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  • Yes. Wait until you are mature enough to fully understand all of what you are proposing. Who will take care of the child? Where is the money going to come from? If you go to work, who will watch the child? How much do you know about raising a child? Have you taken child care and CPR classes? Until you can answer all of these and dozens more questions, put off your indulgent self-gratification, and think of the life of the child.
  • Volunteer at a Day Care. Free children to interact with, without the stretch marks. Babies shouldn't have babies. Period I've changed my mind, in your case get knocked up and become another skanky welfare mother. My tax dollars at work.
  • Wait! There are many things that I "want", but wanting isn't something is always a good reason to obtain it. If you wait, you will be glad you did.
  • Adopt one!!
  • Reread wide awake phoenix's answer. What career are you already in to be self-sufficient? Welfare is a poor choice, or burdening anyone else for that matter. If you want a child, great. Get everything set up in your life so you can raise one. Remember you can not return a child like a skirt. This is a lifelong commitment that you are definitely not ready for at 17, 18, or even 19. If you happen to be wealthy for some reason, good for you. Then work at a day care center and learn how to riase children and take a parenting class to learn how to raise children. They don't come with instructions and you just can't pretend to be a good parent. I have seen many screwed up kids because of poor parents.
  • If you did, you would regret doing it at this age. Wait until youre in a long term relationship and had achieved your other life goals. A baby WILL alter your world and WILL take up all your time. You will have to give up your social life...I know at 17, I wouldn't have been able to do that.
  • Do some baby sitting until your about 25.
  • Get one of those dolls from planned parent hood and take care of it for a week and then see if you still want a child. Or do you just want to live on welfare all your life. And you know guys do not want girls that already have kids. And what are you going to do when you want to do something, but can't because of the baby being in the way. Work as hard towards education and employment and think about a child after you have those. Tax payers should not have to support you and a child or pay for you to have a child. You asked for advice and these are my thoughts of honesty.
  • If you know of someone with a newborn, ask if you can be with them 24/7 for a while. I guarantee that you won't be able to handle it. It takes a very mature person to cope with having a baby, it's a life long commitment. It will change your life FOREVER. It's not a game, you can't press the "reset" button and have your own youth back. You will miss out on so much. You need to think of the baby's future, please wait. There are just far too many abused, abandoned, unloved, uncared for children. If you truly "love kids" then I hope and pray that your love will help you to realize that you will be a much better parent as you mature.
  • hang on till you are 18 ......then lets hook up what say?.........(just kidding)......try babysitting thats a practical solution.......believe me babies are a headache.....especially when the poop all the time and you have to clean it up.......and when they get sick then then its hell (besides the constant fear that u might loose them).......think about it
  • i am not going to tell you that you are wrong or say its bad but have you really thoght out your ramifications to this are you thinking long term such as the others stated the support structure for a family must be there first you are not even married so what would you do if your bf left you to take care of the child on your own i say wait he is the first male i ever heard of that is smart about this.
  • Wonderful for you. However, I suggest you explore your options a bit before you get pregnant and have a baby. You will have a lot of responsibility which many women lots older than you fail to fulfill. Maybe you can find part time work at a child care center, etc. to learn more about children and their specific needs. Please consider the following: 1. Financial support of yourself and the child. 2. Bringing a male role model and help into your life for the baby and yourself. A Husband, a permanent special male, etc. 3. Emotional and physical support for the child. (Are you ready for this???). 4. How would your family react to you having a baby at this time in your life? Their full support and help would be a really good thing. 5. I would suggest you wait a couple of years to mature a bit more and get an education first. Thank you for listening.
  • Keep that boyfriend.
  • A baby is not a doll. It takes alot of time and money to raise a kid. You're only 17. If you work, who's going to tke care of the kid. If you stay home to raise the kid, where's the money coming from? I read a few years ago, it takes $200,000 to raise a kid thruogh college. Probably much more now.
  • Do not rush into it. give it a few years yet. no reason to rush it. I ma sure you will be a great mother.
  • Iam 21 and need one babay too.But my gf really dont wanna get disfigured.both of us have the same feelings.Lets try on together.
  • Hey, your boyfriend realises that having kids means that your life will change permanently forever. He is not ready yet for the hard work and support that raising a baby requires. It would be a good idea to wait a few years, work and save up some money so that you can provide a better life for your child when you do have one. In the meantime, as you love kids so much, you should consider a career or work in childcare or nursery nursing or another profession that will enable you to work with children and learn childcare skills.
  • You have many years left before you will be too old to have a baby....use some of these years to experience life and determine who you are before becoming responsible for a child's life! I have known many women that have had children at a young ag. When the "children" finally grow up and move out, the woman ends up feeling lonely because they have lived THEIR entire adult life solely for the children. Now they have no idea who they are themselves. How can a woman nurture a child, teach them to enjoy life, to think for themselves, to maintain their independence and individuality when the mother has not already done all these things herself? I am curious, what are your favorite hobbies? Do you have siblings that you helped your mother raise, through the diaper stage and into their teen-age years? One example: How will you teach your children to treat alcohol responsibly, when you are not even old enough to drink legally, and therefore, know whether you are capable of treating alcohol responsibly? Will you be able to provide you child with tutoring when they begin to read, write and spell? I hope that you remember to teach them to capitalize the word "I" when writing this word in a sentence>
  • In life there is a time and a season for every activity. At 17 you are just too young to think of motherhood which is a very heavy responsibility. It is good to love kids but you are just too young to rush into something you are not ready and not prepared for.
  • There is a big difference between loving kids and being ready for a baby. Children are NOT a posession. You can't just go out and get one and/or return it if you change your mind. I had my first child at the age of 21, and even then, even though I was married, it was a shock. I have always loved children and even worked in 2-3 daycares but nothing can truly prepare you for motherhood and all it's demands. Live your life. Go to college. Get a great job. Travel. Date. Do all the things you want to do in life. That way when you finally DO have a child you will not have any regrets. Babies are 24/7 365 days per year WORK and responsibility. What if your child has special medical needs ? Are you prepared for that ? What about financially ? Can you stay awake multiple times per night for feedings, get up, get to a job, find a good caregiver, buy clothes and diapers, pay for doctor's visits,medication, etc ? Do you have really good medical insurance ? Did you know that once you are a mother your heart will walk outside your body ? That you will constantly worry about your sweet kids and think of them constantly ? Yes, they bring joy and each life is a miracle. I love my kids to the end of the earth, no doubt. They are work though, and they are for-ever. Not just the baby phase. What about the terrible twos ? The 5 year old who goes off to school and is out during the summer ? Can you find a sitter for them ? What about the 8 year old who gets bullied and you need to be able to emotionally support them ? The 15 year old who wants their first car ? Can you afford it + insurance ? If you are 17 now, you will only be 30 something then . I think your boyfriend is right. There is a time for children. It's great that you love them and want them in the future. Just hold off for now ! He is telling you he's not ready. Don't ever push a man into having kids, he will be resentful.
  • You should have fun first. Do all the things you won't be able to do with a child in tow. You will regret it if you don't. Oh and we don't want you to be another one of those mom's who relies on the Government for money bc that's OUR money. We work hard and it shouldn't go to someone who is being irrisponsible. So think about getting a good job or building a career first. Wouldn't you want your child to be proud of you? Think about this and all the other answers you got. We aren't just pulling them out of our asses ya know.
  • If you love kids, then become a day care worker. Once you have a lot of years of work under your belt, ton of money saved in your bank, a home that you own, and are married, then go have kids. If you don't meet just one of those requirements, then you need to wait a while and work hard before you do have children.
  • Wait until you are older, what fun would it be to spend your 21st birthday party cleaning up poop, vomit, and doing laundry while your friends are out partying and having a good time? Enjoy the celebration life first then have kids third after you are married second. Otherwise you'll be doing things out of order and creating chaos in the process.
  • Im seventeen too, and from my opinion, you should wait awhile. Figure out what you wanna do with your life, and party too, cause once you have a kid, your life is commited to them fo 18 years.
  • I think you should at least wait until you finish you're education, maybe go to college, but its still better to find a husband before you have a baby.
  • you have the rest of your life in front of you. Theres plenty of time for parenthood. Get your education cause you never know when you will need to fall back on it should you fall on hard times. Also, you and your bf are not mature enough to understand the implications of having a child mean. I dont blame your bf for saying no. If I was him, I'd say no too.
  • Are you out of your mind? If you have a kid now your young adult life will be over as you know it. Plus your still a kid yourself. You have no idea what its takes to be a mother and your probably going to be a single mother cause no guy your age is gonna have what it takes to be a father financially and emotionally. If that doesnt convince you than just think of all the stretch marks that come with being a mother. Are you ready to alter your body for the rest of your life? Think about that.
  • You don't sound like you are ready to be a mother at all based on the words you chose.
  • You don't even know who you are yet.I'm 30 and I'm just finding out who I am. Come babysit my kids for a while and you will change your mind.Just wait!!!
  • I think it is natural for teenagers to want children, but the reality is you may not be able to cope with them at your age.
  • I don't expect you will care much but I'm going to tell you the same thing I've been telling my daughters. You have a very long life ahead of you. Get your education and carreer going, travel some and wait a little while until you've experienced life some before you make a jump like that. You will regret not having lived life a little before taking that leap.
  • My advice is to listen to your boyfriend. Though he may be saying no for different reasons, he's still right. You're not ready for children. It's normal at your age to start feeling that way, I did too. Physically, you're probably ready to have children. But financially and most likely emotionally, you're not.
  • Be patient. Instead I advice you to get married first. Have a happy day.
  • Just wait until you find the man you want to spend the rest of you life with and then start a family it will be easier....take it from a single mother who had her son at your age....I don't regret it at all but I also would have never tried to have a baby at that age it just happened.....his father has never been around...and never helped out financially. I went to college, worked and took care of my baby all at once.....it is not as simple as you think.
  • He has a point. You are hurrying too much. Take some time. Wait till you are in your twenties(22 probably the age at which your development completes) at least which is the perfect age for child bearing biologically/scientifically. This is prevent so many possible implications and will also help you be a good mother... Also, am assuming your bf must also be young. This wish of yours may put both of you and your parents on a huge financial pain. So, take some more time. It's too early. Btw, you are lucky to have a bf who thinks twice and yeah the correct way.
  • "You can't get rid of poverty by giving people money."
  • I remember when I was 17 years old. (I'm 18.) I remember wanting to have a baby too. (I didn't get pregnant.) Don't get pregnant. Do you know how much it costs to feed and nourish a baby? It's not cheap. You pay for diapers, strollers, cribs, forumla, insurance, bottles, clothes, baby food, blankets, toys, daycare etc. Do you really have enough money to support a child? Do you have the time to support a child 24/7, 365 days per year? You have to go through crying, screaming, feeding, changing diapers, etc. while trying to do your job. My advice to you is Do Not Get Pregnant.
  • yes, just wait, youre too young for a baby, in the meantime just do some babysitting

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