about ur relationship .. FUCK HER!

Honesty is the best policy. Sit down and tell her the truth.